Do it simply

If Tina can't be there , I should skip myself , what's important is important ..
let ed contact with Jerry is Things need to escalate , then see how it goes .


Roger

H in hide pressure

1. Professional caught in between with key stakeholders: B + M
2. Personally divorce is processing through lawyer now ...
3. I told him we ( Meiling) can take care of his daughter if needed.
4. Slightly sad but refocus on business to resolved it
5. M is not good but how can ...
6. Friend dope .. be very careful
7. S : body with depress and weak ..
8. Farther further far away
9. Too many social dinner ...
10. Ride or run - inspired from the social dinner
11. Daniel and Hi Fi to release tension and pressure .

Roger

J today

1. How people hijacking you :
-- no one can see his / her blind spot
-- we don't know how to give an appropriate feedback
-- let Feeling ( reflect) than Fact ( rephrase) drive the way .
2. If you want to be objective, 3 dimension needs : He and She can be 2 subjective Party , you bring both of them to the middle and create the 3rd view : objective.
3. If you wish to deliver appropriate message, find an appropriate place and create appropriate environment.
4. Think it over : what's your add on value or burden ?
5. No expectation is to explore possibilities rather than aim for opportunities.
6. Who's the shadow dancer in your organization?
7. Treat human beings as human beings
8. No matter how light you are , no one can lifting himself.
9. 3 lines for financial section defense :
- first line details operation ( on )
- compliance & risk governance ( before )
- auditing ( after )
10. What's your message imply ?


Roger

Walking Book library

It's 3rd floor on walking book : 4 hours for 200 NT with 140 drink deduction : quote and nice . Not too many people and no allow taking pictures
I did my telecoaching there


Roger

Message Karl last night and see you toning

No plan and not meant to meet but ..it's a ____ world.


Roger

Matthew

1. Who trigger the " we don't share in both way " and who take the initiative saying " break up " ? I am quote Alain De Bolton's " the course of love " to Matthew .
2. Jackie & Alex might be good fit for Linda's charity
3. David Dao : no preparation and not concern due to no one give you feed back and let you aware about your blind spot
4. Floating mediation : somewhere in taiwan
5. Movie : captain fantastic
6. Block week in April for Matthew road show .
7. I complete the mental toughness at da tong village and space cycle Managment team have a " left behind " feeling.
8. MUME : nice food


Roger

New York and Linda

1. Fund raising Charity at mandarin Oriental New York
2. Visit TED HQ with. Columbia and Miss Universal China
3. United Nation Chian sector
Other :
1. 70 investment project in the States
2. Invite in Noah and I Noah Tan : education
3. Knows Grammy better


Roger

Linda Linda

You are so talkable not talkative , you are too smart to be targeted as a serious competitor . I am blessed to learn from you and please do more good :
1. Eduction sector
2. Health care sector


Roger

What I finish Earlier

1. C + C coaching agreement
2. Morning TED walk
3. Print YEN to prepare


Roger

Lights between Ocean

"Danish Girl" actress and" Lobster" actress build the dramatic tension in this great movie .
It's like a Harvard ethic class or world famous debating : if you act as judge and to consider each parties situation , what will you do ? If you put on their shoes , what will you do differently or similarly?
I enjoy it and I am thinking hard about the question to me also .




Roger

Li Yung

When enroll to Medical Schools, she pay her appreciation visit to Mr. Chen - our respective senior at JHS . Chen neither happy for her nor excite about the good news but to told her :
" now you will become a doctor , remember to help those who less fortunate than us "
This is the Turing Point and a tattoo in her heart to keep her high spirit in performing good - as a passion , as a way and never fear or regrets .


Roger

BFG

Big Friendly Giant: by Steven Speirberg . A fairytale to satisfy director himself ...


Roger

S : thanks for honesty with me

1. Try this and that , finally I will get what I want .
2. I found someone misleading others by using my name .
3. There will be some family change such as Derek study aboard , but it won't be life changing ..
4. S learn to deal with his emotion better
5. J still trying to impress me by telling me he is doing so many


Roger

Ice Breaker

Tagline and Catchphrase: sometimes it kills relationship:
1. How to resolve anger with significance others? One Action
2. How to conduct issues clearance ? Feeling and fact
3. How to perform an appropriate Feed Back : 3 domains



Roger

My understanding of deliverable from Forum

FORUM Deliver :
1. Structure Conversation
2. Meaningful Dialogue
3. Effective Communication
4. Authentic Friendship
5. Searching Inside Yourself
6. Better Oneself

MODERATOR Attribution:

Peer Leader : Lead from behind and Lead beside
- you demonstrate ( open + trust )
- you influence ( genuine)
- you share only experience ( no critical )
- you connect not react ( empathy)
- you give your trust before everyone ( take risk )


Roger

Tip to Thien's driver

Son : happily accepted with no hesitation.
Van : smile reluctant but accept finally
They must talk before and some friend tip some don't .
How much is appropriate? Do they compare ? How you show your appreciation but not the bossy attitude? It's all EQ


Roger

Learn more about the good and can be better

Behavior check is the key , not by how good she or he express and communicate.
C + C factory Vietnam


Roger

Deep Dive with C this morning

It's a quality 4 hours and we commit to engaging the in coaching program -- deep dive : if go deep you dive ...


Roger

位置:Đường Nguyễn Văn Trỗi,胡志明市,越南

Conflict resolved in one hours

One Action taught us - don't let the confrontation between the one you love sleep for more than 24 hours , so once I done my " relief reflection blog " I talk to her and ask her " apology " when open our conversation.

Cliche kills once it become a habit : for those who aware . It will comes to a time they can't stand it anymore . To the new acquaintance: you just don't have second chance to man your first impression.

So - honestly and skillful feedback is so so important .. starts from your feeling ( private domain ) then the fact ( public domain ) but never to intrude others feelings ( their private domain ) on your blind spot ( the third window - or more precisely the mirror) you either received feedback or develop self - discovery skill.

She promise me she won't absent minded use " divorce " as cliche anymore -- it's so fragile to a 30 years marriage couple .

It takes year to understand, to learn and lifetime to practice ..
I am still learning.

Roger

I am upset

Even though I had a linguist graffiti that end with " why you want to learn ? Study this " since you are my wife , you know clearly that is my cliche, I don't mean to put off your passion in learning .
Why but why come up with " let's divorce ? " say it so easily ? Don't you get the lesson I shared and stories I told ? And you repeat others mistake ?
Now you have better confidence in your appearance and achieve what you want - you know I am not happy about people change her nature figure but to care and support you , I alter my value so many times and now this is what coming to me ?
I hang up the line immediately by telling you " I am not in the mood to talk " you better think it over -- I can be stranger too ..

I am upset now: 7:30 am in Saigon .. and the stomach not feeling well again .


Roger

S case

Married for 12 years , 10 years old daughter, quarrel and fighting developing distance , no intimacy for 3 years . Spouse raise divorce proposal many times , now S can't stand the suffering : can't eat , less sleep , don't want to go home , impact on work and company , so he send a divorce letter this time
1. There is not love , care still
2. End of marriage is not the end of the world
3. Give you anything

How to make a peaceful divorce : to me it's only in the stage of sending " letter of intention " not yet in legal process ..

Find her a marriage counselor at Singapore and both of you see the professional.
Ask if she trust roger and having roger be the counselor

Call me anytime and drop me whatsapp..



Roger

Stomachache

It's been years I didn't encounter with stomachache, but the trip to HCM city bring me this unease symphony. I don't know it cause by my overdose for cold medicine, eating something wrong or too exhausted?
Today I have a full 8 hours session , I have to look after my physical condition now ..
Should I call anyone bring me some stomach relief pill ? Jenny maybe ... a single mom who works independently.

BTW , I have no idea I am staying at a Casio hotel - a jv hotel win the best location - next to Saigon opera house .


Roger

Corruption

From G : it's seems to everybody corruption is the necessary evil for doing business in Vietnam.. how to walk around it ?


Roger

S. L

This is really a surprise to me : stress from family and cause by your wife . Now she is with cancer and you tell her you won't to divorce simply because you can't find a meaning to live together...
your personality impact on biz and bring the attention from your parent -- how can it be
We will spend more time tomorrow night , it's a two way street ..


Roger

3 + 1 forum fundamental learning

1. Money can be disposable, friendship not , don't risk your friendship with business
2. Open is not a technical - without trust you can't pretend it .


Roger

Caravelle doorman

First he greet - with a smile
15 minutes later : he asked if I should wait inside as it's hot outside
30 minutes later : he said I've been waiting too long and ask me to call my friend in case he forgot.
Then I call and Calvin told me driver is waiting -- thanks to the doorman and what a communication break down ..


Roger

Vietnam Life

It's more vital than Taiwan. Even though I am kind of develop allergy due to change of weather between Taiwan and Saigon , on the ground and in the air .
Phong is a must and Vietnamese coffee stir me up - I need it before continue improve my material for following 2 days .


Roger

3 times to Saigon in a month

Caravelle is the hotel they put me this time. I almost mistaken it as Le Maridien still both driver and reception speak mandarin , driver told me his sister married a Taiwanese who live in Lu Kong Chung Hwa but divorced .
Receptionist ask if she can take my car back to hotel. Of course .. Share the car no hurt at all ...
I shall pick up my exercise when return to a Taipei and meditation regularly every moment .


Roger

A introspective

I am trigger by the " blockade " warning sign before any Railway Intersection: in my young days living in southern Taiwan:
STOP : stuck , danger , cross road
LISTEN : sound surrounding and your calling inside : echo ? Vibration ? Resonate; Ripple and whispering
LOOK: you observe with your curiosity to others and to oneself .

" in and out " triumph " in between "


Roger

Royce monthly

Changes I see in Royce : and the new thing
- Dec inventory for 4 heads ( 3 goods 2 to be improved)
- Diana : I don't do new year resolutions or I don't wait until New Years to do it .
- check the big family office , small family office and all related investment not in my radar before
- Best of the Best , first in Asia
- Make A Zone proud : ipevo / Xing and foundation co works
- mother speaks to Panasonic Dec. 21
- Soft power is a good foreign relationship building


Roger

S session

What I learn from Stiven :
1. About the fintech in crunch .....
2. Empathy and sympathy for Vincent
3. London learning
4. We Work is community not a share office idea : HSBC rent 500 units for non culture fit talent


Roger

D / S session

D : sleep late /
- reading ; exercise; personal & family time is input , you get what you need before output
- learning forum Things
- difficult to bring S to achievable challenge
- Fintech and robot advisory for investment model

S :


Roger

Why develop the mood

When Fruit had another quarrel with Meiling - I am calm and the message on EMBA chat room flow in ...
when get on the car
- the class reunion is not what Meiling expect next Tuesday
- selling old Volkswagen to the used car dealer is not the only choice make her uncomfortable
- mother took all the old tea which she hide make her angry
How can't I just listen : and perform empathetic listening : connect yet response ?
It's difficult and it all coming back to you .


Roger

When I am alone .. I

1. I read ?
2.I read the whole Bible
3.I don't have an answer to myself
4.I think ---
5.I looks roughy , but I always take long term view .
I am a thinker - thinking is an action you internalize and interval - it takes efforts but not many can understand ..
What life changing potential in next 24 months :
1. Health of immediate relative ( father and mother )
2. Moving and relocation .( kids mainly )
3. Change my role in business and responsibility. ( be an entrepreneur, second start up , turn around family business)
4. Change of role and relationship ( marry . Having children , separate or divorce )

This is not what you can control and not have clear answers -- solutions not even surface

3 words best describe me :
- I see myself
- people see me
- I want to become


Roger

Morning update

When there is a thought , you record it and it store is somewhere and it become yours.
Yao meet in the air and Tseng Kao Chen the variety show host who we meet 20 years ago .. I greeting him first and exchange conversation briefly ...
Hu Wen: let's have a group photos -- the way he routinely do on every " meet and greet " - the ticket bud now turn to every digital image..






Roger

Les Suit Oriental

The quality drop significantly:
1. In room is ok .. but some broken pieces didn't fix
2. Breakfast less rich as before
3. Meeting organization and logic is poor
4. Coffee machine as the kitchen : milk sour , it will directly cause not only compliant but liability.
It's getting old and not a responsible person looking after it's reputation .


Roger

FMLD SH today

Who : Phillip Xiao ; Fu Wen Chen ; Wendy Chiao ; Hubert Shia ; Shu ; Sam ; David ; Alex ; Tsui ; Yen Li . Roger
How to improve
- story and exercise flow can be more consistent.
- be alert to absent minded and use electronic devices
- too much slides
- less group sharing
- equipment check can be done earlier
- lunch break too long
- forget bring my notebook - unprofessional


Roger

Applying SIY Taipei program just now

It's a 800 UD per person perform for 2 days , instead of going outside , I rather to know how it works here in Taipei . This is an impulse learning decision and I process payment online just now .
2017.04.07-08 : Search inside you --


Roger

Cold Shanghai and raining city

One and a half day for 100.000 NT compensation. You hardly can judge it's fair or not . It's a city commute airline and Shanghai is only 90 minutes away from Taipei.
It's getting dark here , raining and colder than Taipei .. as normal , I will prepare class in my room , buy something from Fami mart , hot shower and get ready for tomorrow .
Seeing France Ping Feng is the only appointment. I have too many to see but what to concentrate on my profession .


Roger

Corner office and Lexus and chairman of the association

I thinks they are the symbolic something important to Fu - and I strip it from him .


Roger

Gang of 4 annual day trip

It's 14 years since we graduate from NTU EMBA, it's a not in strict format gathering , we share in shallow way , Update and offers jokes we heard ...

Chen Mu old house visit is a sequel to Lin Yu Tung old house trip last year .. to connect old model - scholar celebrity in Chinese Philosophy is something inspiring .

Today : Sidney is our driver , Peter put together the itinerary and Jasper and I be the passenger.

What's new :
1. Jasper done a good scull-open surgery to fix his nerve system .
2. Jasper complain to me about melody's unprofessional way in taking care of his insurance claiming - for this , I use a straight feedback to let him know I am not here to take the compliant simply because she was refer by me 10 plus years ago ... jasper never take his own responsibility ...
3. Check if Sidney know Chaucer and find out they are so closed back to NTU medical years - what a good surprise
4. Lunch at " brother restaurant " Mrs. Kao recognized me at once and I greet Kao after the tasty meal .
5. Yanick coffee and confectionary : I skip sweet and cake the first time .
6. Sidney : driving his Lexus like a sport car
7. Peter : love to help me connect resource in Yi Lan.
8. Peter : when see me , immediately told me he fix all the financial issue with his lotery club -- so sensitive.
9. Chen Mu: scholar and his ( Rich inside but Humble outside ) is a classic thinking .
10. Brothers restaurant: good business still .


Roger

25 hours adventure to Ta Tong aboriginal village

Chaucer plan it and take risk on how we may achieve it - it's a " near live experience " not a " near death experience "
Many of us reluctant to take action due to knowing to much : knowing too much block us form take action as we analyze and calculate the risk , most likely we will give up.
It's a metal toughness and physical challenge , the only way down is up , If you can't reach the b & b , you won't be able to survive the Night .
For the frequent mountaineering expert and guild , no matter how they connect and enjoy Nature, they do encounter with human issues .
In the mountains climbing team, don't be the lone wolf - you will make others so anxiety and want to Kill you .
Climbing up your feel exhausted , going down your leg won't listen to you .
I never put in on my bucket list and I did it .












Roger

Li yuang Chen and Layer Tseng

Met her 42 years later , since graduate from JHS in Dao Liu , I only heard her name through media and know her charity and community development won her reputation like the modern mother Teresa in Huilien .
Via ya Ling we met at her husband's Huiling rose stone museum and I received a beautiful stone as a gift .
Dinner is wonderful, my return favor is dinner on Dec. 17 in Taipei with her family ...


Roger

Anne driving me

Anne from andente drive me to a zone with the company car . I see her blue eyes and aware the unknown future cast shadow to her - and can be many others
Anne joint andente 2 years , we met a few times but never talk ..
How to save their soul yet their job ?


Roger

Dong Hwa University: why not Tung

Prepare my talk , not teach to student at dong Hwa university.
1. Breaking the rule
2. Having them thinking
3. Participant and interactive
4. Share the experience
5. Tell the story

Roger

To Hanes and copy Heidi

11/16 像家人的朋友，像朋友的家人：中午的coaching session , 聆聽了像朋友般的家人的分享，他目前生命中最重要的關係人似乎已經由家人身分蛻出，以親疏不等的朋友身分出現！前天讀到「自由和幸福不會同時出現」，一本由一位法籍記者在臨終前和兒子的「回憶錄」由兒子以訪談記錄方式呈現。「追求自由就得忍受不確定和不安定；享受幸福就必須在明確的道路上設定目標而累積安逸。」「幸福感」也是「舒適圈」高感性的呈現⋯「不安於室」「蠢動因子」又都是「自由基因」作祟，人生難兩全，「之間」與「進出」是常態，不能意會而適應、釋懷地往往就感染輕重不一的變態：「精神分裂」，成長為了成為；成為後又想歸零做自己，思維調整是多刺激美感神經，將「不適」給美化，寫意強過寫實，這也是中國人在順、逆境中的哲理了。晚餐應美籍摯友馬修之邀和他由美國來台的親人餐敘，被視為親人的朋友，感覺很好，天南地北的自由表達，「roots creative 」由五位年輕主廚合開的創意料理，可口、精彩。今天是「家人：朋友」對照組：有些親而不近，有些不親而近。檢視自身，同理可証。


Roger

How to balance - multiple layer

When KC inform Diana want to reduce coaching session from twice a month to once a month . My sense is to cut the consulting fees : from 3.6 million to 3 millions . My commerce senses alert me and it's all about money .
Send a message to confirm with Diana - her replay show the consistency about balance work / life - to her it's not about 600.000 NT , but to Forum Works , it's to balance our book for not able to afford one staff's annual compensation.
My business nerve told me the coaching deal won't be extend to 2018. Actions :
1. To make up the revenue shortage by Dec. 2016. Hubert and his affiliate company is my target .
2. Identify new client in year 2017 - M or other Corporation/ YPO individuals.. this deal amount should be no less than 4 millions NT.

Life goes now : do right and do it now , Land Rover is not a luxury waste , but it's time to compensate my year and life.


Roger

Roots Creative

It's a good restaurant, pretty much like achoi . 5 chefs works on fusion food . Matthew introduce me his uncle Berry and best friend or her pass mother.

We had a good 2 hours together and I am pretending I am a foodie myself .


Roger

AMBA Meeting

I purposely put Sindy in an uncomfortable place when challenged her " annual reward and bonus " should be HR function to discuss / propose to Chairman , no a financial role -- I know H is kind of protect her , I am mean to stir the muddy water and get something straight - don't let AMBA be another Ambassador-


Roger

H coaching

As F said it's ok , H knows he must be back and check .
When F grabbing about my let go of him , he knows to stick on my side .
And be open to M / Marriage / Media / AMBA and brother.. even the blur relationship in developing.

Roger

Lawyer stead noodle dinner

Knowing more about madman CHEN and foundations theme MEME next year : Lost & Found .
Hung's foundation aims for support / detect and incubate new something in the field of liberal art / culture aspect .
Dennis : cousins to Royce and
Connect the story : Sony Music Taiwan official website done by Royce - his first job ; and its doing so good that Sonet spot me to transfer to Sonet - in my Sonet years I joint YPO - my YPO years bring me to become CFF and then co development Steve Vai program with Royce as he is education chair - finally I am ask to be his coach and get to know madame now ..... the circle of " good intention "


Roger

Sponsorship Solicits at Sea Dragon

It's a peer pleasure or peer pressure? Or mix ?


Roger

NTU school of management

Both Dean and Deputy Dean know my name and told me I win very high appraisals among class I perform for SEED class - I am happy the word of month spread to the academic field . Again : my self awareness- am I try to approve what ?
Jason / Hubert / Fermin & Sam is here to support- brotherhood.



Roger

Happy birthday

If my greeting make you happy then I am happy , whatever you want to call me , I am fine , it's the receiver's perception always .

Done mainly my Dong Hwa sharing structure and complete SH forum moderator leadership development workshop material - a mix of East and West - do it for Eddie and Haibo .

Hung's foundation : It's an annual big Thing to the family and I will never neglect it , moderator and facilitator role seldom been treated equally to speaker , if the more you check the dynamics the more you will sense the critical role a facilitator performs - a key screw to tie or loose every group dynamic..






Roger

Long time : interview

Wong is a potential marketing head we are going to place at a zone : KC done interview twice and I am doing the final round : my questions
1. If all of your program will be executed in 2017, how many manpower need ?
2. If you can only pick 3 to perform , name your top 3
3. Do you experience a leaders role in any corporation before?
4. When you going to marry and with the new family will relocate to huilien ?

He is green , KC told me compare to the employee we have now. He is outstanding . What can I say , we are not sex to recruit tier one talents in the market .


Roger

Sleepless might

I had a feeling that it won't be a good night last night . Yes , a bad dream come true , I can't get into deep sleep until very late , but to close my eyes .... it's a long rest yet a sleep mode , woke up by 4:00 am , I am taking hot bath now ....

Energy up or energy sucks ?

Roger

When open in unfamiliar situation

How you turn your weakness into strength :
1. English is not my native language, I won't be correct in using vocabulary and grammar , but will do it clearly :
-- St. Petersburg Russian forum retreat experience.
2. Confidentiality is not a gesture , by showing your hand , you acknowledge with your mind .
-- Bon Vie challenge experience
3. Trust is not our DNA but it feels good to given your trust .
-- little child throwing up & down metaphor
4. Not happy with the Unprofessional logistic:
- first mistake from Kyoto to Macau
- second mistake from Laos back to HK
5. Commitment is not forcing too but willing to :
- I am here to say goodbye story
6. What's difficult to you : L/A/Q/S
- A+D ; A+D; A+D


Roger

Gift to take

Even it's a bias rhetoric, I have the intention to buy me some gift after a tiring workshop . A compensation and little reward make me happy.


Roger

Mogul forum in Parkview HK

From doubt to Dao : I finally delivered and I feel how they feel , this is good enough , my expectation: no expectation but gain experience and I did it .
For the member who's expectation is to exceed the expectation, I told him only to "re-set " at the very beginning.. Douglas Yang , he feel it
Stantly Sun : I hear you
Frank : 0.1 percent of your reach Chinese philosophy
Damien : cross road and fight
Douglas Woo : ? And confusing
John : be a professional at the end
Tim : new venture ahead
I am complete another journey .


Roger

Parkview is where I am today

It's up on the hill and it's a club - house - condominiums luxury residency in HK island ; this is the dream life for becoming rich and famous .. compare to some rug street and garbed aisle , this is far more better.

To live in such a paradise , people can't take it for granted , life full with up and down , take the experience for granted - no one can steal it away but not any objectives you can see and touch - you are the lender for the best - your whole life and that's is - if they don't fade / rotten or transfer to other people . Don't take anything for granted - to have but not to hold - experience counts and noting else stays forever .

I enjoy the club house , arrive one hour earlier give myself a personal tour to this beautiful gallery and museum standard collections : Dali sculpture and Ancient Buddha stone sculpture - sincerity and peacefully. This is the Energy feed for today . Now I am peace with myself.



Roger

You part 2

You said is well : 2 out of 3 ain't bad
You turn excuse to retronic reasons
You procrastinate and tell everyone it's patience


Roger

How much is enough ?

You see all the good but still feeling bad.
You face the red but develop kind of blue
You only need a few but desire for many
You live one life but ask for immortality
You don't have near-life experience but afraid of near-death


Roger

It's not tein tein

It's gone , not over but it won't be the same anymore.. don't call me Tein Tein , it's how you deliver but not what I perceive.

Greeting is a hello yet the invitation to re-start it : starting all over again is impossible , split water can't retrieve.

So take it easy , you will see me only in your dream .. I wish you well .


Roger

Bad dream I don't call it nightmares

It hit me from the beginning of my light sleep , green light spirit was the last appear , before it surface , many chaotic situation occurred , it's like a hell if I can describe it.

I don't have a lucid picture when woke up but I clearly see the bad dreams --


Roger

Tomorrow is a blind date

I know it but I am afraid they don't , a professional can be profession is due to the co-op in 2 way streets, it's a very blind date , I just hope it won't getting darker .


Roger

HK

Plane delay 30 minutes, arrival hall is an ok Que , but the taxi waiting area is full of traveller , the reminder board flashing " free shuttle to major hotels in causeway bay " I rush to the shuttle bus stop and get on H2 line as the last passenger , it's good , traffic in HK is terrible today. There no point to take taxi as long you travel light .
Traffic bad , google map help me to decide which stop to get off , 10 minutes walk to hotel is nothing , I am on my way to enjoy late lunch / early dinner : according to google - the master of knowing everything, I am one minute away from Crown Plaza Hotel .
No greeting and no welcoming and no showing about this mogul forum . It's a cold versus warm session tomorrow.
How to get there?


Roger

Year 2020 I will be 60

I will STOP :
1. Long trip traveling
2.Taking Red Eyes
3.Eating Red Meal
4.Irregular Affairs
5.Wrong Toilet Position
6.Buy Books don't read
7.Buy goods don't use
8.One Forum
I will START:
1. Regular Exercise: walking ; mountaineering; swimming ; gym sauna
2. Smile everyday.
3. Sleep for 6 hours per day
4. Meditation regularly
5. Long retreat for month long per year
6. Writing and Teaching the coach
7. Spend Time with my Kids
8. Build a living will .
9. Around the ___ with Meiling


Roger

Movie on the plane wish me Happy Birthday

Isn't it amazing , I just search a French film that I didn't see before on my plane back to taipei and surprise me to caught by the line " isn't today your birthday ? " so I capture the screen . A very intuitive and entertaining happening .






Roger

Year 2020 I will be 60

I will STOP :
1. Long trip traveling
2.Taking Red Eyes
3.Eating Red Meal
4.Irregular Affairs
5.Wrong Toilet Position
6.Buy Books don't read
7.Buy goods don't use
8.One Forum
I will START:
1. Regular Exercise: walking ; mountaineering; swimming ; gym sauna
2. Smile everyday.
3. Sleep for 6 hours per day
4. Meditation regularly
5. Long retreat for month long per year
6. Writing and Teaching the coach
7. Spend Time with my Kids
8. Build a living will .
9. Around the ___ with Meiling


Roger

Long trip in 2017

1. Jan : family Phuket & Bangkok trip : 7 days
2. Feb: NY & LA biz trip : 16 days
3. Feb-March : Vancouver YPO Edge : 8 days
4. June : Cannes French music festival : 9 days


Roger

I am about to credit 1 millions NT

I don't know it's a dream or not , I am about to use my credit cards purchasing one of the expensive YPO event : Grammy Awards weekend experience, for purchase the program , it's close to 30.000 USD and to buy myself ticket to States is another 9.000 and to count in accommodation in the States is 10.000 USD - I am not talking other spending in NY & Los Angeles ..
This is how my coachee offers and I only bear the 6.800 package + 4 nights extra stays for 2.000 : it's 8.800 also .. what a mathematic magic next year.


Roger

Taxi driver today

Today , I boarding 2 taxi and to me , drivers are close to the age of suspension of commercial driver license : 68. I even though they lie about age , it's tough to make a living in Taiwan now . Both of them wear the hearing aids .


Roger

Mogul and my emotion

This is how is developed :
1. Negotiating on discount by intro Laos
2.blur in organization about logistic to Laos
3. Last minutes change to HK
4. No detail whats for
5. Day before fly out : no venue details and not even book my hotel

Now I have some emotion : take what I ought to after session .


Roger

Vice Chairman to Sea Dragon

For connecting YPO Gold and spend more time with Adrian ... nothing else so I take it


Roger

Music

I don't play musical instruments, I am an instrument- with tone . Manner . Color . Temperature . Scale ... now I understand to appreciate who play the instrument. You turn to an instrument.


Roger

Leonard Cohen pass away

In Canada - my favorite singer / song writer / poet and character passed away , office site didn't mentioned the exact day and why .. I assume he die on my birthday - November 10th ..
my friend Steve is in Canada now and he must be sad also :
I left my message to Mafan's facebook : now the bird will no longer on the wire ...

Roger

Terry Lin call me

After his triumph little dome concert - he call to confirm the Cannes invitation- well , what need to connect will connect ...
It seems next June we will join in a panel at Cannes France ...

Roger

You connect and radiate

Steve's warm letter arrived this morning - a reply to my Update and a ripple to how we experienced things together .
I am more than exciting as I am not manage my expectation but to totally reset it ... if shading give me more than feedback , then I am the beneficial in the communication loop . What else can we ask for ?
Connect the dot is continue, Rob Francis invite Steve and Pia to dinner at Montreal and they wish me happy birthday with a video greeting , it's a mix happy moment .

Roger

November update

From Steve :
An unconventional way in English : simple and powerful- by Steve Vai on our November update .


Roger

Happy birthday yesterday

I keep my birthday wish by house keeping at lease my bed room area , I begin from 7:00 pm and finish 12:00 pm with a 30 minutes break . It's only half way done but to tie your running shoes is the beginning of every marathon... change begins today .


Roger

Stiven in bad shape

It's a phobia , if not the one he trust beside , he don't feel comfortable. When check in Le Maridien I received many complaints:
1. The room is not as good as Mgallery
2. The price is double
3. The room have bad smell

If he check the finishing inside and amenities, will be even disappointed.


Roger

Flight high for my birthday

I am not that important to be greeting on my birthday, it's too many new friends show me their warm greeting.

CC , Elite , and many .. those who you miss - missing still ...

Roger

Dear air attendance

The person sit in front don't speak mandarin , I am . The cute air stewardess wrong about the passage in front , so she speak with me in English ...
you correct your wrong by another wrong : this is a very small incident and it's fun to observe ..


Roger

Linda and long trip to The stares

The impromptu coaching to linda lead to a potential dramatic trip : New York and LA.

I haven't return to New York for so many years -since 911 and to attend the platform established by Linda is something interesting also - a charity - fund raising gala at Mandarin Oriental New York -- Chinese turn celebrity is now take the world in storm .

Los Angles for Grammy awards experience provided by YPO , one of the exclusive and expense event , however. Linda is eager to participant so I am ride on the wind to secured another good spot at the event .

It will be a 16 days trip to the States , what to experience and what to see ????

It will impact on my working schedule in Feb. right after Chinese New Year and one week window from my Edge trip to Vancouver.

Must be fun -


Roger

On my way back

On the special day , who do your really want to spend time with ? Who you miss and yet sending you birthday greeting ? Who on earth you never think about throw you a surprise ? And who will be the last person you wish to see ?

You can only have dozens of choice in the coming years and how you make your special day special to others ?

Why it's special ? Because everyone is special , when you were born it meant you will be special as no one like you in this world .


Roger

On my way back

On the special day , who do your really want to spend time with ? Who you miss and yet sending you birthday greeting ? Who on earth you never think about throw you a surprise ? And who will be the last person you wish to see ?

You can only have dozens of choice in the coming years and how you make your special day special to others ?

Why it's special ? Because everyone is special , when you were born it meant you will be special , it's a special days


Roger

Happy Birthday Roger

Celebrating my birthday one day before at Thien's new house - the castle for his retirement. Stiven come to the dinner with me:
1. A good set menu with champagne / white wine / red wine 1986 / ? ... 1962 ....
2. French restaurant catering at house
3. Nhan - Hun family sit with me.
4. Tao - Thien's daughter make a cake for me .

It's a warm and good memory-- thien is a true brother .















Roger

Buddha is a complement

They said " I looks like a Buddha " I ask " then do you like me ? " they didn't response. Question : why like Buddha like me but reluctant to say like me ?

Roger

Key words

" I am born to take care of him. " r: " you will be taken cares "
" he is taking everything for granted " r: " don't be a victim "
" on everything relationship, I tell everyone dad is number one ... " r:" marries someone who co build the business with you , the person who love you and take care of your business and you "
" I want to live in Spain or Taiwan for a year , I just stress out "



Roger

Crystal

I don't know what I did or what gift I obtaining to let the trust flows like waterfall, she end up with tears - no one can tell , one role to play but not able to change role along the way .
Any solution? Find someone to take other role and change the character as time goes by.
No victim in this drama - it's a father & daughter gesture and you need to learn how to traveling between two worlds


Roger

A few things

1. Kirati say my lover is my wife
2.Thien had something caught by Her
3.Me too but deny totally
Lucid dream :
So many familiar face appear at the same restaurant / movie complex. Meiling and I went to the Monster movie , we couldn't finish it . At the connect restaurant, I met faces like : Celine; Ken Chang ; Culture Affair Minister , Hochen and others - I peek at what people order : Most of them order the Spanish seafood rosedo ..


Roger

Finding yet learnings

1. Know when to stop .
2. How much is enough .
3. Identify Need & Want .
4. Have clear Yes and No to certain things
5. Traveling between 2 worlds
6. Smile at last .
7. Regrets as nature .
8. Freedom is free to choose.
9. Begin to love myself .
10. Wisdom is hear voice inside
11. End of the road , beginning of the journey
12. Close vs intimacy.
13. 4 loves
14. Johari window & mirror
15. Follow yet search bliss
16. Complete the full circle
17. Sharing is key process in solving
18. Someone something somebody


Roger

Next session with Hubert

Nov, 11 morning 11.
And I want to make it a 1111.1111 event : November 11 , 11:11 in the morning .


Roger

Done A Zone assignment and re org

It's a change of role and change of mood : I prepare myself to conduct this task - the paradigm shift is not to please anyone but to echo to my role and responsibility- turn around and build a sustainable entity until end of the BOT.

Teresa is sacred as she is not prepare to be my one down and to handle top executive turn over . KC is an outsider even though he commit to support me , I am in the organization and the system to perform and influence as well .

Fu : can't say he is shock - the syndrome will develop in next 24 hours - the agreement : release role and responsibility at A Zone. Resume full function as CEO for foundation and effective by Nov. 10. Move our from current office - the symbol of power and transaction with Teresa ... this will create another ambiguity to Teresa ..

Li Kwang : agreed to take the servence pay and let go by Dec. 7th . Not taking the transfer and down grade assignments.

To All : my message: change for better, come with a passion and I am beginning to like you .

I am in Huailien : lovely east coast of Taiwan and I perform a cruel thing - organizational change - change the org and impact people .


Roger

What am I waiting for ?

Birthday greeting from expected friends and unexpected surprise ?
Someone tell me something I don't know ?
Better future and better hope ahead ?
The glory and glamour platform pave in front of me ?
Something big , Big something ?

Roger

Reflection

1. Terry Lin open his Taipei Little Dome solo concert yesterday, I was not invited.
2. Meiling pick me up at airport , when I get on the car , she begin complains when open the underwear I bought for her at Victoria's Secret, she said : " I don't like it " -- what ?
3. Hanes did a good daily update " your name " but I am cool to it - am I simply want to express but reluctant to appreciate?
4. Money and Happiness can be parallel...


Roger

2 expensive shoes

When bought the expensive shoes , I should do the house keeping and move all non performing shoes away .

And on Nov. 10 alone , it's good time for my house keeping activity : do it and finish it on 10th.


Roger

Why ? Mother

Why I tried to erase all the memories I had with my mother ? No matter it's good or bad ? I just wish it's all blank , blank like a white paper , waiting for me to add any color I like - to manufacture the memories I favors and to share it . Make me feel more relax and comfortable.

Since I practicing facilitator and coach , I listen to so many " parents story " such as father gestures, mother gestures, womb scenarios and many , I don't resonate much or I just keep a distance , build a shield not letting the vibrations intrude to my life ... posture myself as a profession and amuse to the feeling trauma --- I don't react , don't react and don't connect .. distance to the mother affair make me feel more comfortable.

Now I know there's is something wrong , I admit it's not normal but I reluctant to rebuild the memories with my mother , should I analysis myself ? What cause this coldness turn to coolness ?

What did the memory my mother keep mean to her have something to do with me ? Tell my story to my son ? For him to connect the dot ? This is a delima

Now , try your best to describe the stranger : mother .. end of part 1.




Roger

Sharing triggers

1. My only hope is can stand on my foot again .
2. My lover is my wife .
3. Why he didn't even shake hands with me ?
4. I know what you saying
5. I like it : be human here
6. I am very content , I give it a 9
7. It's value , not races , religions or anything else .
8. Can we finish the spirit walk ?
9. I am embarrassed to say I only ....
10. So you don't have sex in the end ?
11. Non judgement: we can't control people's thinking but be aware of your action
12. You are a magician: the card is reflection to who I am and how I feel
13. Cards : patience; judgment; balance ; generosity; romance ; values ; and ?
14. You put yourself low when check the wine label from other table
15. Do you like the food ?
16. Tradition die hard . It's our DNA
17. No , I can't decide when i can join Dec. forum meeting until next forum meeting .
18. My energy is low , I am aging
19. Why don't we take group pictures this time ?
20. Everything beginning is toward the End


Roger

Imperial Super Beking Duck restaurant Singapore

A Michelin 2 stars restaurant serve great Beijing duck .. thien and I enjoy food and talk together .





Roger

Farooq small talk

He want to confirm my feeling , after our forum meeting , I agree to spend another 30 minutes with him , I didn't know his intention until he open up and talk : if there's any dispute happen between us , he don't want to accumulate until the day it burst out ... and he is kind of curious about my " respond only yet initiated any conversation with him "
His sensitive don't change my impressions about him but I didn't honestly tell him how I think about him --- I am here to enjoy forum and it's value , not to please or challenge any individual in the forum - if my gain less than offer , I will choose to leave .
Yes , the distance is not between he and me but everyone between me ... like I said " Be guru there , Be human here " I don't like spend time do meaningless conversation. It's me - Roger


Roger

Question to me

1. Tell us what's special about you ?
2. What activities make you switch off
3. Don't eat lunch alone
4. What role in life we can be
5. I am hesitate to let " Me " stop " You " to become " Who you are "


Roger

Bon Vie forum Gigi pass away

If my memory is correct, Gigi is the one who told me "tell me how can I trust a stranger ? "
. From Philippe and intelligent, if not for breakfast with AF on Sunday , I would not access and link to his sad news.
We met the first time in taipei just 3 weeks ago and now he passed away in Japan and his forum plan to see him in Manila in a few days .

Life it short , live the moment and cherish every moment.

Roger

Eve Air to Singapore

I slept for about 20 minutes , watch half of the Chinese Kung Fu movies , finish 3 chapter for Alan de Bolton 's new book " the love courses "
For rest of time , I am writing - so much and so many I can and I want to writes


Roger

Session with Ray

It's like a god father movie scrip - the fight back will take place and ray identity his enemy already -- I am there to listen

Returning to family business is for please mother but the hate between father and son might never resolve in the end.

Reluctant commit to a weekly update - will and will count - schedule monthly sessions and do it from your end -- it's too heavy to him ..




Roger

Today

Preparing my HK mogul forum printing at ambassador and can't help to ask the VIP service who looks so Japanese to me ..
going she Ta for assembling and suppose to see they do it right away .
And the kaffa Kafi with Angeli is another connection : she has an unsolved issues with her sister , I resonate and share my experience about how to handle the letter , as for the rest ? Only time will tell .


Roger

Try me but don't test me

Try is a way to buy insurance , Test is a way to decide whether you will dispose it or not Try means you take it already. Test means you are not sure yet.

Roger