Why her murmuring annoying me?

Even the very trivial compliant such as " if I am not complaining about your absent from home..." Create a big noise in my head , I mean she meant it ... 

How to handle it ? The better way is select in telling her what I am doing and how I did it , not to post any feeing or invite her to any comments , as it is a routine develop for years , I need to revise it and make my life easier now .

If she really need me, there must be ways she can let me know , if I act more and take initiative each time , I am losing the ground to balance myself . 

Be the pitcher not catcher , select and keep something with you - you have your own way to solve , not necessarily to share everything , the worst scenario is : she give you a bias opinion and you suffers .... 

Learn after and after learning ...