My memory trigger and the old movie roll back :
1. M is the first at her university year : the story continue and translate to a different perspective.
2. A is a music company colleague : I mistaken her body language and we had a good dinner at Sherwood Taipei. It's a one day affair or farewell.
3. W : we met at recreation spot but the fire stir immediately, to me it's Eros , so I kind of build my way for her chose to leave .
4. C : primary school classmate reunited at my high school days : it's a one week crash and I meet her and totally reset every expectation.
5. Li Hwa : a movie like drama in my high school days .
This is me : seeking the " regret " and pursued the beauty of " don't have you "
Roger
2016年10月31日 星期一
Story 2
My mom passed away when I was 15, we don't know why , since she is gone , fathers decided to sent us away. Leaving non of his children stays with him ...
I remember on your dying bed , you ask me to take care of all the brothers , even thought father sent us away , I fulfill the promises to you mom.
I love dad , I don't complain him but the distance is there and the gap is hard to melt .
When doing the exercise in regard the " 4 final words before I die " my emotions arose , I just can't help burst out crying - I know my last words will be " I love you , I have keep my promises "
Roger
I remember on your dying bed , you ask me to take care of all the brothers , even thought father sent us away , I fulfill the promises to you mom.
I love dad , I don't complain him but the distance is there and the gap is hard to melt .
When doing the exercise in regard the " 4 final words before I die " my emotions arose , I just can't help burst out crying - I know my last words will be " I love you , I have keep my promises "
Roger
Open invitation part x
In my heart , it's a journey of endless invitation, to H , maybe this is the second and might be the last .
Falling in love with oneself can ended sharply , it's a stiff cliff : I don't know this will be the last invitation or final invitation? all I know is the whole script was written by myself , I am simply invite idea candidate to fit in their role.
Love story suppose to be sad story or even a tragedy - you don't literally need to create a physical pain but suffering is a side effect and it might last longer than you think . You bought a ticket to the show as audiences , you pick the seat and you watch the roles you perform on stage - sometimes taken yourself out from the role and transforming as director or producer - but you must admit it's you who is the mastermind behind everything .
It's a one man movie : showing to you only - welcome to create any dynamic and layers - traveling through space & time is human dream , you are lucky to equip such talents bringing AR / VR into the world you build .
Enjoy - even for one day , one show , one love and one Dream .
To free others from their role is to free yourself and bail you out also . Don't addicting to the special world too often , too long .
I love you - Roger and I know you love me too . The suffering is surrealistic , the pain wasn't real . You will be alright , everything will be alright in the end........you are not lost , you just FALLING...
Roger
Falling in love with oneself can ended sharply , it's a stiff cliff : I don't know this will be the last invitation or final invitation? all I know is the whole script was written by myself , I am simply invite idea candidate to fit in their role.
Love story suppose to be sad story or even a tragedy - you don't literally need to create a physical pain but suffering is a side effect and it might last longer than you think . You bought a ticket to the show as audiences , you pick the seat and you watch the roles you perform on stage - sometimes taken yourself out from the role and transforming as director or producer - but you must admit it's you who is the mastermind behind everything .
It's a one man movie : showing to you only - welcome to create any dynamic and layers - traveling through space & time is human dream , you are lucky to equip such talents bringing AR / VR into the world you build .
Enjoy - even for one day , one show , one love and one Dream .
To free others from their role is to free yourself and bail you out also . Don't addicting to the special world too often , too long .
I love you - Roger and I know you love me too . The suffering is surrealistic , the pain wasn't real . You will be alright , everything will be alright in the end........you are not lost , you just FALLING...
Roger
Hochen and the Breakfast cafe owner
Owner : Today , the bread is too small , so you have 2 instead of one .
Hochen : thanks you
Meal finish :
Owner : you didn't finish all ?
Hochen : I am too full so left one bread .
Roger
Hochen : thanks you
Meal finish :
Owner : you didn't finish all ?
Hochen : I am too full so left one bread .
Roger
My session with hochen
It's his " I am sorry " about missed the movie session , it's fine as I didn't tell him that I didn't go either .
Our ice breaker is : Go South policy : not only the propaganda but an action - turn the tour from culture - city to a more in-depth economy co-creation : the value received by government body and the people they really care about .
And NCC : I don't know and I can't help
But this is my class:
1. Conflict of interest can be solved by learning each other's boundaries- conflict of value is the hard part
2. Harmony come in 3 layer of AD : 1) accept the difference 2) adapt the difficulty 3)appreciate the diversity
CHT / The new Putong project in HCM city / see my forum mate next March in Taipei ...
Roger
Our ice breaker is : Go South policy : not only the propaganda but an action - turn the tour from culture - city to a more in-depth economy co-creation : the value received by government body and the people they really care about .
And NCC : I don't know and I can't help
But this is my class:
1. Conflict of interest can be solved by learning each other's boundaries- conflict of value is the hard part
2. Harmony come in 3 layer of AD : 1) accept the difference 2) adapt the difficulty 3)appreciate the diversity
CHT / The new Putong project in HCM city / see my forum mate next March in Taipei ...
Roger
Creature of a day and Love come and go in a week
It's the first silence since we connect , I can only read from the social media message I sent , although this is not a 100% proof of silence . As we know , it's sign of love comes and go. Disconnected is like a kite break out from his line - you see it fly away and gradually vanish somewhere in the sky...
I am disturbing someone's life - At least my . Less sleeping, can't concentrate on things I am doing , no appetite for eating , day dreaming and can't stop thinking about the love one I create ., I developing the syndrome of " what if ? " and it mix with anxiety all the time .
The window of silence is good for us , cool down , calm down and take a break.
I am not quite sure if tomorrow we will see each other as plan , I will send the message of when and where , the rest will be Waiting, wait until you show up or for another muse running into my heart and bring me fountain of youth - sometime somewhere and someday.
Mayfly live a day life - it can't really experience 4 seasons as other species do , my love lasting as short as a Mayfly - I wish the day life for love I have can be as beautiful as any fireworks, it comes resplendent and bright. someone says it well : " what make the fireworks stand out ? It's the sky behind " tell me , you prefer fireworks upfront or the sky behind?
Roger
I am disturbing someone's life - At least my . Less sleeping, can't concentrate on things I am doing , no appetite for eating , day dreaming and can't stop thinking about the love one I create ., I developing the syndrome of " what if ? " and it mix with anxiety all the time .
The window of silence is good for us , cool down , calm down and take a break.
I am not quite sure if tomorrow we will see each other as plan , I will send the message of when and where , the rest will be Waiting, wait until you show up or for another muse running into my heart and bring me fountain of youth - sometime somewhere and someday.
Mayfly live a day life - it can't really experience 4 seasons as other species do , my love lasting as short as a Mayfly - I wish the day life for love I have can be as beautiful as any fireworks, it comes resplendent and bright. someone says it well : " what make the fireworks stand out ? It's the sky behind " tell me , you prefer fireworks upfront or the sky behind?
Roger
2016年10月30日 星期日
Love in a day
It's an open invitation, I want insist on things people don't feel comfortable, and I don't play games - I am too old to waste my time wondering what's on your mind - the only truth is I am honest to myself and it's you to decide whether you take it or not .
Confuse ? Yes , the merge role I perform might cause you some confusion : either you treat me as coach ; mentor ; friend or lovers or to mix it up and simply call me your " soulmates "
I was planning at the theater about the coming gathering : should I go straight to a dark and private room , should I utilize a public cafe but assess to a day room at the same building ? Or just conduct a long " knowing me and you session " ? What about the 5 days plan ? The vacation we happily share at Hotel V ?
Am I be a trouble and disturb your normal life ? Am I too aggressive and send you some uncomfortable flavor ?
When you say you are a simple person. How should I interpreted?
Now who's confused who ?
Roger
Confuse ? Yes , the merge role I perform might cause you some confusion : either you treat me as coach ; mentor ; friend or lovers or to mix it up and simply call me your " soulmates "
I was planning at the theater about the coming gathering : should I go straight to a dark and private room , should I utilize a public cafe but assess to a day room at the same building ? Or just conduct a long " knowing me and you session " ? What about the 5 days plan ? The vacation we happily share at Hotel V ?
Am I be a trouble and disturb your normal life ? Am I too aggressive and send you some uncomfortable flavor ?
When you say you are a simple person. How should I interpreted?
Now who's confused who ?
Roger
Story 1
She was my mistress who works in my office , It seems to me my wife aware of it but she never ask me . Then she developed cancer and couldn't work anyone , my wife take care her as much as I did and something I though she was over cared my my wife , when at the terminal stage , my wife really spend decent time accompany her and when she die , my wife cried so hard , I don't know why until she told me : " I am thinking if I passed away before you. She might be a good candidate to take care of you "
Roger
Roger
2016年10月29日 星期六
Floating
I am bringing myself to a status of floating - I enjoy the beauty of uncertainty and wish all the word connection translate to image connection and become the particle of missing - fill in all the gap and build a solid forte of missing you .
This is a trap I make for myself and I dig it deeper and deeper , as long as I can breath still , I don't mind to let go myself--- it feels so good and I don't have any space to withdraw ..
Roger
This is a trap I make for myself and I dig it deeper and deeper , as long as I can breath still , I don't mind to let go myself--- it feels so good and I don't have any space to withdraw ..
Roger
2016年10月28日 星期五
Falling
When in love , people said it's falling instead of rising . So the direction is going down , down to a place you begin to worry , suffer , unease , doubt , you hardly can control anything ... so it's a feeling of falling .
And it's falling , you are willing to take a Bang - probably you will hit the ground hard or even hurt . It's falling and no one tell you how fast the speed is and where you going to land .
It's a status but never the destination , falling give you feeling of alive , you are mobile and moving always, if you stop or stuck , you lost the feeling of falling and your rationale re dominant your emotion.
It's falling , you can't make sense on things you take it for granted or logically , you try to grab something or hold on to something real , it won't be real and it can't be real.
As you try to capture the feeling of falling , you produce rich imagination and creativity, you are young and vital , you want to be energetic and look look - the human nature urge you to dress up , fresh up and perform your sexual attraction to your significant other . It's amazing to see how people revitalize via the juice of falling in love medicine .
You know it's falling , you let go all the constrain and you free up all the condition . You want to experience an complete feeling of In Love .... you can feel it but can't touch it . And you are so addict to this feeling and can't help to FALLING .
Roger
And it's falling , you are willing to take a Bang - probably you will hit the ground hard or even hurt . It's falling and no one tell you how fast the speed is and where you going to land .
It's a status but never the destination , falling give you feeling of alive , you are mobile and moving always, if you stop or stuck , you lost the feeling of falling and your rationale re dominant your emotion.
It's falling , you can't make sense on things you take it for granted or logically , you try to grab something or hold on to something real , it won't be real and it can't be real.
As you try to capture the feeling of falling , you produce rich imagination and creativity, you are young and vital , you want to be energetic and look look - the human nature urge you to dress up , fresh up and perform your sexual attraction to your significant other . It's amazing to see how people revitalize via the juice of falling in love medicine .
You know it's falling , you let go all the constrain and you free up all the condition . You want to experience an complete feeling of In Love .... you can feel it but can't touch it . And you are so addict to this feeling and can't help to FALLING .
Roger
Falling in Love
My open invitation wins - maybe the maturity and many my true to my heart and maybe the sentiment of falling in love is the feeling we hunger for and we just missing the feelings .
4 loves and " love in the darkness " is so different : how to shed the light inside the dark tunnel ?
My willing part is well taken , and way is another challenge - as for holding each other's hand is the other - the other
Roger
4 loves and " love in the darkness " is so different : how to shed the light inside the dark tunnel ?
My willing part is well taken , and way is another challenge - as for holding each other's hand is the other - the other
Roger
Reading less these month
Don't lost your consistency in reading no matter how busy you manage your schedule , you have secure time for pick the beard , go to many movies , so don't tell yourself that you can't squeeze time for reading. This is a revise reading goal :
1. Alway bring a book in your bag
2. Reading before sleeping on
3. Finish at least 2 books per month
4. Post your reading insight as a measurement
Roger
1. Alway bring a book in your bag
2. Reading before sleeping on
3. Finish at least 2 books per month
4. Post your reading insight as a measurement
Roger
Walking restaurant chat
It's only 3 of us from the free style 6 but the vibe is great. Complex idea for running foods & beverages is an ongoing concept , the ambience and interior is beyond my expectation, a breathtaking place and the food is good .
Elm pick it and I take this opportunity to conducts brief coaching to Hubert , and his story about how he become GM at ambassador hotel is really a " tough " story .
M project will be ink in a few days , AMBA chain will go under Shelin development, agree on A Zone my ideas ... and Runam cafe can be integrated as one of the AMBA story ...
Elm love music and do have the passion for musical development. See how it goes
Roger
Elm pick it and I take this opportunity to conducts brief coaching to Hubert , and his story about how he become GM at ambassador hotel is really a " tough " story .
M project will be ink in a few days , AMBA chain will go under Shelin development, agree on A Zone my ideas ... and Runam cafe can be integrated as one of the AMBA story ...
Elm love music and do have the passion for musical development. See how it goes
Roger
2016年10月27日 星期四
Long tele coaching to Linda Ho
Ho made : home made is the suvernier I prepare every year .
I didn't exercise but on a diet .
To adjust my jet leg , now I woke 4:00 am working until noon and take nap .
My model is to provide solution to my client but not focus on emigration market , the Eco system is :
1. Kids study aboard need mentor
2. University student need internship and seeking job aboard or return to China
3. Eduction and Job / Career are 2 needs I sense and willing to fulfill
4. Parent is always parent . I will build ask parent site for parent to learn from the peer
5. Thank you for remind me taking back my down payment for the not successful nerve the wine / vineyard at LA
6. I have 2 club house in Europe : Madrid - Spain and Budapest- hungry
Roger
I didn't exercise but on a diet .
To adjust my jet leg , now I woke 4:00 am working until noon and take nap .
My model is to provide solution to my client but not focus on emigration market , the Eco system is :
1. Kids study aboard need mentor
2. University student need internship and seeking job aboard or return to China
3. Eduction and Job / Career are 2 needs I sense and willing to fulfill
4. Parent is always parent . I will build ask parent site for parent to learn from the peer
5. Thank you for remind me taking back my down payment for the not successful nerve the wine / vineyard at LA
6. I have 2 club house in Europe : Madrid - Spain and Budapest- hungry
Roger
Morning VIP clinic
Now the VIP clinic include medicine close to 5.000 NT . For 4 times / year , you need 20.000 for basic need
Taking taxi outside Ya Tong Hospital- volunteer ask the taxi for me when they carefully removed a passenger to wheel chair and now the story begins :
1. This is my wife's cab , I seldom drive it
2. The passenger before you who remove to the wheelchair is my mother - I am taking her to hospital with care giver
3. My wife is now at Retire Military General Hospital for surgery of a womb tumor
4. I am not suppose to take passage as I am going back to San Cha and I am not familiar with ambassador hotel
5. Well . Since you are in my cab , I can take the same route to see my wife at the hospital and give her a surprise .
6. I will only take you 250 NT , it's not a " commercial transportation " now ..
Roger
Taking taxi outside Ya Tong Hospital- volunteer ask the taxi for me when they carefully removed a passenger to wheel chair and now the story begins :
1. This is my wife's cab , I seldom drive it
2. The passenger before you who remove to the wheelchair is my mother - I am taking her to hospital with care giver
3. My wife is now at Retire Military General Hospital for surgery of a womb tumor
4. I am not suppose to take passage as I am going back to San Cha and I am not familiar with ambassador hotel
5. Well . Since you are in my cab , I can take the same route to see my wife at the hospital and give her a surprise .
6. I will only take you 250 NT , it's not a " commercial transportation " now ..
Roger
2016年10月26日 星期三
Friendships in Vietnam
With the business connection, we knew each other more , and it feels so good to be included in a family ambience . To conduct a business potential in a family supporting environment is really something unique . To sum up:
1. Ben shows his interest in ELAC trial : from wall in to demo and public area sound system . Ming is working now .
2.khanh shows us the opportunity in working on his own shops and share his experience on how to market ELAC
3. Nhan told us his zwing strategy and see the potential for ELAC in Hanoi and HCM city
Roger
1. Ben shows his interest in ELAC trial : from wall in to demo and public area sound system . Ming is working now .
2.khanh shows us the opportunity in working on his own shops and share his experience on how to market ELAC
3. Nhan told us his zwing strategy and see the potential for ELAC in Hanoi and HCM city
Roger
2016年10月23日 星期日
Who do I talk to part 3
Front desk : recommends a Vietnam restaurant
Concierge: refer here but I say somewhere
Roger
Concierge: refer here but I say somewhere
Roger
Who I talked today : continue
On the plane : air attendants
On the ground : pick up driver
To the hotel : check in counter
In my room : house keeping for access wifi
Roger
On the ground : pick up driver
To the hotel : check in counter
In my room : house keeping for access wifi
Roger
Who do you talk today ? How many average ?
I mean , don't count your chatting online and use your fb / wechat / whatsapp / line chat , have you ever counts how many human you really initiate " conversation " everyday ?
For me today :
1. Talk to counter of heritage lodge : get me a taxi
2. Response to tourists: yes , I can take picture for you - one more ?
3. Talk to airport express check in counter: no I don't have check in luggage, it's hand carry .
4. Maximum restaurant at airport : reception and service : one person / my order / where is tea ? / check please
5. Shops at airport : no thanks , I just look around .
6. Zagne shop : do you have size 6 or any other color ?
7. Airport reception : where is Vietnam airplane lounge ?
8. Line with Meiling : so many times
Roger
For me today :
1. Talk to counter of heritage lodge : get me a taxi
2. Response to tourists: yes , I can take picture for you - one more ?
3. Talk to airport express check in counter: no I don't have check in luggage, it's hand carry .
4. Maximum restaurant at airport : reception and service : one person / my order / where is tea ? / check please
5. Shops at airport : no thanks , I just look around .
6. Zagne shop : do you have size 6 or any other color ?
7. Airport reception : where is Vietnam airplane lounge ?
8. Line with Meiling : so many times
Roger
HK heritage lodge
It's like treasure hill at Kuang Kwang Taipei but better renovated - you keep a Chinese flavor and attract people who develop an ancient china nostalgia -- to see is good , to live you have to overcome a few things :
1. The rooms were all connected with same roof - sound proof is bad
2. Air conditioner doesn't function well.
3. No place to eat and it's not disable friendly
Roger
1. The rooms were all connected with same roof - sound proof is bad
2. Air conditioner doesn't function well.
3. No place to eat and it's not disable friendly
Roger
What get you nervous?
At koolung airport express station . The check in on board is great , you can abstain your boarding pass way before the airline open its gate at airport - get your boarding pass , you can enjoy the airport anytime .
The passenger before me can't find his airline tickets ( now people use e tickets right ? ) he is so nervous that reaching every bag / slot but couldn't find it . I didn't post any Gesture but he sense his own and become more nervous .. who push who ? I am taking my time at HK airport this morning .
Roger
The passenger before me can't find his airline tickets ( now people use e tickets right ? ) he is so nervous that reaching every bag / slot but couldn't find it . I didn't post any Gesture but he sense his own and become more nervous .. who push who ? I am taking my time at HK airport this morning .
Roger
2016年10月22日 星期六
No name YEN FORUM
They don't have a name : to me this is not giving meaning / life to a forum .
They are either too young to reflect or to smooth to experience life , so when doing the " what you make : learn from the past " is shallow .
The quality of members varies too much . So the connection level varies , you can't only help but need to resonate ..
And this is my take Away
Roger
They are either too young to reflect or to smooth to experience life , so when doing the " what you make : learn from the past " is shallow .
The quality of members varies too much . So the connection level varies , you can't only help but need to resonate ..
And this is my take Away
Roger
Time
It seems not to be a ruler or constrain to my life these days - if your mind didn't control by time / hour / schedule , you just free yourself out of the " I should rest " " time to go to bed " " I should eat " limitation . I agree to live a regular life is better for most of people but not for everyone -- so if you position yourself not " normal " you can live differently.
You must believe ...
Roger
You must believe ...
Roger
Hero's Journey to YEN is a burden
They plan for months and schedule Biweekly status check to make sure this is on top of their priority - the committee for hero journey
And they can't really deliver . The feeling and emotion they generated are : frustration; shame ; anxiety and stress .
I told them to give it up now and totally forget this assignment, get your life back and be focused on what's important to you .. fail to deliver your promises really frustrating.. I don't want anyone of them to take it too serious and lose focus on what's more important to them .
And I know from the beginning they have difficulty to achieve.
Roger
And they can't really deliver . The feeling and emotion they generated are : frustration; shame ; anxiety and stress .
I told them to give it up now and totally forget this assignment, get your life back and be focused on what's important to you .. fail to deliver your promises really frustrating.. I don't want anyone of them to take it too serious and lose focus on what's more important to them .
And I know from the beginning they have difficulty to achieve.
Roger
Bothering
1. Why I am bothered with Yuang Chung's asking for help in Taiwan ?
2. Why I am uncomfortable about not been officially invited to WPO regional dinner but since seats available, I received call? I am there only to be a substitute? Stand by?
3. Why I am unease about org change in A Zone which will result to potential employ lost jobs or sloppy to stay ?
4. Why I have trouble in mind when Meiling told me my father really not happy about my run my forehead last time which he interpreted as a " I don't like it " signal ?
5. Why on movies : father rescue kids bring up my addrine but back to real world I am distance to fruit still ?
6. Why the best part keep with W is the wet experience but not caring ?
7. Why my anxiety for making ELAC happen is surpassing Daniel ?
8. Why I am prostrate in handling my finances more aggressive?
9. Why I can keep the exercise a must in my improving list .
Roger
2. Why I am uncomfortable about not been officially invited to WPO regional dinner but since seats available, I received call? I am there only to be a substitute? Stand by?
3. Why I am unease about org change in A Zone which will result to potential employ lost jobs or sloppy to stay ?
4. Why I have trouble in mind when Meiling told me my father really not happy about my run my forehead last time which he interpreted as a " I don't like it " signal ?
5. Why on movies : father rescue kids bring up my addrine but back to real world I am distance to fruit still ?
6. Why the best part keep with W is the wet experience but not caring ?
7. Why my anxiety for making ELAC happen is surpassing Daniel ?
8. Why I am prostrate in handling my finances more aggressive?
9. Why I can keep the exercise a must in my improving list .
Roger
2016年10月21日 星期五
Day trip with Khanh & Calvin
They are shopping like teenager and really enjoy day with them :
Lai is a pleasant driver : the 2 magic moment : fu ba Wang pig trout and body massage .
Roger
Tracing back
Today : good movie relax with Meiling " jack reacher " a good entertainment piece .
Daniel done his shoulder and we had the world number one cafe together .
Moderator for the world music festival @ Taiwan : run into Tseng and talk for a while , I make the " Trust " tie with world music and ending with " don't crossing but inclusive " the thing is Franki from Indonesia; Kim from Korea and Angelina from Malaysia may not happy with my giving them hard time answering my question .
GCE : daniel interested in investing , ed is good in creativity .. I brought KC to the session and see how it goes on Nov 1.
Jason session : tough scenario : it's a key stakeholder communication and I am only listen . Don't take side and no " if I were you " statement ...
Roger
Daniel done his shoulder and we had the world number one cafe together .
Moderator for the world music festival @ Taiwan : run into Tseng and talk for a while , I make the " Trust " tie with world music and ending with " don't crossing but inclusive " the thing is Franki from Indonesia; Kim from Korea and Angelina from Malaysia may not happy with my giving them hard time answering my question .
GCE : daniel interested in investing , ed is good in creativity .. I brought KC to the session and see how it goes on Nov 1.
Jason session : tough scenario : it's a key stakeholder communication and I am only listen . Don't take side and no " if I were you " statement ...
Roger
2016年10月19日 星期三
Royce session
After nap , I am fully charged to the Royce session : knowing 3 entity and this time miss the YPO role .
Focus on : making your dream at Xing or selling your dream to others ?
Ipevo : good financial result and postponing ipo statue for 3 months
Panasonic : less resource need but should take strategic role in " how to take the world after someone make changes "
Resonate : seeing the nice side of the person and take the bright side as benefit .
Roger
Focus on : making your dream at Xing or selling your dream to others ?
Ipevo : good financial result and postponing ipo statue for 3 months
Panasonic : less resource need but should take strategic role in " how to take the world after someone make changes "
Resonate : seeing the nice side of the person and take the bright side as benefit .
Roger
Red eye
Taking red eye flight back , the plane took off by 1:40 am and I just falling in sleep straight away .
A better space seems to be important, so I book business class these days , skip all the airplane meals and on flight entertainment , just want to have more personal space when flying .
Roger
A better space seems to be important, so I book business class these days , skip all the airplane meals and on flight entertainment , just want to have more personal space when flying .
Roger
On the road
It's like a non stop journey , I hardly can recall what happen 2 weeks ago , but to counting back : Bangkok for Kirati's forum -- Singapore for Sea Dragon Hero's journey part 2 -- HP 2 days workshop - Nanking forum -- Bon Vie & 6 s retreat to Taiwan - Lite On jr lee -- Beijing greater chain chapter -- Tokyo tiger forum ....
Coming :
HK Yen 10/22 ; Vietnam Hanoi - HCM 10/23 - Taipei Indonisia forum 10/29 - Singapore Diverso 11/03 - HCM city 11/08 stiven - 11/10 Lao mogul forum retreat
Roger
Coming :
HK Yen 10/22 ; Vietnam Hanoi - HCM 10/23 - Taipei Indonisia forum 10/29 - Singapore Diverso 11/03 - HCM city 11/08 stiven - 11/10 Lao mogul forum retreat
Roger
Kirati's forum presentation & exploration workshop
Passing of his majesty king turn the city of Bangkok a sad mood . I check in bendara : Kirati's hotel and Showing with my sea wave sound .
Workshop begin from 2:00 until 7:00 pm
1. Emotion trigger due to King
2. Mother touge make the connection different.
3. Johari window: the unknown explain why 4 steps
4. You can't fake empathy
5. If a rich and powerful people don't give up continue learning , success is attach for sure .
Roger
Workshop begin from 2:00 until 7:00 pm
1. Emotion trigger due to King
2. Mother touge make the connection different.
3. Johari window: the unknown explain why 4 steps
4. You can't fake empathy
5. If a rich and powerful people don't give up continue learning , success is attach for sure .
Roger
2016年10月18日 星期二
Can't stop blogging - am I ADHD still
Can't stop connection - internet work things such as : TV / Movie / books / phone . And writing intensively , am I strong in reflection or it's a symptom for ADHD ?
Roger
Roger
My closing remarks to facilitate World Music Festival Taiwan
1. Form T to T : Nature for World Music / Culture festival - T - Respect - Understanding- Support - T. ( as individuals)
2. ALOHA : ask - listen - observe - help -ask again ( for non profit and government body )
Sharing is to increase the understanding and appreciation about culture and music because we diffusion to .. a ripple effect
Roger
2. ALOHA : ask - listen - observe - help -ask again ( for non profit and government body )
Sharing is to increase the understanding and appreciation about culture and music because we diffusion to .. a ripple effect
Roger
My resonation and connection to Adrian
I feel great to have someone understand my thinking : the other way of thinking is : Feeling - you think by your heart but not Brian .
This is my early morning take away .
Roger
This is my early morning take away .
Roger
2016年10月17日 星期一
Today in Singapore
Visit Singapore management university and its incubation center , see Teck Mor's pet project : homage and this is my finding :
Homage model
1. 3 key area : demand ( elder ) supply ( nursery center - care giver training ) operation: it - networks - mobile .
2. Model : 1) Share economy ( no inventory) 2) supply chain to home 3) home drug refill
3. Quick Sand as supply : destruction to hospital ( home as your hospital) : clouds to prevent - assessment
4. Roll out and scale up : center models with local development ( nursing center - e commence - drug market )
5. Feel the need & Fill the Need : We Cares
Shaw center is the place I have lunch and do a body massage. Then I bought myself an Italian designer bag - yes , looks roughy and it's Esoterism..
Done more local delicacy and finish my work about " kitati forum meeting " " YEN one page supercharge " - book myself to the crown plaza airport hotel yesterday and check in by 4:00 pm . Again enjoy local street food at terminal 3 B 2 food arcade ..
Back to my room , the wifi didn't function , push the wrong service bottoms " the emergency " button response immediately: sir , are you in danger ? Wow .....
Packing and shower , time to call home and go to bed earlier tonight .. enjoy airport transit hotel - crown plaza - good quality .
Roger
2016年10月16日 星期日
Hero's journey learning
1. CTO is essential to all
2. Ice breaker and check in is must
3. Forum fundamental : especially listen and empathy sharing is key .
4. To connect forum experience:
CS Lewis : 4 loves : the sibling and friendship is one love and empathy bond is the others -- very profound connection .
5. Reflection to your life : 3 numbers transform your life and make who you are today works well and can re do it .
6. Steps :
- guardian angel is a feed forward exercise
- death and rebirth is a list of " my desire " and " my fears "
- you ask them to keep only one card with you to either slay or turn to goals
- dragon slay gesture is powerful : one by one or as a group
- follow your bliss : answer and sharing
- atonement: letter to you
- full circle : my personal learning and the acknowledgment of complete journey today .
Roger
2. Ice breaker and check in is must
3. Forum fundamental : especially listen and empathy sharing is key .
4. To connect forum experience:
CS Lewis : 4 loves : the sibling and friendship is one love and empathy bond is the others -- very profound connection .
5. Reflection to your life : 3 numbers transform your life and make who you are today works well and can re do it .
6. Steps :
- guardian angel is a feed forward exercise
- death and rebirth is a list of " my desire " and " my fears "
- you ask them to keep only one card with you to either slay or turn to goals
- dragon slay gesture is powerful : one by one or as a group
- follow your bliss : answer and sharing
- atonement: letter to you
- full circle : my personal learning and the acknowledgment of complete journey today .
Roger
My brief Singapore experience this afternoon
You find the beauty saloon at second - 3rd tier of shopping mall and it's a camouflage to man's fantasy:
Also some very delicious local food hiding at top floor with less expensive local delicacy
Also the department store price much less for your grosorory .. a 2 hours exploration to shopping mall next to Grand Hyatt .
Roger
Also some very delicious local food hiding at top floor with less expensive local delicacy
Also the department store price much less for your grosorory .. a 2 hours exploration to shopping mall next to Grand Hyatt .
Roger
Hero's journey part 2
For the opening and rehearsal for new comer and for the additional members .
What flow works
1. Why was the first time you fall in love ? Pair
2. Ice breaker share group :
3. Reflective : 3 numbers in life : connecting the dot ; footprint and trajectory.
4. Feed forward :
Roger
What flow works
1. Why was the first time you fall in love ? Pair
2. Ice breaker share group :
3. Reflective : 3 numbers in life : connecting the dot ; footprint and trajectory.
4. Feed forward :
Roger
Late night check in
It's a thunder lightning night , and the moto driver with tattoo on his body all wet ..
Roger
Roger
HP another day
The impact is significant, I don't know how big is the stone I throw into their lake of heart , all I know is ripple is growing and no one see the end ...
I enjoy the whole session as much as they do , especially so many participant take time to share with me and show me their appreciation during class break . This is the beauty for doing what I do.
Passion is where your talent cross with your calling and then you willing to suffer your life performing this mission .
First time I open my line ID to all of them , as the video said : empathy is not reaction. It's connection ... change is happening .
Roger
2016年10月14日 星期五
HP : my personal learning
1. A random select team leader
2. Sign up more than assigned
3. Feed back with deep reflection :
- I knew him for 9 years , but this is the first hand we shake hands . The feeling is so different
- I never learn it from MBA course , it really help me
- my younger sister interviewed you before , I told her you are so different now .
Roger
2. Sign up more than assigned
3. Feed back with deep reflection :
- I knew him for 9 years , but this is the first hand we shake hands . The feeling is so different
- I never learn it from MBA course , it really help me
- my younger sister interviewed you before , I told her you are so different now .
Roger
2016年10月13日 星期四
Passing away
Happen for past few days : David lee Chi's mother ; Chung Yang's husband....
Meiling said this is the season , I don't agree .
Roger
Meiling said this is the season , I don't agree .
Roger
Movies
Eternally: the art is almost perfect but I don't know how to appreciate rest of the film , Meiling say : it's about birth , death and heritage.
Inferno : sequel after davici code - it's a ok movie with big production .
Rage : Japanese film with many elements . The layout is for tracing an outlaw , 3 story of trust developed : a gay mistaken his orphan gay partner ; a falling angel mistaken her cover boy friend ; the killer play the trust game and get himself killed in an off shore island from Okinawa .
Golden line :
1. No matter people telling lie or truth. It's your decision to believe it or not.
2. What's important in life won't increase , or decrease from time to time.
Roger
Inferno : sequel after davici code - it's a ok movie with big production .
Rage : Japanese film with many elements . The layout is for tracing an outlaw , 3 story of trust developed : a gay mistaken his orphan gay partner ; a falling angel mistaken her cover boy friend ; the killer play the trust game and get himself killed in an off shore island from Okinawa .
Golden line :
1. No matter people telling lie or truth. It's your decision to believe it or not.
2. What's important in life won't increase , or decrease from time to time.
Roger
2016年10月12日 星期三
I am printing still
The tendency drive me to do color printing at ambassador hotel alive still .. nice vibe - just to follow Vai's term .
VIP lounge staff come and go - thanks for passing on " this is our consultant " legacy which make me feel comfortable still - I should bring them cookie next round .
Fruit and Meiling develop another quarries , of course I know what happen but not to weighted on any side ( take side is bias ) I keep doing what is nurture .. it's a family tie and gesture ...
Roger
VIP lounge staff come and go - thanks for passing on " this is our consultant " legacy which make me feel comfortable still - I should bring them cookie next round .
Fruit and Meiling develop another quarries , of course I know what happen but not to weighted on any side ( take side is bias ) I keep doing what is nurture .. it's a family tie and gesture ...
Roger
Hanes morning
He is vulnerable and when I share the 2 monks retreat story : cross river and the one save drawing girl ... " why you carry her still ? " that trigger him to cry ...
For the rest :
1. Life inventory about what you have .
2. Learn to live with the black dog inside
3. Don't develop a sense of self complaining
4. Think what mentally / physical thing you do bring you back to happiness
5. It's a symptom and know it's a sickness
Roger
For the rest :
1. Life inventory about what you have .
2. Learn to live with the black dog inside
3. Don't develop a sense of self complaining
4. Think what mentally / physical thing you do bring you back to happiness
5. It's a symptom and know it's a sickness
Roger
HP orientation
It's a new hp and I am happy to connect with team moderator today : although I can't remember their name
1. The team leader is random pick
2. Most of them are left brain
Teresa with HP for more than 20 years and transfer to HR 5 years ago
Nankang software park is different now
Roger
1. The team leader is random pick
2. Most of them are left brain
Teresa with HP for more than 20 years and transfer to HR 5 years ago
Nankang software park is different now
Roger
Victoria's Secret
Who as husband ever bought his wife lingering underwear? I did it at airport duty shop day before yesterday, first Victoria secret underwear for Meiling and it looks gorgeous, the only uncertain is " size "
Do the pepper shrimp dinner last night when return from Nanking and I told myself :
1. Until next forum in taipei : reduce my weight to 70 kg
2. Make routine exercise ( all kind )a goal and commitment .
I did a mountaineering this morning in spite of the rain , on the way up my raincoat can handle it , now it's getting heavier and I am figure it out how to get off "Fairy Food Stone "
Roger
Do the pepper shrimp dinner last night when return from Nanking and I told myself :
1. Until next forum in taipei : reduce my weight to 70 kg
2. Make routine exercise ( all kind )a goal and commitment .
I did a mountaineering this morning in spite of the rain , on the way up my raincoat can handle it , now it's getting heavier and I am figure it out how to get off "Fairy Food Stone "
Roger
Eye mask and mad dream
Meiling ask me to put on eye mask last night when I get in bed and told me not to remove it until she done her late nigh routine and remove for me.
During the dark period , I had so many dark dream and the only thing I know is " can't move it away " I can't recall any of them now .
Roger
During the dark period , I had so many dark dream and the only thing I know is " can't move it away " I can't recall any of them now .
Roger
2016年10月11日 星期二
Up Update 2
1. Emotions bank accounts
2. Steve Vai monthly update
3. Holding someone accountable
Roger
2. Steve Vai monthly update
3. Holding someone accountable
Roger
My up Update
This is an ice breaker I thought at breakfast . When everyone done his update in official forum meeting , he or she share many others during other social windows . Why and what make he / she pick the things to share at forum and what else we can hear more ?
This is my up update :
1. The musical and suffering Taiwanese @ Keelung .
2. The Jason Shu encounter at Xing
3. My challenge at the Bon Vie forum supercharge
4. Black Dog institute
5. My tiger forum experience and Toku session :
6. Daniel in Vietnam and ELAC
7. Lite-On group CEO's concern
8. Resolve of a forum dispute : AD + AD
Roger
This is my up update :
1. The musical and suffering Taiwanese @ Keelung .
2. The Jason Shu encounter at Xing
3. My challenge at the Bon Vie forum supercharge
4. Black Dog institute
5. My tiger forum experience and Toku session :
6. Daniel in Vietnam and ELAC
7. Lite-On group CEO's concern
8. Resolve of a forum dispute : AD + AD
Roger
Lucid dream
Why I beat Meiling so hard , it's a reflection of domestic violent which I never did It before .
And : sound in my dream , I can't remember details .
Roger
And : sound in my dream , I can't remember details .
Roger
2016年10月10日 星期一
Chung San Tomb
I am here at Nanking and don't want to miss chance seeing tomb of Dr. Sun Yi Seng , by the way , why Buddha's scull is place in Nanking as well ... it cause my curiosity .
Roger
Roger
Double tenth day in Nan Jing
This is a rare but Memorial Day as I never been to Nanjing and won't think my virgin trip will be on this special day .
Done my " rationale " and " storyboard " with HP 2days workshop , finish my forum meeting reflecting and introspection without trace back my blog - a new finding . Not to rely on the record I made .
A long whatsapp chat with Daniel like an update and having first beef moss burger at airport .
Economy line to check in airplane counter - oh I forget to speed up my APEC card .
HD is bothering me : too much fantasy and illusion complicate my " righteousness " yes , this is the question: when was last time I fall in love "
Buy Meiling 3 set of underwear. It's Victoria's Secret and she never experience it before . A not in the plan mindset
Roger
Done my " rationale " and " storyboard " with HP 2days workshop , finish my forum meeting reflecting and introspection without trace back my blog - a new finding . Not to rely on the record I made .
A long whatsapp chat with Daniel like an update and having first beef moss burger at airport .
Economy line to check in airplane counter - oh I forget to speed up my APEC card .
HD is bothering me : too much fantasy and illusion complicate my " righteousness " yes , this is the question: when was last time I fall in love "
Buy Meiling 3 set of underwear. It's Victoria's Secret and she never experience it before . A not in the plan mindset
Roger
2016年10月9日 星期日
Do nothing versus nothing to do
Ron ask for good tissues massage in taipei and a subtle invitation to dinner, I don't want to answer for dinner as I want to have a " do nothing " day off .
The do nothing create 2 things : 1) movie : mastermind and movie : significant 7 . Both are ok movie , sound and Meiling just accompany me there .
Reply Royce what to do with J's issue : by separating fact and feeling , you can handle it well . It seems works for him and now I now his kitchen cabinets is : Mother , grace and me ....
Roger
The do nothing create 2 things : 1) movie : mastermind and movie : significant 7 . Both are ok movie , sound and Meiling just accompany me there .
Reply Royce what to do with J's issue : by separating fact and feeling , you can handle it well . It seems works for him and now I now his kitchen cabinets is : Mother , grace and me ....
Roger
2016年10月8日 星期六
2 complimentary forum retreat experience
Bon Vie : the challenge and difficulty I face and how I adapt and follow it through : thanks god I said to everyone this is a complimentary forum supercharge in advance : Ron and black dog , and some connection built .
6s : Nhan ; Henry and Phuong help me to accelerate and brings trust - vulnerability to the forum , I made a sweet and short closing and saving 2 hours for everyone .
Dinner next to Ann : a very bonding neighborhood in sharing
Roger
6s : Nhan ; Henry and Phuong help me to accelerate and brings trust - vulnerability to the forum , I made a sweet and short closing and saving 2 hours for everyone .
Dinner next to Ann : a very bonding neighborhood in sharing
Roger
2016年10月7日 星期五
Who's here from 6 s
Henry , Nhan , Sany , phong , Anne , Chris
Miss : Minh Le Hong . ? ( new )
Exit : manufacturing ?
Roger
Miss : Minh Le Hong . ? ( new )
Exit : manufacturing ?
Roger
2016年10月6日 星期四
Who's in today dinner
Surprises and no surprise : Taipei side : sunny Huang ; Danny Chiu ; Welham Tsai ; Sam Wang ; Jason Tseng ; Bowei Chu .
Roger
Roger
DUI WITH R from 151
DUI#151: Emotion Bank Account
The Things : when the terms come out at our monthly session , it didn't go away yet grows , the resonation for my " E bank account " kept me thinking throughout my YPO years - Who I deposit my E bank account ? What emotion I have with them ? When did I save or withdraw it ? What's the balance today ? Friendship is an intangible asset , and Trust is the accelerator to friendship . I know I am rich in this perspective and I felt even luckier it's a positive chain reaction , friendship with trust generate energy for me to Do More . Or as what religious people says : " go extra miles "
The Why : I see the connector role of mine grows , the no discount trust parallels to the friend I mutually introduce is like a magic - how come the speed of connection and result can go so fast and tight ? I only hope my into benefit both party as I holds no expectation to the outcomes of business . 3 of my closest YPO friends from Thailand swift reply to see / meet Horace on his coming visit - I sense the no discount trust and feel a great E bank deposit increase .
Take Away :
1. When the decision come to should I trust the guy ? You need a good Endorsement.
2. When you hold no expectation, you wipe out one layer of concern and foster the connection .
3. To have but not to holds - as happiness and as friendship
4. Keep doing and do more in connection.
F & E : I am so rich .
DUI#152 Hello AJ
The things : take early flight to Beijing and run into AJ Huang on the same flight and sitting next to me . A wondering soul and my formal local forum mate in Taipei , I have not seeing each other for year and no particular reason to connect recently , but the smile and greeting is authentic so we talks about what I do recently , as a matter of fact - after all these years .
The Why : AJ ask for join international forum year ago , at that time , I am hesitating to follow up , today when it brought up again, I feel much comfortable to introduce one of my 2 regional forum to him and also felt the intimacy for having him sit on the same forum . As no comparison and no competition mindset birth in me , I am willing to introduce him to my regional forum .
Take Away :
1. All my formal local forum mate find their new forum except a few . Once you experience forum , you need someone to talk or someplace to share .
2. Everything happen for a reason , on my way to facilitate the pilot " Great China Chapter " forum fundamental workshop , I recall my memories with first forum I join.
3. Forum is the language protocols - and the protocols shorten your distance with any YPOer.
F & E : excited and hope for new connection in different place & space .
DUI#153: Greater China Chapter FF
The Things : invite to provide the forum fundamental workshop to newly established Chapter in Beijing , to facilitate workshop in Mandarin is comfortable to me and it's a new experience to new member gathering in Beijing for the workshop .
The Why : challenge and opportunity for YPO to develop his " leaders market in China " is to grow significant members without suffering his overall spirit ( quality : boutique connection : intimacy and shared value ) , greater china chapter trial is an initiative . As YPO promote forum / networks as it's hero product . I am the only facilitator who can deliver the mandarin training without a mandarin program material , I was call for take this assignment . Overall speaking , forum experience always amaze me , erotically when peers willing to openly demonstrate mutual trust , today , I receive the same warm response . The benefit for members as facilitator is participant willing to buy in fast and you can always easily share a first hand experience.
Take Away :
1. Right here , right now set the tone for check in and buy in.
2. Demonstrate a forum meeting bring live experience.
3. Feel safe to disclose make the space different.
4. Charisma added up impressions.
5. Those who visit Taiwan before love Taiwan still and I am treated as trainer with Taiwan flavors .
F & E : bless , I did it again .
DUI#154: 「Hell or High Water 」:The movie
The Things : my mood shift today after complete a long day workshop and take the delayed airplane back . I was home 1:00 in the morning - so for today , Meiling and I go for movies to switch my mind for conducting another 2 days workshop tomorrow with 光寶。I use the window to evacuate my mind and refresh from "workshop mood " Meiling and I pick on Israel movie " The tale about love and darkness " at " wonderful theater " an art film rewrote from famous Israel write Amos Oz and took another one - " hell or high water " a semi commercial crime movie and the second one is a cult film we enjoy .
The Way : director is my major check point for going to movies : David Mackenzie is a rising star to me - " hell or high water " rationalize the crime , it give the brother a good cause to rob the bank and to save the family- when follow the scene , every crime they did " make sense " to me , things like rationale behind and the consequences it brings . Texas, county local bank , oil drill and runaways - bring me to the imaginary land I only see from the movie - It's another half day hide away .
Take Away :
1. A purely reflection to my behavior after intensive workshop - hiding somewhere in the dark box and dive in different scenes .
2. When my mind told me to find some movie and relax , I don't really care what I see but where I be - a routine ritual I perform.
3. When it's done , I know I should get back to work again - it's a pay off
F & E : happily rehearsals for next 2 days
DUI#155: lite-on workshop day 1
The thing : with the theme " coaching base leadership development workshop " a 2 days 14 hours intense session for 7 business forums create by lite-on " hi potential executives " - an open public workshop i did for my professor JR Lee.
The Why : tried to formalize an executive program for non YPO members and JR Lee offers a platform years ago , from a session to one day and now 2 days workshops , I gain the confidence to bring what I learnt and experience in YPO to the world beyond . To connect totally stranger who never have forum experience and result to a viable open dialogue is a happy process , first day is critical , it's a check in and buy in day , I hope for all in day tomorrow.
Take Away :
1. My way of facilitation been call to deliver an " art of leadership "
2. Almost all dive to vulnerable stage and openly take risk in sharing .
3. Excited to know the 4 major leadership attribution : vision ; passion ; integrity ; communication overlapped with Warren Bennie's finding as his masterpiece " becoming the leader " the mission one is " Trust "
4. Professor lee take the lunch break share me his finding in the morning : do more than talk more : I immediately re-arrange my slide and process and make the afternoon more interactive .
5. Powerful take away from 7 teams on check out finding .
F & E : check in - buy in - all in ; you got to believe .
DUI#156: another day at lite-on workshop :
The Things : first day : check in and buy in pay off , collect 2 videos for check in this morning , both work well to bring everyone into the save and trust space . Program today is a concert corporate version - major difference in peer coaching from corporate hierarchy is " share your own experience but not giving advise "
The Why : I see the ODM / OEM talents lost their touch to be human being, constrain in the high pressure and no lapse of rest environments for too long , to lead them into a mind space is like letting a sleeping tiger get out of the cage , I am a little hesitate if I should drive them deeper , in the end I decided to follow my heart and be an appropriate director to product the show in second day . The result is amazing , cross BG talents build their intimacy , I use YPO 2015-2016 education program teaser " paradigm shift " as the closing video and to echo the theme of " Change and Better " workshop complete by 5:00 pm right before typhoon disturbing everyone's mind.
Take away : empathy and open in sharing are 2 major take away today ; unconventional worship shift everyone's expectations and I just perform better on where my passion drive .. another memory to be remembered.
F & E : empathy is to feel how others feel
DUI#157: typhoon day reflection
The Things : home stay , a very normal role as husband , father and son. I wasn't home when last 2 typhoon hit , and I decide cancel my trip to Shanghai today for the reason of stay with family and do nothing .
The Why : it's by far the strongest typhoon impact Taipei , I am glad for the decision made , meiling and I went every early to buy my favorite local breakfast and we over buy some for lunch . Watching National Geographic TV on a detective nature documentary, it talk about a father hire 2 private investigator to Costa Rica investigate his missing son - a better than movie experience as this is a Real Documentary.
Take away : 24 hours with your wife , you spot many behavior from her and begin your coaching process - this is good to realize the self awareness and my daily profession can support Meiling immediately.
F & E : a word association game pop up : what come to you when heard " typhoon " ?
DUI#158: 28th wedding anniversary
The Things : meiling and I have seen each other for 5 years and 28 years ago today we decided to build a family , it's been 30 more years since we knew each other . 9/28 if not for particular reason , we will drove out and spend a day together , no check mail and go freely anywhere we want to be.
The Why : day after typhoon, we decided to go outside - tamsui first and take 淡金公路 to 亞尼克 for our wedding small cake - on the road , meiling told me this is exactly the route I took the day before I went for the Heart surgery , I didn't recall until she mentioned , the route must mean something to me - had a beach side lunch and having our wedding cake at Yanick locate at 萬里。
Take away : we take the routine often yet realized why - we drifting with the one we love without explaining anything ; we ate at the same place and order the same food without judging the taste ; we reinforce the memories we wish to keep. I don't know how many times meiling and I ride on the same road but we know this is the true meaning of companion .
F & E : It is not another day , it's a wonderful day.
DUI#159: the other side ( hard or dark ) of Roger
The Things : taking up A zone leadership role for a while , Transfer me from coach - consultant to the man who take responsibility, a zone VP seems still out of the loop of my key concerns : turn around the business , as the one on one today , I send messages and explore to him the other side of Roger - the corporate guy and can be a result driven zombie.
The Why : the message I deliver kept me thinking the complicate in human behavior and this is to recap message I sent :
1. You have to work with KC : if you don't like the consultant I been trust for 50 years , I will take all responsibility back to myself .
2. You have close to 2000 friends on FB : it's not easy to build such a good connection, don't screw it up .
3. We are not a tender offering firm , don't waste time in developing non value added activity - similar to attach to III program .
4. There is no strategy in doing anything , we are here to saving cost and increase revenue .
5. High level management change ? Many rumors - what coming from me is the only truth .
6. Don't send me the daily sales - it's no point to me if not an analyze information .
7. Do what you have to do but don't use it to downplay others and hijack the communication window with me .
8. If we can't turn around - I will turn it back to ministry of culture and it only shows everyone we are incompetent.
9. Don't waste our life .
10. If you can't lead , I will take it
Take Away : the responsibility shifting your role and you act on the assign role .
F & E : lead is not talking only , if talking can be leading ... please keep talking yet walking .
DUI#160 : why you do what you do ?
The Things: a corporate trained person call me and ask for a follow up meeting , she knew I can't remember who she was and told me it's on profession JR Lee's NTU back to 3 months ago .. we meet at csr community office this morning .
The Why : when saw her , I recall the day at lunch , professor lee and her sit next to me and she show strong interest in what I do and how I did it - a totally revolution to corporate training - and she carry a mission to ask if I can do it for corporate . Actually she is more interested in " why I do what I do " than asking for a quotation : her question drive me to think through :
Take Away :
1. I love Connect with talent and manage them : in the music days , I am support talent in entertainment field ; as a coach , I am supporting talents in business field
2. Talent share 3 similar attribution : lonely ; insecure; eccentric .
3. When walk in worship , I never take it as a training but a co-create theater with everybody .
4. You seed and it sprout - one day the harvest may come .
F & E : feel connects , rationalize what I do .
DUI#162: True Detective Day
The Day : bought HBO mini series " true detective " the other day via the recommendation of my Tiger Forum mate , Meiling and I decided to finish the 8 episodes series today , so we begin our TV day from 8:30 am - TD to me is more a psychologically than crime drama , series killer always a good topic to build story the detective partner demonstrate totally different character paint the drama more dramatic . We enjoy TD and finish it in one day .
The Why : HBO produce " games of the throne " Netflix release " House of Cards " the TV channel base big production take a significant cut from the Hollywood pie - I always fascinated by how TV production can spend more resource than movie production and becomes a serious fan to mini drama - seldom I am disappointed, the only burden I develop is : do I really want to spend so much time on it ?
Take Away :
1. A few good lines : " the world is a flat circle " " you can't trust a man who don't trust themselves " everything outside your dimension is eternity " " when you advise , what comes to me is you are talking to yourself "
2. As I observe more in psychological dialogue , so many scene bring me reflection to where I was before - so vivid
3. A good relax before heavy dual forum retreat week .
F & E : life in fast lane and you can only look ahead .
DUI#164: Day Trip Huilien
The Things : since take over A Zone leaders' role in Aug. I didn't officially speak to all the A Zone co-works in public , today is my day to tell everyone 12 things in my mind and the session begin from 13:30 , my 25 minutes sharing is swift yet I secure time for one on one with manager and it last till 5:30 pm .
The Why : change is hurt and leave your comfort zone ain't easy , before I share my 12 points. I draw to an conclusion that 「人生不是「得到」就是「學到」千萬別到頭來一個都沒拿到。」and my points are :
1. 我會的，你們不會的。
2. 我不能的，你們能的。
3. 不是一個工作，不是一份薪水。
4. 突破：平行學習，共同成長。
5. 管理：自我領導，同儕領導。
6. 不能增進能力；不能增加營收；不能提高效率的不做。
7. 不懂就問，不會要説。
8. 不發黑函，不説人短。
9. 職務和職掌；授權和賦能；決策和執行。
10. 今年的策略只有：減少虧損，調整人的品質；建立作業標準。
11. 「想做」的讓你快樂；「該做」的難免痛苦。
12. 人不能「腦袋空空」或「口袋空空」
Take Away :
1. On one on give people a chance to disclose .
2. Stress and Depression is too common these days
3. You share you own story and lay trust to others first
4. I am too remote from operation .
F & E : coach surpass taught; consequences of change is inevitable.
DUI# 166:depression: a common mental issue for modern people
1. The Things : I sense my coach develop a withdrawal emotions and asked what happen , the wording let me feel the depression is everywhere today . It was said " I can feel something bad is going to happen " the person who " investing " or " image " negative emotion will bring down his / her energy and passion . Yesterday when conduct one on one with A Zone mangers . 2 of them seeking professional treatment as well.
2. The Way : " under extreme pressure " seems like a common statement around me and during my coaching practice I can see it getting serious day by day , what wake you up in the middle of the night turn to a 21 century mental issue , as I develop the depression before and learn how to bail myself out of the misery, I use my personal experience to support who suffers from depression, the more I help , the more I realized mental Heath is as impotence as physical health . And I believe in non medication cure .
3. Take away :
- Reset is the key : don't let the depression bias your mental judgements.
- Naming your depression : give it a name - a pet or whatever you can easily call it .
- Parking : park the named depression aside and to separate you and the depression
- Meditation : self - suggestion that this is what you willing to co-exist
- When come back again : call the name / park it
4. F & E : you can see through the eyes to know a person's inner health .
DUI#166: coaching is needed
The Things : Jason arrive at lunch 30 minutes before Mathew , the window of 1 on 1 giving us space to connect and his honestly & transparency kick in when overheard my profession is coaching now . Jason inform me a life coach needed who can help him dealing with Parliament life - a life can't allow anyone to be " himself " . A distortion of role many people can't handle it well .
The Why : vulnerability foster the trust , empathy resonate our own experience , by listening and understanding, I knew it clear that I am here to help - support a person who carries hopes for citizen in Taiwan . You can't give anyone what you don't have ... to let Jason HAVE before GIVE is essential . What I can't be sure is our conversation before lunch is an interaction of sharing or intention for solving or even furthermore:an invitation to coach ?
Take away :
1. Coaching is a "love at first sight "syndrome for both party .
2. You don't feel coach exist if you don't feel like coaching .
3. Anxiety is an urban and modern disease - it cross gender , industry and all walk of life .
4. Mental health is hard to diagnosis - you need to find a way to let it flow .
F & E : it's like falling in Love - in a bold expression .
Roger
The Things : when the terms come out at our monthly session , it didn't go away yet grows , the resonation for my " E bank account " kept me thinking throughout my YPO years - Who I deposit my E bank account ? What emotion I have with them ? When did I save or withdraw it ? What's the balance today ? Friendship is an intangible asset , and Trust is the accelerator to friendship . I know I am rich in this perspective and I felt even luckier it's a positive chain reaction , friendship with trust generate energy for me to Do More . Or as what religious people says : " go extra miles "
The Why : I see the connector role of mine grows , the no discount trust parallels to the friend I mutually introduce is like a magic - how come the speed of connection and result can go so fast and tight ? I only hope my into benefit both party as I holds no expectation to the outcomes of business . 3 of my closest YPO friends from Thailand swift reply to see / meet Horace on his coming visit - I sense the no discount trust and feel a great E bank deposit increase .
Take Away :
1. When the decision come to should I trust the guy ? You need a good Endorsement.
2. When you hold no expectation, you wipe out one layer of concern and foster the connection .
3. To have but not to holds - as happiness and as friendship
4. Keep doing and do more in connection.
F & E : I am so rich .
DUI#152 Hello AJ
The things : take early flight to Beijing and run into AJ Huang on the same flight and sitting next to me . A wondering soul and my formal local forum mate in Taipei , I have not seeing each other for year and no particular reason to connect recently , but the smile and greeting is authentic so we talks about what I do recently , as a matter of fact - after all these years .
The Why : AJ ask for join international forum year ago , at that time , I am hesitating to follow up , today when it brought up again, I feel much comfortable to introduce one of my 2 regional forum to him and also felt the intimacy for having him sit on the same forum . As no comparison and no competition mindset birth in me , I am willing to introduce him to my regional forum .
Take Away :
1. All my formal local forum mate find their new forum except a few . Once you experience forum , you need someone to talk or someplace to share .
2. Everything happen for a reason , on my way to facilitate the pilot " Great China Chapter " forum fundamental workshop , I recall my memories with first forum I join.
3. Forum is the language protocols - and the protocols shorten your distance with any YPOer.
F & E : excited and hope for new connection in different place & space .
DUI#153: Greater China Chapter FF
The Things : invite to provide the forum fundamental workshop to newly established Chapter in Beijing , to facilitate workshop in Mandarin is comfortable to me and it's a new experience to new member gathering in Beijing for the workshop .
The Why : challenge and opportunity for YPO to develop his " leaders market in China " is to grow significant members without suffering his overall spirit ( quality : boutique connection : intimacy and shared value ) , greater china chapter trial is an initiative . As YPO promote forum / networks as it's hero product . I am the only facilitator who can deliver the mandarin training without a mandarin program material , I was call for take this assignment . Overall speaking , forum experience always amaze me , erotically when peers willing to openly demonstrate mutual trust , today , I receive the same warm response . The benefit for members as facilitator is participant willing to buy in fast and you can always easily share a first hand experience.
Take Away :
1. Right here , right now set the tone for check in and buy in.
2. Demonstrate a forum meeting bring live experience.
3. Feel safe to disclose make the space different.
4. Charisma added up impressions.
5. Those who visit Taiwan before love Taiwan still and I am treated as trainer with Taiwan flavors .
F & E : bless , I did it again .
DUI#154: 「Hell or High Water 」:The movie
The Things : my mood shift today after complete a long day workshop and take the delayed airplane back . I was home 1:00 in the morning - so for today , Meiling and I go for movies to switch my mind for conducting another 2 days workshop tomorrow with 光寶。I use the window to evacuate my mind and refresh from "workshop mood " Meiling and I pick on Israel movie " The tale about love and darkness " at " wonderful theater " an art film rewrote from famous Israel write Amos Oz and took another one - " hell or high water " a semi commercial crime movie and the second one is a cult film we enjoy .
The Way : director is my major check point for going to movies : David Mackenzie is a rising star to me - " hell or high water " rationalize the crime , it give the brother a good cause to rob the bank and to save the family- when follow the scene , every crime they did " make sense " to me , things like rationale behind and the consequences it brings . Texas, county local bank , oil drill and runaways - bring me to the imaginary land I only see from the movie - It's another half day hide away .
Take Away :
1. A purely reflection to my behavior after intensive workshop - hiding somewhere in the dark box and dive in different scenes .
2. When my mind told me to find some movie and relax , I don't really care what I see but where I be - a routine ritual I perform.
3. When it's done , I know I should get back to work again - it's a pay off
F & E : happily rehearsals for next 2 days
DUI#155: lite-on workshop day 1
The thing : with the theme " coaching base leadership development workshop " a 2 days 14 hours intense session for 7 business forums create by lite-on " hi potential executives " - an open public workshop i did for my professor JR Lee.
The Why : tried to formalize an executive program for non YPO members and JR Lee offers a platform years ago , from a session to one day and now 2 days workshops , I gain the confidence to bring what I learnt and experience in YPO to the world beyond . To connect totally stranger who never have forum experience and result to a viable open dialogue is a happy process , first day is critical , it's a check in and buy in day , I hope for all in day tomorrow.
Take Away :
1. My way of facilitation been call to deliver an " art of leadership "
2. Almost all dive to vulnerable stage and openly take risk in sharing .
3. Excited to know the 4 major leadership attribution : vision ; passion ; integrity ; communication overlapped with Warren Bennie's finding as his masterpiece " becoming the leader " the mission one is " Trust "
4. Professor lee take the lunch break share me his finding in the morning : do more than talk more : I immediately re-arrange my slide and process and make the afternoon more interactive .
5. Powerful take away from 7 teams on check out finding .
F & E : check in - buy in - all in ; you got to believe .
DUI#156: another day at lite-on workshop :
The Things : first day : check in and buy in pay off , collect 2 videos for check in this morning , both work well to bring everyone into the save and trust space . Program today is a concert corporate version - major difference in peer coaching from corporate hierarchy is " share your own experience but not giving advise "
The Why : I see the ODM / OEM talents lost their touch to be human being, constrain in the high pressure and no lapse of rest environments for too long , to lead them into a mind space is like letting a sleeping tiger get out of the cage , I am a little hesitate if I should drive them deeper , in the end I decided to follow my heart and be an appropriate director to product the show in second day . The result is amazing , cross BG talents build their intimacy , I use YPO 2015-2016 education program teaser " paradigm shift " as the closing video and to echo the theme of " Change and Better " workshop complete by 5:00 pm right before typhoon disturbing everyone's mind.
Take away : empathy and open in sharing are 2 major take away today ; unconventional worship shift everyone's expectations and I just perform better on where my passion drive .. another memory to be remembered.
F & E : empathy is to feel how others feel
DUI#157: typhoon day reflection
The Things : home stay , a very normal role as husband , father and son. I wasn't home when last 2 typhoon hit , and I decide cancel my trip to Shanghai today for the reason of stay with family and do nothing .
The Why : it's by far the strongest typhoon impact Taipei , I am glad for the decision made , meiling and I went every early to buy my favorite local breakfast and we over buy some for lunch . Watching National Geographic TV on a detective nature documentary, it talk about a father hire 2 private investigator to Costa Rica investigate his missing son - a better than movie experience as this is a Real Documentary.
Take away : 24 hours with your wife , you spot many behavior from her and begin your coaching process - this is good to realize the self awareness and my daily profession can support Meiling immediately.
F & E : a word association game pop up : what come to you when heard " typhoon " ?
DUI#158: 28th wedding anniversary
The Things : meiling and I have seen each other for 5 years and 28 years ago today we decided to build a family , it's been 30 more years since we knew each other . 9/28 if not for particular reason , we will drove out and spend a day together , no check mail and go freely anywhere we want to be.
The Why : day after typhoon, we decided to go outside - tamsui first and take 淡金公路 to 亞尼克 for our wedding small cake - on the road , meiling told me this is exactly the route I took the day before I went for the Heart surgery , I didn't recall until she mentioned , the route must mean something to me - had a beach side lunch and having our wedding cake at Yanick locate at 萬里。
Take away : we take the routine often yet realized why - we drifting with the one we love without explaining anything ; we ate at the same place and order the same food without judging the taste ; we reinforce the memories we wish to keep. I don't know how many times meiling and I ride on the same road but we know this is the true meaning of companion .
F & E : It is not another day , it's a wonderful day.
DUI#159: the other side ( hard or dark ) of Roger
The Things : taking up A zone leadership role for a while , Transfer me from coach - consultant to the man who take responsibility, a zone VP seems still out of the loop of my key concerns : turn around the business , as the one on one today , I send messages and explore to him the other side of Roger - the corporate guy and can be a result driven zombie.
The Why : the message I deliver kept me thinking the complicate in human behavior and this is to recap message I sent :
1. You have to work with KC : if you don't like the consultant I been trust for 50 years , I will take all responsibility back to myself .
2. You have close to 2000 friends on FB : it's not easy to build such a good connection, don't screw it up .
3. We are not a tender offering firm , don't waste time in developing non value added activity - similar to attach to III program .
4. There is no strategy in doing anything , we are here to saving cost and increase revenue .
5. High level management change ? Many rumors - what coming from me is the only truth .
6. Don't send me the daily sales - it's no point to me if not an analyze information .
7. Do what you have to do but don't use it to downplay others and hijack the communication window with me .
8. If we can't turn around - I will turn it back to ministry of culture and it only shows everyone we are incompetent.
9. Don't waste our life .
10. If you can't lead , I will take it
Take Away : the responsibility shifting your role and you act on the assign role .
F & E : lead is not talking only , if talking can be leading ... please keep talking yet walking .
DUI#160 : why you do what you do ?
The Things: a corporate trained person call me and ask for a follow up meeting , she knew I can't remember who she was and told me it's on profession JR Lee's NTU back to 3 months ago .. we meet at csr community office this morning .
The Why : when saw her , I recall the day at lunch , professor lee and her sit next to me and she show strong interest in what I do and how I did it - a totally revolution to corporate training - and she carry a mission to ask if I can do it for corporate . Actually she is more interested in " why I do what I do " than asking for a quotation : her question drive me to think through :
Take Away :
1. I love Connect with talent and manage them : in the music days , I am support talent in entertainment field ; as a coach , I am supporting talents in business field
2. Talent share 3 similar attribution : lonely ; insecure; eccentric .
3. When walk in worship , I never take it as a training but a co-create theater with everybody .
4. You seed and it sprout - one day the harvest may come .
F & E : feel connects , rationalize what I do .
DUI#162: True Detective Day
The Day : bought HBO mini series " true detective " the other day via the recommendation of my Tiger Forum mate , Meiling and I decided to finish the 8 episodes series today , so we begin our TV day from 8:30 am - TD to me is more a psychologically than crime drama , series killer always a good topic to build story the detective partner demonstrate totally different character paint the drama more dramatic . We enjoy TD and finish it in one day .
The Why : HBO produce " games of the throne " Netflix release " House of Cards " the TV channel base big production take a significant cut from the Hollywood pie - I always fascinated by how TV production can spend more resource than movie production and becomes a serious fan to mini drama - seldom I am disappointed, the only burden I develop is : do I really want to spend so much time on it ?
Take Away :
1. A few good lines : " the world is a flat circle " " you can't trust a man who don't trust themselves " everything outside your dimension is eternity " " when you advise , what comes to me is you are talking to yourself "
2. As I observe more in psychological dialogue , so many scene bring me reflection to where I was before - so vivid
3. A good relax before heavy dual forum retreat week .
F & E : life in fast lane and you can only look ahead .
DUI#164: Day Trip Huilien
The Things : since take over A Zone leaders' role in Aug. I didn't officially speak to all the A Zone co-works in public , today is my day to tell everyone 12 things in my mind and the session begin from 13:30 , my 25 minutes sharing is swift yet I secure time for one on one with manager and it last till 5:30 pm .
The Why : change is hurt and leave your comfort zone ain't easy , before I share my 12 points. I draw to an conclusion that 「人生不是「得到」就是「學到」千萬別到頭來一個都沒拿到。」and my points are :
1. 我會的，你們不會的。
2. 我不能的，你們能的。
3. 不是一個工作，不是一份薪水。
4. 突破：平行學習，共同成長。
5. 管理：自我領導，同儕領導。
6. 不能增進能力；不能增加營收；不能提高效率的不做。
7. 不懂就問，不會要説。
8. 不發黑函，不説人短。
9. 職務和職掌；授權和賦能；決策和執行。
10. 今年的策略只有：減少虧損，調整人的品質；建立作業標準。
11. 「想做」的讓你快樂；「該做」的難免痛苦。
12. 人不能「腦袋空空」或「口袋空空」
Take Away :
1. On one on give people a chance to disclose .
2. Stress and Depression is too common these days
3. You share you own story and lay trust to others first
4. I am too remote from operation .
F & E : coach surpass taught; consequences of change is inevitable.
DUI# 166:depression: a common mental issue for modern people
1. The Things : I sense my coach develop a withdrawal emotions and asked what happen , the wording let me feel the depression is everywhere today . It was said " I can feel something bad is going to happen " the person who " investing " or " image " negative emotion will bring down his / her energy and passion . Yesterday when conduct one on one with A Zone mangers . 2 of them seeking professional treatment as well.
2. The Way : " under extreme pressure " seems like a common statement around me and during my coaching practice I can see it getting serious day by day , what wake you up in the middle of the night turn to a 21 century mental issue , as I develop the depression before and learn how to bail myself out of the misery, I use my personal experience to support who suffers from depression, the more I help , the more I realized mental Heath is as impotence as physical health . And I believe in non medication cure .
3. Take away :
- Reset is the key : don't let the depression bias your mental judgements.
- Naming your depression : give it a name - a pet or whatever you can easily call it .
- Parking : park the named depression aside and to separate you and the depression
- Meditation : self - suggestion that this is what you willing to co-exist
- When come back again : call the name / park it
4. F & E : you can see through the eyes to know a person's inner health .
DUI#166: coaching is needed
The Things : Jason arrive at lunch 30 minutes before Mathew , the window of 1 on 1 giving us space to connect and his honestly & transparency kick in when overheard my profession is coaching now . Jason inform me a life coach needed who can help him dealing with Parliament life - a life can't allow anyone to be " himself " . A distortion of role many people can't handle it well .
The Why : vulnerability foster the trust , empathy resonate our own experience , by listening and understanding, I knew it clear that I am here to help - support a person who carries hopes for citizen in Taiwan . You can't give anyone what you don't have ... to let Jason HAVE before GIVE is essential . What I can't be sure is our conversation before lunch is an interaction of sharing or intention for solving or even furthermore:an invitation to coach ?
Take away :
1. Coaching is a "love at first sight "syndrome for both party .
2. You don't feel coach exist if you don't feel like coaching .
3. Anxiety is an urban and modern disease - it cross gender , industry and all walk of life .
4. Mental health is hard to diagnosis - you need to find a way to let it flow .
F & E : it's like falling in Love - in a bold expression .
Roger
DUI 148 with R
DUI#148: 2nd day in karuizawa
The Things : learning from a new experience with new international forum : I square that multi - national forum experiment in 3 statement : AD.AD.AD : 1) accept the difference 2) Adapt the difficulty 3) Appreciate the dedication . For people living in different geographic location , it took hours to determine when to meet next and where , and the discussion alway come with someone say " I can't " people can't come from varies reason and to surface their reason you observe each values they holding on.
The Why : most of people in this forum ONLY have this forum as they can't commit to monthly gathering , and a multi background / culture and philosophy create a discussion pool - it's good to be how value alignment happening during the discussion , to learn how to accept is lesson number one - day chair can be either flexible or dictate , high EQ person have room to play tough and he won't cause people mad . We have another good day at karuizawa - the weather is too good to call it an end .
Take Away :
1. No coaching before presentation really wasting time - basic understanding and expectation wasn't clear and it bring to many offensive questions .
2. 2 to 3 generations conversation is a good exercise for everyone : to recall how your parent talk with you about one subject you about to share with your grown up bring reflection to our life .
3. Kurizawa is a nice place to be - active volcano - hot spring - hiking - nature .
F & E : it's good time to g
Roger
The Things : learning from a new experience with new international forum : I square that multi - national forum experiment in 3 statement : AD.AD.AD : 1) accept the difference 2) Adapt the difficulty 3) Appreciate the dedication . For people living in different geographic location , it took hours to determine when to meet next and where , and the discussion alway come with someone say " I can't " people can't come from varies reason and to surface their reason you observe each values they holding on.
The Why : most of people in this forum ONLY have this forum as they can't commit to monthly gathering , and a multi background / culture and philosophy create a discussion pool - it's good to be how value alignment happening during the discussion , to learn how to accept is lesson number one - day chair can be either flexible or dictate , high EQ person have room to play tough and he won't cause people mad . We have another good day at karuizawa - the weather is too good to call it an end .
Take Away :
1. No coaching before presentation really wasting time - basic understanding and expectation wasn't clear and it bring to many offensive questions .
2. 2 to 3 generations conversation is a good exercise for everyone : to recall how your parent talk with you about one subject you about to share with your grown up bring reflection to our life .
3. Kurizawa is a nice place to be - active volcano - hot spring - hiking - nature .
F & E : it's good time to g
Roger
DUI Aug with R
DUI#101 : inflight movies
The Things : watching movies via different screens offers varies experience . Netflix via iPhone & iPad ; TV for HBO movies , go to cinema enjoy black box experience and killing time on the flights to somewhere . Incidentally , I spot good European & Asian films which is not commercial release in Taiwan.
The Why : I take movies as a combine senses of experience and knowledge , especially for " biography " & " base on true story " category , I am very into what director lead me to and explore , reconnect with my own experiences , through the eyes of camera / directors , I peep the life and pick the brain or resonate the emotions , I even go to second run theaters for films I didn't watch on the first screening . Watching movies on the plane turn to a habit for years , and I always finish what I choose even through I can switch on my remote controller . On the trip back to Taipei , I watch a Korean detective / court scenes movies I translate direct from its Chinese translation " the violent prosecutor "
Take Away :
1. Court is a metaphor of justice to human beings but often mistaken when many wrong doing occurs by law enforcement people
2. We enjoy the insignificant trivial turn to big shot and it inject the " fairness " emotions to us.
3. Contract role stimulate our pulse and we kind of love the " blood on the screen " but when it transfer to real world , it's so hard to handle .
F & E : real world vs imaginary world - escape and experiencing .
DUI#102: Sound complete his one month summer part time today
The Things : early Aug. simply for pleasing her mother , Sound find a summer part time job at goose noodle shop , without given any thought , he agreed on 100 NT / hour , working time 10:00-22:00 , Monday off terms and begin his hero's journey , he cried at the first night , at the first week and give me a chance to share my summer part time experience , and how environment influence people . After one week of working , he developed his resilience , his patience and commitment to finish what he starts . Every night , he return home around 10:30 pm , sweat and smile to us - I can feel in his eyes : I did it again . Today , he complete the one month summer job , not for make his partner proud , but to prove he gain the experience , learn the hard way and now he return to his real world and transform himself a better university student.
The Why : it's a lesson for our family : how to design a meaningful summer for Sound and having him earn his tuition is the objective from his mother ; how to dive deep in a real world , roll up sleeve , to know people differ from him is my agenda . And collectively we talk about what happens after his work become the bed time story . The trial is tough , the experience money can't buy and the family intimacy top our summer .
Take Away:
1. Our of everybody's comfort zone , everyone growth.
2. See a grown up Sound , see the rough diamond polishing .
3. More strengthen my believe " Peer " is where you connect / mutual influence / grow . Sound demonstrate my believe .
4. Something people need push to ignite his potential.
F & E : Happy ; Deep thinking ;
DUI#103 : 2nd Talents Fly campaign application closing day.
The Things : 2nd year for Talents Fly event , we team up with Sky Wu (伍思凱) with the theme ( Dream Sky ) and design a 2 days music camp for finalist . Event day from Sep.2-3 and kick off the application in mid June .
The Why : we announce the deadline for application is Aug. 1st , but in mid-July total applicant is 6 only , I am so worried about the charity event will abundant due to insufficient applicants . To our surprise , all the participate tend to submit their best products . On the last day of application we end up received 110 applicant . And to select 6 from 110 as finalist is not easy , at the same time if we in fete applicant , our budget will burst out , I don't want to see donors suspicious on how we use their money ... So it's a good trouble to have.
Take Away:
1. There are many young talent strive to share their musical talent to the world but lack of resource and opportunity .
2. To measure " good " is not easy , without a positive loop , your are throwing net instead of seeding plant .
3. Foundation fund raising is tiring . Sustainable development require strategy and implementation .
4. Exciting to stretch after Steve Vai kick off Talents Fly campaign last year .
F & E : rewarded ; positive and tiring .
DUI#104: light talk with father
The Things : drove down to 斗六 and visit father at his mountain house .
The Why : father live alone at 斗六 for at least 3 decades , he return Taipei once in a month , not before his left leg turn to numb and consider a spine surgery , we found out there's a woman took care of him for many years , even mom and my father separate for decades but I didn't aware my true feeling when this secret disclose by my wife and I saw this woman in front of me few months ago . At the age of 94 , what can you blame ? 2 months before , he insist to take a neck tumor remove surgery , I stop the operation one day before as Doctor told me the unsuccessful rate ( die on surgery or become stroke ; paralyzed and viggie ) is 20%. He cancel the surgery , return to 斗六 and the woman also left him. This is my first visit for a 2 months window ... He looks weak , and tell me he would prefer die peacefully here or move back to Taipei if he can't really walk .. 5 dogs in the house with him , a day care hired prepare 2 meals for him and he can't sleep well ..
Take Away :
1. I finish watching a documentary about country singer Glenn Campbell who develop Alzheimer but finish his " last tour - a 151 shows around the American " - it keep me thinking remember or forget ? Which way bring you better ending of life ?
2. In the end , only family take care of family : when and where you die is not important , what important to you is who is with you by your dyeing bad.
3. Learning and prepare to die is to live well - live every moment .
F & E : vulnerable ; fragile ; love what I have .
DUI#105 connecting coachee.
The Things : one client - an entrepreneur nature client , fails to stick on scheduled coaching time , we tried many times and it seems the " missing connection " develop to a fragile status . Ultimately, we managed to schedule a tele-coaching early in the morning , and the intimacy bring back after the session.
The Why : the client develop business with intuition , never train and not with academic credentials , to set goals , follow schedule or stick to fix appointment seems like an impossible goal to achieve , it give me a hard time for the last 2 months as the client traveling intensively , jet leg and difference time zone worsen the schedule coaching program , missing connection crease a gap for follow up , today , we reach out each other and the client agree to try the DU for 21 days - not in written but voice recording reflection of the day.
Take Away :
1. coaching is tango , one going 2 steps forward and 1 step backward , as dancing partner , you need to understand the behavior pattern of your partners and almost check if you both dancing on the same tune.
2. Find the communication method with someone take time , you don't give up .
3. To facilitation a conversion , you lead and dive , gradually the person you invited will chip in with no pressure .
4. There's no SOP in coaching , process and emotion change at every moment .
F & E : happy ; less anxiety .
DUI#106 太平山or 武陵農場
The Things : plan a day trip with family today and we decide go to Yi Lan 太平山. but end up stay over night in 武陵農場。
The Why : Meiling drove alone 台7 線 , when reach the three forks in the road . Meiling told me , we been to 太平山 so many times , why not take a less travel road and turn right to 梨山 / 武陵農場 direction , we never been here and have no knowledge how it woo end up . When arrive at the gate of Wu Ling National Park , pay the admission fees we inquiries for rooms - Sound is so excited about a non in the plan stay over night , luckily a 4 beds room available and we decided to stay at a 22 c degree summer hide away . We spend the whole afternoon explore national park and amaze by such a beautiful land - the high light is touring to the camping zone and play with Wild Taiwan Monkey ( 台灣彌猴）.
Take Away :
1. Go the routine , you can't see the world beyond your imagination .
2. Take some risk - don't play by the book - you enjoy the moment in time.
3. A now surprise give all the family member wonderful experience as no one set any expectation today and every new finding on the road is surprise .
4. You take action in Now mindset bring you more excitement , Meiling and I know if we plan for this trip , it might take year and maybe cancel in the last minutes .
5. Expose to the beauty of central high land : feel like out of the world .
F & E : earn an unexpected day ; Natural Hug.
DUI#107 Hiking Morning at 桃山瀑布
The Things : make an appointment with Meiling in order to capture the essence of high mountain air and shower under forest phytoncid , we plan hiking to pearl mountain waterfall 6:00 am.
The Why : never take a 3 hours hiking uphill for decade , this is another unexpected trial for both Meiling and me . I woke before the alarm ring and we took the mountain trail up to the pearl mountain waterfall . We are the 2nd earliest mountaineer according to the number one group . On the 8.6 kilometers total hiking , we saw many high mount trees , rare birds and deep breath with the most fresh air in Taiwan. On our way down , we meet with other people and each one greeting " good morning " - this is a stereo type but a good one " people who wake up early in the morning and climb mountain should be nice guy " Natural is nature - no cars , co building and no busy people on the streets , Meiling am I knew it will take years before we come back for another hiking - so it make both our day a day to remembers ( ps : sound didn't join us - he slept like a baby )
Take Away :
1. If you have no idea how hard or how far , you will try yourself the first time to see the result .
2. I was stop to use my iPhone music as Meiling advise me : this is the nature song ? Why not enjoy it ?
3. Mountaineering let you think bigger . You respect the nature more .
4. Listening to sound of waterfall is a natural hearing - peace and harmony
F & E : reconnect to nature , feel the power of hiking long hours , happy
DUI#108: rolling paper - documentary
The Things : Sunday leisure , watch a documentary from Netflix with title " Rolling Paper " : talking about Colorado Denver Post taking the opportunity on 2014.1.1 - the day state of Colorado making recreation marijuana legalize , and create a " Weed Section " cover the developing story from day one.
The Why : as a rock fan and been in entertainment biz , I know many who take the weed but I never experience it before , by watching this new development and leaning every April in Denver City , there is a Cannabis Cup and gathering hundreds of thousand people for the Weed Campaign , my curiosity lead me to watch this interesting documentary.
Take Away:
1. Mobile device together with streaming video service and always on network , life / work melting .
2. Get High by aids of supplement always get me curious . The government policy toward legalize marijuana is iceberg to many grey area in current world.
3. Media is expert on picking hot topic and capitalize it - Weed surface from underground give an angel for paper news to turn around .
F & E : experiencing via media , curious
DUI#109 Insurance Policy consolidation
The Things : meet with my insurance agent who assist me on all my family insurance policy since 1990 .
The Why : from 2017 onward , my first life insurance policy will be matured and entitle to collect " living bonus " 380.000 NT every year , compare to labor insurance , the average is 150.000 NT annually , invite my insurance agent go over all polices I enter before . It seems take earlier action in insurance is a protection and reservation to your future life - as a conservative wealth manager ( or put it more moron : never aggressively manage my wealth ) I feel more safe when understand what I did 25 years ago really paid off now . What surprise me is my agent told me I am the 5% client who follow the principal of insurance but never aggressively leverage my wealth , and I was told the 95% smarter people suffering in every financial crisis .
Take Away :
1. Slow is Fast ; Fast might be slow too .
2. If you have little knowledge about something , you will be less suffered by the thing.
3. Self - protection is essential , insurance is not a metaphor. Ultimately , you bet on yourself.
4. A good insurance agent see the cycle of life and participate on your life .
5. Insurance firm in Taiwan might facing serious cash pay back loop as many of " Case Roger " ( baby boomer ) mature in next few years .
F & E : lighten and less worries . Feeling like doing more good.
DUI#110: The Exit Plan
The Things : in coaching session , coachee ask if consider all the options , should " exit plan " be in the strategic map ? It recall my professional days in So-net , when launch the ADSL broadband access service , a wrong marketing strategy lead to a non performing subscription for 3 months , my worried arose and send " exit and termination proposal " to chairman of So-net HQ in Tokyo . As professional , you deal things in transactions and leave " exit " a back door ; as an owner , you don't have the right to be pessimistic and never include " exit plan " in your mindset .
The Why : transform myself from professional to coach , my paradigm shift is to think in others shoes . Aside from industry , I can take bird-eye view to the shifting of industry . Self-employment and response for 2 headcount give me much more freedom to adapt change . Professional often constrain with budget , numbers and competition , how to awake the giant inside and connect with what they love is a question for every organization .
Take Away :
1. What you measure is what you got , lead & manger defined a Great & Good.
2. Awake your inner child at the right time is to give birth a new life .
3. It's difficult to align owner and professional's interest ; to build the consensus is critical .
F & E : how my experience can support more people ?
DUI#111: organic management or system development
The Things: 5 minutes brief with A-Zone VP about how the line of reporting can support the growth of the Huailien Culture and Creative Park.
The Why : to assist coachee's business stabilization , take the consulting role few months ago . Not been include in the reporting and discussion loop , I can't really grand any support promptly . In every organization dot and solid line reporting parallel , leader should aware not the commend and control line at the organizational chart make things happen .
Take Away :
1. Hands on is not an adjective but a verb . Leader inspire others but something you have to act as well.
2. No P & L responsibility can't really drive an for profit organization .
3. To help someone don't means to take away his responsibility and do it for them yourself.
4. If no one report to you , don't feel your value dilute .
F & E : Deep Thinking
DUI#111: Hanoi on the road
The things : join a coachee's business survey trip to Vietnam begin with Hanoi today , when touch the land we conduct a non stop land / property survey , finish dinner and check in hotel at Hai Fong city just now.
The Why : even though some Taiwanese business / industry suffer from investing in Vietnam , Vietnam is like a Virgin land for adventurer - people recognize the land in Vietnam the same development model 20 years ago in China - a second largest sports shoes maker in the world considering transfer its business from OEM / manufacturing to real estate and service industry and inviting my client come for the survey , I am join the delegation and to connect my YPO Vietnam resource to them as well.
Take Away :
1. See the first generation tycoon share his experience about how to deal with communist bureaucracy is an eye open session : from China to Vietnam.
2. 2nd generation team with founder ( father ) jointly consider how the business transfer can be - I see the heritage and legacy from 2 generation .
3. Haven't been to Hanoi for decades , now a city with 12 millions people and younger generation build their dream in the war land before .
4. You connect people either from the place you were born , the school you both went , the industry figures familiar with , hobby or interest and mutual friends in business circle .
5. Bring your conversion counter partner in the close loop create chance to go deeper .
F & E : Taiwanese stranger in Hanoi .
DUI#115 : breakfast talk
The Things : take the breakfast opportunity before flying back conduct my coaching session and wrap up what we jointly experienced for the last 4 days
The Why : traveling days with coachee , you performing varies roles in between : a traveling campaign , a local network liaison , a consultants and coach when request . At the wrap up breakfast and in an one on one session , we go over some strategic viewpoint and rationales why and what the trip benefit us and how it can integrate with corporate strategy ; what we have , what can be engage and what should be enhanced .
Take Away :
1. Foreign and local information balance pave a more clear picture to the market .
2. Surround by tier one people and feed with upside only news will bias your decision making ability .
3. In developing country such as Vietnam , geopolitical environment play a vital role in making or breaking foreign investors , marking friend is the prerequisite to any business initiatives .
4. Alignment with your own strength . Investing might not be the muscle when address foreign market : management expertise and rich industry experience matter .
F & E : happy home ; Birdseye view purity your thought . A good coaching session pay off .
DUI#116: movie day
The Things : schedule afternoon go to movies at 「真善美戲院」with Meiling and watch 2 Independant release " Correspondence " & " Neerja " for the afternoon .
The Why : returning from oversea trip , I will make time with Meiling for outside activity . Go to movies is the primary activity w6e do - and often we choose art / indie film as a connection media and share our interpretation / feelings after the movie . Today , I chose one British Love story and one Indian Hero story and we really enjoy both films.
Take Away :
1. The ritual is : buy ticket and choose seats we favor, focus on the screen in the big black box but holding Meiling's hand always . It's a great couple connection .
2. Message from art film give me more inspiration - something I use the line and visual to support my workshop .
3. Crowd in 西門町 always a good place to observe young trend , your heart keep young as well.
4. A good 5 hours time spend with Meiling and she capture window to share what happened at home when I am away.
F & E : between real world and movie world ; connect inside family and outside Taipei city . An out of world relaxation .
DUI#117 : role and responsibility
The Things : as a coach , a bystander , a question raiser and a change monitor , you have a clear role but leaving the responsibility to your coachee ; a consultant : your client expect some solution and hoping for delivery as well - my coaching history with one coachee for 5 years , you see and you know you can't avoid to enter a deep water to rescue - even to blur your coaching role .
The Why : org change and structure revise , industry shift and tend alters , how to distill know how and management expertise and turn it to a new driver for business development , coachee facing enormous challenge , lack of seasoned executive and talent pool , I decided to take a more aggressive role in support coachee , what back me up is my hands on action and previous experience , transforming role to responsibility , I am reconnect with my professional life earlier.
Take Away :
1. Non conflict of interest give you an objective view .
2. Non organization constrain free yourself from many corporate politic .
3. Knowing a person inside out before grand your complementary role pay off more .
4. Sharpen the sew , practice makes perfect .
F & E : value derived from been needed .
DUI#118 panel judge for world music festival Taiwan matching
The Things : invited to lead the judge panel for marching local world music artist to international music festival curators . As pop music is the mainstream we export internationally , to featuring artist with local and world music ingredient become a " culture policy " from government and a new market development for artist from Taiwan. 5 panel judges assembled today to discuss and decide the final 6 candidates to be feature at Oct. world music festival @taiwan .
The Why : it's difficult for judges to identify final 6 as the applicants were not meet the criteria we hope to see , we set 3 major categories to measure each artist / group : 1. The nature of music connect to the genre of World Music 2. Can performing on stage with fun & energy 3. Blending with local / Taiwan flavor . And appearing to curator coming from outside . The talent pool is so poor that we can't really satisfy with our conclusion , I see that pop / world music hey day not only eaten by digital invention , Taiwan also gradually lose its ground as the riches land to developing Mandarin POP.
Take Away :
1. Why making music ? What move you when produce music ? Why high jack by commercial measurement ?
2. Talents Fly can do more and pave the road not to let talents suffer from his musical integrity .
3. Government - Industry shake hands to support / sustain certain industry is a blind spot , especially in the field of art and performing .
F & E : good time & bad time ; follow your bliss
DUI:119 : resonate this morning
The Things : the highlight for the day is our session this morning . A face to face idea exchange / sharing and resonate at the Xing office by the side of Dino . Begin from the collective update check , emotion and feeling analysis and company by company forward looking . The place create a space for our connection and the moment of truth simply surface .
The Why : participant coaching is what I enjoy the most . One thing connect to another , one emotion trigger the other . Your counter partner stimulate you to create the fountain of wisdom and you were surprise to see the potential in you as well . From Dope knowledge to Deep dive , I am so bless to do what I love and gradually master what I did . It reflect to what Joseph Campbell said : " The Privilege of a lifetime is being who we are " . And I recall a song " man in the mirror " sang by Michael Jackson which repeat a line " make a difference and make it right "
Take Away :
1. To give is to get
2. To have but not to hold
3. It takes 2 to know one
F & E : super recharge
DUI#120 long ride to Kaoshung with Meilig
The Things : take the chance Meiling and I drive Sound back to Taichung dormitory , we decide drive a little farther to Kaoshung and stay over at a boutique hotel where I brought Sound in early Aug. this is the first time Meiling drive all the way from Taipei to Kaoshung , we person adult diaper and it works better and relief the anxiety it cause , we visit 4 of the highway recreation stop and check what's inside , the drive become a long drive . We ended up check in hotel by 4:00 pm .
The Why : accompany our kids back to school is the routine our family did , even not talk much in the car , The gesture of " parent taking care of you " is obvious . If not for this opportunity , we won't drive to distant destination also . Meiling is the family driver and I am the navigator ( GPS ) , we talk on our way to KS and enjoy another black box ( car ) conversation on the move . Sound move out from Univesity dormitory and rent a studio as most of the sophomore students . The cubic will be his new living space for at least one year . The boutique hotel is as sweet as before , 24 hours complementary kitchen , detail finishing in rooms . The only mismatch is bad weather - heavy rain , thunder and strong winds ..
Take Away :
1. It's hard to image no sun in KS but heavy rain and thunder lighting.
2. Good intimacy with Meiling and to shed a heavy coaching week in Taipei.
3. Boutique hotel survive by vital fews : open kitchen , nice breakfast , elegant room and external privacy .
4. You don't need words to show how much you love Sound . Action louder .
F & E : relax and mix with weather
DUI#121: Christian & Taoism in one day
The Things : on our way back north , Meiling and I decided to design a driving route we never experience before . Use google map and setting to " no free way " , we drove along the highway 61 - the west coast highway up . When we meet the intersection : follow highway 61 or go inside the small town we never been , we take the small town trip and to explore scene we didn't see before , it extend our route and we only finish at 嘉義東石 by 17:00 pm . There are 2 stops brings me strong emotion today : 北門：烏腳病紀念館 （ BFD memorial hall ) a clinic convert hall to memorize the doctor 王金河醫生 ， who won the name of " father of black foot disease " . Dr Wang perform volunteering surgery for more than 1300 county fisherman and peasant and saving their life from 1960-1985 with the help of another doctor and 基督教長老教會's unconditional support , Dr. Wang he himself is the baptized Christian and perform love to his county fellows , Meiling and I stood quite sometime at the clinic he use to treat BFD and image the suffering and pain .. Within 10 minutes drive , we visit another Tao Temple at 北門：南鯤鯓代天宮 , when arrived , we were totally shock by the scale of the temple , to more we look around , the more new findings , vendors and garden everywhere and we stopped at a guest house - it's a 4 star hotel to be honest , I enter and ask the price for the couple's suite : 1300 NT per nights and I follow ask should man and woman should separate stay at the temple guest house - this reply is this is not a restriction -- you see a Gigantic temple doing everything under the name of Tao's God .
The Way : The strong opposition cause me thinking a lot and the trip open my view to how religion change the believe to Taiwanese people .
Take Away :
1. Good thing and nice people should be known , the legacy should be carried on .
2. A strong sense of surviving mode from Taiwanese people make me believe hardship will overcome in the end .
3. Professional doing good and doing well . Unprofessional doing good but not well.
F & E : painful to see early Taiwanese suffer from less educational . Wondering about how Taoism influence people around us.
DUI#122: 嘉義情&西螺小鎭
The Things : continue our no free way home trip from 嘉義；to cure my local street food desire , woke up 6:00 and looking for a top chicken rice in 嘉義，small vendor open from 5:30 to 13:30 , we spend less than 100 NT enjoy the best local food , the trade off is get up early and wait for an ok line . We than move to the second destination - 西螺黃記九層粿；we Arrive by 10:00 am but it sold out already , instead we try another local noodle shop and found it taste so good . Drove our way back and enjoy local street food .
The Why : most of the family utilize summer or winter for a long vacation aboard , Meiling and I take time piece by piece and enjoy many unplanned small vacation in Taiwan , traveling in small town , enjoy local street food and check how the locals live their life always give me sense of happiness : happy to see not a big desire bring huge happiness - for the locals and for us . And to appreciate what we have - to get the picture of what we need and what we want is quite meaningful - on the 3 days 2 nights trip , I also spot Meiling's some worries , to know about someone living with you , you need more time - from quiet moment to the sharing moment .
Take Away :
1. 100 NT happiness is everywhere , as long as you wish , you can find it nearby .
2. See the ordinary people doing ordinary thing , you feel happy.
3. Don't wait , do what you need at the right time : now .
F & E : desire for good food but not luxury food ; seeing the simple beauty is the authentic smile on all walk of life .
DUI#122: day trip Yilan with friend from Australia
The Things : after CFF Taiwan retreat , my friend and facilitator Maryanne wish to come back and bring her husband to see what she experience here , the plan trip begin from Aug. 11 and I save Aug. 22 as the day to show them around Yi Lan.
The Why : without local guide , foreign visitor can't really explore to the beauty and essence of Taiwan , an Austrian friend commit to come back and show the good side of Taiwan , I felt the obligation to show them more : passing snow mountain tunnel , visit Lanyang museum , lunch at Formosa pearl at Yi Lan . Return to Taipei and visit 農禪寺水月道場。light diner at Ding Tai Feng , the day connection strength their believe in Taiwan is the heart of asia and not only the slogan .
Take Away :
1. As a local tour guide , manage to introduce what I love in English and prepare it in advance .
2. To stay longer time inside Lanyang museum than before , to appreciate the foreigner's viewpoint and get the points of what cause their interest .
3. To build the friends network and to connect right people in the right place .
4. Local Friends make my arrangement more profound .
F & E : exchanges viewpoint and exchange experience .
DUI#124: coach for life
The Things : a deep yet unexpected coaching session occurred , I am deeply resonate with what coachee shares and much appreciate the long term coach - friendship make the coach process a meaningful life experience to both of us .
The Why : when coachee open the mouth and told me " now it's time for life coaching " I open my heart and follow empathy listening skill to follow the pace . Nothing to do with business , it's all about family and personal and that's the root to every business decision - I listen and didn't interrupt , emotion and feeling occupy the whole session , I learn a great deal from the open and trust sharing and I promise to support the body and the soul.
Take Away :
1. It's you who decide where to openly share and it's you who define the scope of sharing .
2. Reflective and introspective muscles need to train . The more you develop your mindful awareness sense , the more you are in control .
3. Positive thinking is a psychological implication , you got to believe ...
4. You multiple life by intertwine each other's life .
F & E : heavy , vulnerable , willing to help .
DUI#125: early morning hiking
The Things : a break routine resume - to live close by small hill , the advantage is to get fresh air and do oxygen exercise in the morning , when doing coaching yesterday , my awareness is " doing is louder than talking " I talked much about health , but doing average less exercise than what I should . So this psychological alarm woke me up by 5:30 am , without second though , put on my sports gear and heading up " God's Foot Rock " by myself .
The Why : meditation is a passive exercise , it drive your mind but not body , I need to sweat out and inhale more oxygen to balance my body and soul : and the " Ted Walk " ( listen to TED Talk while climbing mountain ) feed my new ideas every now and then , it's a combination of brain and body training , I break the routine due to many excuse , to take the chance of flying out this afternoon for 3 forum sessions on the road , I need to prepare for a sharper sense . Mountaineering and fresh air serve my purpose this morning .
Take Away :
1. Ted walk talking to me again , happy to learn new things
2. Birds singing to me again , it's a greeting from old friend
3. Trees and the forest scent shower me as before - I am feeling lighten and more spiritual
4. Stretch exercise before temple and overlooking Taipei city : feeling alive .
F & E : I am fully charged and ready to give
DUI#127: power of DU
The Things : introduce DU system to the forum at retreat . The ripple is significant , try it at my personal coaching program and now offer for YPO peers to use them . I've simply coaching to 3 type : self - pair - peer coaching : your own reflections , you holding someone accountable and you take collective wisdom among people share their experiences . To teach the world to a better place - a beautiful dream .
The why : normally forum update people only remembers what happen a few days back , to structure an DU system , you not only can trace back matters significant in life , but the trajectory of emotion draw a small cloud information to have you do a better reflection at forum meeting . In addition , leaders require attribution of self-awareness . DU serve a function to train your reflective & introspective mind.
Take Away :
1. Call to action is an important character forum mate can support each other but rarely conduct .
2. Commitment come from routinely do things and you ultimately turn it to a new habit and mastering it.
3. Coaching is the competence leaders hope to equip but lack the chance to learn .
4. Making Friends with benefit ( 交益）is a new definition the forum inspires me.
F & E : leaning & practicing ; improving and mastering .
DUI#128 : personal learnings
The Things : attending my regional forum meeting at Bangkok , collectively to solve a membership issue and get 3 presentation done in FSFE presentation type .
The Why : FSFE focus on self curiosity and try to explore the 4th Johari window : Unknown . By record my personal learnings , the self reflective message to me is stronger than before .
Take Away : my personal learning today .
1. The meaning of life is to live what's not planned .
2. There's no safety place in the world , only mindfulness in your heart .
3. You can't give anyone what you don't have .
4. My fear is not able to Fear.
5. Do business with friends , we do it more detail than normal people .
6. 5 years of coaching is a happiness and luxury life to me . It's about time to take more challenges
7. Commit to the role , and the job and the function as well .
8. Good thing don't come easy ; easy things don't come good.
9. I always take risk with my good friend .
10. It's not about your weight , but how you carry your weight .
11. Music make me shining .
12. Not to run a business just for pay your salary .
F & E : charged and resonate
DUI#129: over eating at every forum meeting
The things : forum is holiday to many YPOer as they enjoy sharing ; idea exchange and other high values activity attache : gourmet eating consider a high value activity among forums . To appreciate food in varies cuisine become a routine as well.
The Why : as facilitator and a member to 3 different forums , the non stop holiday turn to a nightmare as I consume more than I need each time , and I am taking more forum meetings than average forum mate . How to control my eating and not to against people's food gesture , try to sample good food but not to suffer my health are always a struggle to me.
Take Away :
1. Knowing and doing is a huge gap , when people response with " l know " . clearly most of the time the person didn't do whatever he knows.
2. Take away my weight rely on high discipline and control will , it's a tag of war between 2 rivals ( need vs want )
3. How come there are so many good food and restaurant in the world ?
F & E : guilty , regret and hate myself .
DUI#130: Red Eyes Flight
The Things : in order to catch up a following forum retreat , I take the red eye from Bangkok to Seoul , the plane take off by 11:30 pm and arrive Seoul by 6:45 am . I seldom took red eye and don't know if I am sleep on this trip .
The Why : back to back forum to most of my forums is convenience but not necessary to me . Save the day don't mean to reserve the energy , maybe I was too exhausted for the previous 2 forums , so I slept straight ahead , skip 2 meals and woke up just before landing . 仁川機場 is long way to Seoul , spend 100.000 Korean Yung for taxi to hotel , buy myself another half day room for make up sleep .. It end up save no money but only present yourself onsite physically . And the forum decided to go sight seeing the first day ... Not a productive decision .
Take Away :
1. If you claim your red eye and punch on time too loud , it will sound like complain .
2. Lead time create space for any unpredictable things.
3. To a new city , forum mate begin to explore the city by his own interest and you observe and see a different forum mate.
4. Seoul is so international but every mall looks the same in major metro city - the SOP is everywhere now in the globe .
5. It wasn't a nice thing to buy your sober for extra cups of coffee .
F & E : floating ; wandering ; dizzy and sleepy .
DUI#131 : Seoul forum day
The Things : non stop the consecutive 3rd forum on the road , different people , different place and different language - in Seoul , we try the first time to do it in an open cafe - presumed that no one around us understand what we are talking about and no one in the forum will distract by the open environment . This setting also told everyone there won't be any room for vulnerability.
The Why : if day chair don't have a clue how to set a safe place , than the safe space won't come. As I am on the road and to experience 3 forums at the same pace , it's only me who can tell the difference . The Seoul forum meeting went smooth , maybe the place is too comfortable so the heart and brain come down slow , it's hard to balance meeting / learning and social and you need to reset the priority on site .
Take Away:
1. Someone should take a lead in any peer group is you won't things to move forward .
2. Concentration span of human being is shorter then you think .
3. In a flesh : a Buddha terms = 0.018 second .
4. You don't compete among forum and don't compare who's better and who's not .
F & E : easy and relax
DUI#132: Thanks to DU
The things : a very late night tele coaching yesterday and month window in person coaching this morning with 2 coachee , thanks to DU , I can swiftly cut in the right moment and deliver . By analyze emotion for a longer period and the category of my coachee invest time on , the intimacy built right away and it seems we connect always .
The Way : the China coachee is a nature born Entreprenuer , she don't even ask for " in person session " as to her , there is no point to see each other face to face as long as the tele-coaching can serve what she need and DU give her a good reflective learnings . The Taiwan coachee who been assign aboard for one month , with the DU , I immediately sense his lost the momentum of working and lack the passion to commit future development .
Take Away : derive from session with 2nd coachee :
1. We don't create work , create value
2. We align personal & peofessional value and take it as a transferable competency.
3. You identify 2 area to demostrate value : cross ( function / BU / factory / area ) for problem solve ; new ( area / biz / trends / service ) for future opportunity .
4. Combine solid and blur goals complete your vision .
5. Not in decision making group : you felt lonely and left over .
6. Caring is a basic leadership skill , no matter how high position you are - you give and receive caring .
F & E : multiple life changing experience enrich multiple life . Caring is action .
Roger
The Things : watching movies via different screens offers varies experience . Netflix via iPhone & iPad ; TV for HBO movies , go to cinema enjoy black box experience and killing time on the flights to somewhere . Incidentally , I spot good European & Asian films which is not commercial release in Taiwan.
The Why : I take movies as a combine senses of experience and knowledge , especially for " biography " & " base on true story " category , I am very into what director lead me to and explore , reconnect with my own experiences , through the eyes of camera / directors , I peep the life and pick the brain or resonate the emotions , I even go to second run theaters for films I didn't watch on the first screening . Watching movies on the plane turn to a habit for years , and I always finish what I choose even through I can switch on my remote controller . On the trip back to Taipei , I watch a Korean detective / court scenes movies I translate direct from its Chinese translation " the violent prosecutor "
Take Away :
1. Court is a metaphor of justice to human beings but often mistaken when many wrong doing occurs by law enforcement people
2. We enjoy the insignificant trivial turn to big shot and it inject the " fairness " emotions to us.
3. Contract role stimulate our pulse and we kind of love the " blood on the screen " but when it transfer to real world , it's so hard to handle .
F & E : real world vs imaginary world - escape and experiencing .
DUI#102: Sound complete his one month summer part time today
The Things : early Aug. simply for pleasing her mother , Sound find a summer part time job at goose noodle shop , without given any thought , he agreed on 100 NT / hour , working time 10:00-22:00 , Monday off terms and begin his hero's journey , he cried at the first night , at the first week and give me a chance to share my summer part time experience , and how environment influence people . After one week of working , he developed his resilience , his patience and commitment to finish what he starts . Every night , he return home around 10:30 pm , sweat and smile to us - I can feel in his eyes : I did it again . Today , he complete the one month summer job , not for make his partner proud , but to prove he gain the experience , learn the hard way and now he return to his real world and transform himself a better university student.
The Why : it's a lesson for our family : how to design a meaningful summer for Sound and having him earn his tuition is the objective from his mother ; how to dive deep in a real world , roll up sleeve , to know people differ from him is my agenda . And collectively we talk about what happens after his work become the bed time story . The trial is tough , the experience money can't buy and the family intimacy top our summer .
Take Away:
1. Our of everybody's comfort zone , everyone growth.
2. See a grown up Sound , see the rough diamond polishing .
3. More strengthen my believe " Peer " is where you connect / mutual influence / grow . Sound demonstrate my believe .
4. Something people need push to ignite his potential.
F & E : Happy ; Deep thinking ;
DUI#103 : 2nd Talents Fly campaign application closing day.
The Things : 2nd year for Talents Fly event , we team up with Sky Wu (伍思凱) with the theme ( Dream Sky ) and design a 2 days music camp for finalist . Event day from Sep.2-3 and kick off the application in mid June .
The Why : we announce the deadline for application is Aug. 1st , but in mid-July total applicant is 6 only , I am so worried about the charity event will abundant due to insufficient applicants . To our surprise , all the participate tend to submit their best products . On the last day of application we end up received 110 applicant . And to select 6 from 110 as finalist is not easy , at the same time if we in fete applicant , our budget will burst out , I don't want to see donors suspicious on how we use their money ... So it's a good trouble to have.
Take Away:
1. There are many young talent strive to share their musical talent to the world but lack of resource and opportunity .
2. To measure " good " is not easy , without a positive loop , your are throwing net instead of seeding plant .
3. Foundation fund raising is tiring . Sustainable development require strategy and implementation .
4. Exciting to stretch after Steve Vai kick off Talents Fly campaign last year .
F & E : rewarded ; positive and tiring .
DUI#104: light talk with father
The Things : drove down to 斗六 and visit father at his mountain house .
The Why : father live alone at 斗六 for at least 3 decades , he return Taipei once in a month , not before his left leg turn to numb and consider a spine surgery , we found out there's a woman took care of him for many years , even mom and my father separate for decades but I didn't aware my true feeling when this secret disclose by my wife and I saw this woman in front of me few months ago . At the age of 94 , what can you blame ? 2 months before , he insist to take a neck tumor remove surgery , I stop the operation one day before as Doctor told me the unsuccessful rate ( die on surgery or become stroke ; paralyzed and viggie ) is 20%. He cancel the surgery , return to 斗六 and the woman also left him. This is my first visit for a 2 months window ... He looks weak , and tell me he would prefer die peacefully here or move back to Taipei if he can't really walk .. 5 dogs in the house with him , a day care hired prepare 2 meals for him and he can't sleep well ..
Take Away :
1. I finish watching a documentary about country singer Glenn Campbell who develop Alzheimer but finish his " last tour - a 151 shows around the American " - it keep me thinking remember or forget ? Which way bring you better ending of life ?
2. In the end , only family take care of family : when and where you die is not important , what important to you is who is with you by your dyeing bad.
3. Learning and prepare to die is to live well - live every moment .
F & E : vulnerable ; fragile ; love what I have .
DUI#105 connecting coachee.
The Things : one client - an entrepreneur nature client , fails to stick on scheduled coaching time , we tried many times and it seems the " missing connection " develop to a fragile status . Ultimately, we managed to schedule a tele-coaching early in the morning , and the intimacy bring back after the session.
The Why : the client develop business with intuition , never train and not with academic credentials , to set goals , follow schedule or stick to fix appointment seems like an impossible goal to achieve , it give me a hard time for the last 2 months as the client traveling intensively , jet leg and difference time zone worsen the schedule coaching program , missing connection crease a gap for follow up , today , we reach out each other and the client agree to try the DU for 21 days - not in written but voice recording reflection of the day.
Take Away :
1. coaching is tango , one going 2 steps forward and 1 step backward , as dancing partner , you need to understand the behavior pattern of your partners and almost check if you both dancing on the same tune.
2. Find the communication method with someone take time , you don't give up .
3. To facilitation a conversion , you lead and dive , gradually the person you invited will chip in with no pressure .
4. There's no SOP in coaching , process and emotion change at every moment .
F & E : happy ; less anxiety .
DUI#106 太平山or 武陵農場
The Things : plan a day trip with family today and we decide go to Yi Lan 太平山. but end up stay over night in 武陵農場。
The Why : Meiling drove alone 台7 線 , when reach the three forks in the road . Meiling told me , we been to 太平山 so many times , why not take a less travel road and turn right to 梨山 / 武陵農場 direction , we never been here and have no knowledge how it woo end up . When arrive at the gate of Wu Ling National Park , pay the admission fees we inquiries for rooms - Sound is so excited about a non in the plan stay over night , luckily a 4 beds room available and we decided to stay at a 22 c degree summer hide away . We spend the whole afternoon explore national park and amaze by such a beautiful land - the high light is touring to the camping zone and play with Wild Taiwan Monkey ( 台灣彌猴）.
Take Away :
1. Go the routine , you can't see the world beyond your imagination .
2. Take some risk - don't play by the book - you enjoy the moment in time.
3. A now surprise give all the family member wonderful experience as no one set any expectation today and every new finding on the road is surprise .
4. You take action in Now mindset bring you more excitement , Meiling and I know if we plan for this trip , it might take year and maybe cancel in the last minutes .
5. Expose to the beauty of central high land : feel like out of the world .
F & E : earn an unexpected day ; Natural Hug.
DUI#107 Hiking Morning at 桃山瀑布
The Things : make an appointment with Meiling in order to capture the essence of high mountain air and shower under forest phytoncid , we plan hiking to pearl mountain waterfall 6:00 am.
The Why : never take a 3 hours hiking uphill for decade , this is another unexpected trial for both Meiling and me . I woke before the alarm ring and we took the mountain trail up to the pearl mountain waterfall . We are the 2nd earliest mountaineer according to the number one group . On the 8.6 kilometers total hiking , we saw many high mount trees , rare birds and deep breath with the most fresh air in Taiwan. On our way down , we meet with other people and each one greeting " good morning " - this is a stereo type but a good one " people who wake up early in the morning and climb mountain should be nice guy " Natural is nature - no cars , co building and no busy people on the streets , Meiling am I knew it will take years before we come back for another hiking - so it make both our day a day to remembers ( ps : sound didn't join us - he slept like a baby )
Take Away :
1. If you have no idea how hard or how far , you will try yourself the first time to see the result .
2. I was stop to use my iPhone music as Meiling advise me : this is the nature song ? Why not enjoy it ?
3. Mountaineering let you think bigger . You respect the nature more .
4. Listening to sound of waterfall is a natural hearing - peace and harmony
F & E : reconnect to nature , feel the power of hiking long hours , happy
DUI#108: rolling paper - documentary
The Things : Sunday leisure , watch a documentary from Netflix with title " Rolling Paper " : talking about Colorado Denver Post taking the opportunity on 2014.1.1 - the day state of Colorado making recreation marijuana legalize , and create a " Weed Section " cover the developing story from day one.
The Why : as a rock fan and been in entertainment biz , I know many who take the weed but I never experience it before , by watching this new development and leaning every April in Denver City , there is a Cannabis Cup and gathering hundreds of thousand people for the Weed Campaign , my curiosity lead me to watch this interesting documentary.
Take Away:
1. Mobile device together with streaming video service and always on network , life / work melting .
2. Get High by aids of supplement always get me curious . The government policy toward legalize marijuana is iceberg to many grey area in current world.
3. Media is expert on picking hot topic and capitalize it - Weed surface from underground give an angel for paper news to turn around .
F & E : experiencing via media , curious
DUI#109 Insurance Policy consolidation
The Things : meet with my insurance agent who assist me on all my family insurance policy since 1990 .
The Why : from 2017 onward , my first life insurance policy will be matured and entitle to collect " living bonus " 380.000 NT every year , compare to labor insurance , the average is 150.000 NT annually , invite my insurance agent go over all polices I enter before . It seems take earlier action in insurance is a protection and reservation to your future life - as a conservative wealth manager ( or put it more moron : never aggressively manage my wealth ) I feel more safe when understand what I did 25 years ago really paid off now . What surprise me is my agent told me I am the 5% client who follow the principal of insurance but never aggressively leverage my wealth , and I was told the 95% smarter people suffering in every financial crisis .
Take Away :
1. Slow is Fast ; Fast might be slow too .
2. If you have little knowledge about something , you will be less suffered by the thing.
3. Self - protection is essential , insurance is not a metaphor. Ultimately , you bet on yourself.
4. A good insurance agent see the cycle of life and participate on your life .
5. Insurance firm in Taiwan might facing serious cash pay back loop as many of " Case Roger " ( baby boomer ) mature in next few years .
F & E : lighten and less worries . Feeling like doing more good.
DUI#110: The Exit Plan
The Things : in coaching session , coachee ask if consider all the options , should " exit plan " be in the strategic map ? It recall my professional days in So-net , when launch the ADSL broadband access service , a wrong marketing strategy lead to a non performing subscription for 3 months , my worried arose and send " exit and termination proposal " to chairman of So-net HQ in Tokyo . As professional , you deal things in transactions and leave " exit " a back door ; as an owner , you don't have the right to be pessimistic and never include " exit plan " in your mindset .
The Why : transform myself from professional to coach , my paradigm shift is to think in others shoes . Aside from industry , I can take bird-eye view to the shifting of industry . Self-employment and response for 2 headcount give me much more freedom to adapt change . Professional often constrain with budget , numbers and competition , how to awake the giant inside and connect with what they love is a question for every organization .
Take Away :
1. What you measure is what you got , lead & manger defined a Great & Good.
2. Awake your inner child at the right time is to give birth a new life .
3. It's difficult to align owner and professional's interest ; to build the consensus is critical .
F & E : how my experience can support more people ?
DUI#111: organic management or system development
The Things: 5 minutes brief with A-Zone VP about how the line of reporting can support the growth of the Huailien Culture and Creative Park.
The Why : to assist coachee's business stabilization , take the consulting role few months ago . Not been include in the reporting and discussion loop , I can't really grand any support promptly . In every organization dot and solid line reporting parallel , leader should aware not the commend and control line at the organizational chart make things happen .
Take Away :
1. Hands on is not an adjective but a verb . Leader inspire others but something you have to act as well.
2. No P & L responsibility can't really drive an for profit organization .
3. To help someone don't means to take away his responsibility and do it for them yourself.
4. If no one report to you , don't feel your value dilute .
F & E : Deep Thinking
DUI#111: Hanoi on the road
The things : join a coachee's business survey trip to Vietnam begin with Hanoi today , when touch the land we conduct a non stop land / property survey , finish dinner and check in hotel at Hai Fong city just now.
The Why : even though some Taiwanese business / industry suffer from investing in Vietnam , Vietnam is like a Virgin land for adventurer - people recognize the land in Vietnam the same development model 20 years ago in China - a second largest sports shoes maker in the world considering transfer its business from OEM / manufacturing to real estate and service industry and inviting my client come for the survey , I am join the delegation and to connect my YPO Vietnam resource to them as well.
Take Away :
1. See the first generation tycoon share his experience about how to deal with communist bureaucracy is an eye open session : from China to Vietnam.
2. 2nd generation team with founder ( father ) jointly consider how the business transfer can be - I see the heritage and legacy from 2 generation .
3. Haven't been to Hanoi for decades , now a city with 12 millions people and younger generation build their dream in the war land before .
4. You connect people either from the place you were born , the school you both went , the industry figures familiar with , hobby or interest and mutual friends in business circle .
5. Bring your conversion counter partner in the close loop create chance to go deeper .
F & E : Taiwanese stranger in Hanoi .
DUI#115 : breakfast talk
The Things : take the breakfast opportunity before flying back conduct my coaching session and wrap up what we jointly experienced for the last 4 days
The Why : traveling days with coachee , you performing varies roles in between : a traveling campaign , a local network liaison , a consultants and coach when request . At the wrap up breakfast and in an one on one session , we go over some strategic viewpoint and rationales why and what the trip benefit us and how it can integrate with corporate strategy ; what we have , what can be engage and what should be enhanced .
Take Away :
1. Foreign and local information balance pave a more clear picture to the market .
2. Surround by tier one people and feed with upside only news will bias your decision making ability .
3. In developing country such as Vietnam , geopolitical environment play a vital role in making or breaking foreign investors , marking friend is the prerequisite to any business initiatives .
4. Alignment with your own strength . Investing might not be the muscle when address foreign market : management expertise and rich industry experience matter .
F & E : happy home ; Birdseye view purity your thought . A good coaching session pay off .
DUI#116: movie day
The Things : schedule afternoon go to movies at 「真善美戲院」with Meiling and watch 2 Independant release " Correspondence " & " Neerja " for the afternoon .
The Why : returning from oversea trip , I will make time with Meiling for outside activity . Go to movies is the primary activity w6e do - and often we choose art / indie film as a connection media and share our interpretation / feelings after the movie . Today , I chose one British Love story and one Indian Hero story and we really enjoy both films.
Take Away :
1. The ritual is : buy ticket and choose seats we favor, focus on the screen in the big black box but holding Meiling's hand always . It's a great couple connection .
2. Message from art film give me more inspiration - something I use the line and visual to support my workshop .
3. Crowd in 西門町 always a good place to observe young trend , your heart keep young as well.
4. A good 5 hours time spend with Meiling and she capture window to share what happened at home when I am away.
F & E : between real world and movie world ; connect inside family and outside Taipei city . An out of world relaxation .
DUI#117 : role and responsibility
The Things : as a coach , a bystander , a question raiser and a change monitor , you have a clear role but leaving the responsibility to your coachee ; a consultant : your client expect some solution and hoping for delivery as well - my coaching history with one coachee for 5 years , you see and you know you can't avoid to enter a deep water to rescue - even to blur your coaching role .
The Why : org change and structure revise , industry shift and tend alters , how to distill know how and management expertise and turn it to a new driver for business development , coachee facing enormous challenge , lack of seasoned executive and talent pool , I decided to take a more aggressive role in support coachee , what back me up is my hands on action and previous experience , transforming role to responsibility , I am reconnect with my professional life earlier.
Take Away :
1. Non conflict of interest give you an objective view .
2. Non organization constrain free yourself from many corporate politic .
3. Knowing a person inside out before grand your complementary role pay off more .
4. Sharpen the sew , practice makes perfect .
F & E : value derived from been needed .
DUI#118 panel judge for world music festival Taiwan matching
The Things : invited to lead the judge panel for marching local world music artist to international music festival curators . As pop music is the mainstream we export internationally , to featuring artist with local and world music ingredient become a " culture policy " from government and a new market development for artist from Taiwan. 5 panel judges assembled today to discuss and decide the final 6 candidates to be feature at Oct. world music festival @taiwan .
The Why : it's difficult for judges to identify final 6 as the applicants were not meet the criteria we hope to see , we set 3 major categories to measure each artist / group : 1. The nature of music connect to the genre of World Music 2. Can performing on stage with fun & energy 3. Blending with local / Taiwan flavor . And appearing to curator coming from outside . The talent pool is so poor that we can't really satisfy with our conclusion , I see that pop / world music hey day not only eaten by digital invention , Taiwan also gradually lose its ground as the riches land to developing Mandarin POP.
Take Away :
1. Why making music ? What move you when produce music ? Why high jack by commercial measurement ?
2. Talents Fly can do more and pave the road not to let talents suffer from his musical integrity .
3. Government - Industry shake hands to support / sustain certain industry is a blind spot , especially in the field of art and performing .
F & E : good time & bad time ; follow your bliss
DUI:119 : resonate this morning
The Things : the highlight for the day is our session this morning . A face to face idea exchange / sharing and resonate at the Xing office by the side of Dino . Begin from the collective update check , emotion and feeling analysis and company by company forward looking . The place create a space for our connection and the moment of truth simply surface .
The Why : participant coaching is what I enjoy the most . One thing connect to another , one emotion trigger the other . Your counter partner stimulate you to create the fountain of wisdom and you were surprise to see the potential in you as well . From Dope knowledge to Deep dive , I am so bless to do what I love and gradually master what I did . It reflect to what Joseph Campbell said : " The Privilege of a lifetime is being who we are " . And I recall a song " man in the mirror " sang by Michael Jackson which repeat a line " make a difference and make it right "
Take Away :
1. To give is to get
2. To have but not to hold
3. It takes 2 to know one
F & E : super recharge
DUI#120 long ride to Kaoshung with Meilig
The Things : take the chance Meiling and I drive Sound back to Taichung dormitory , we decide drive a little farther to Kaoshung and stay over at a boutique hotel where I brought Sound in early Aug. this is the first time Meiling drive all the way from Taipei to Kaoshung , we person adult diaper and it works better and relief the anxiety it cause , we visit 4 of the highway recreation stop and check what's inside , the drive become a long drive . We ended up check in hotel by 4:00 pm .
The Why : accompany our kids back to school is the routine our family did , even not talk much in the car , The gesture of " parent taking care of you " is obvious . If not for this opportunity , we won't drive to distant destination also . Meiling is the family driver and I am the navigator ( GPS ) , we talk on our way to KS and enjoy another black box ( car ) conversation on the move . Sound move out from Univesity dormitory and rent a studio as most of the sophomore students . The cubic will be his new living space for at least one year . The boutique hotel is as sweet as before , 24 hours complementary kitchen , detail finishing in rooms . The only mismatch is bad weather - heavy rain , thunder and strong winds ..
Take Away :
1. It's hard to image no sun in KS but heavy rain and thunder lighting.
2. Good intimacy with Meiling and to shed a heavy coaching week in Taipei.
3. Boutique hotel survive by vital fews : open kitchen , nice breakfast , elegant room and external privacy .
4. You don't need words to show how much you love Sound . Action louder .
F & E : relax and mix with weather
DUI#121: Christian & Taoism in one day
The Things : on our way back north , Meiling and I decided to design a driving route we never experience before . Use google map and setting to " no free way " , we drove along the highway 61 - the west coast highway up . When we meet the intersection : follow highway 61 or go inside the small town we never been , we take the small town trip and to explore scene we didn't see before , it extend our route and we only finish at 嘉義東石 by 17:00 pm . There are 2 stops brings me strong emotion today : 北門：烏腳病紀念館 （ BFD memorial hall ) a clinic convert hall to memorize the doctor 王金河醫生 ， who won the name of " father of black foot disease " . Dr Wang perform volunteering surgery for more than 1300 county fisherman and peasant and saving their life from 1960-1985 with the help of another doctor and 基督教長老教會's unconditional support , Dr. Wang he himself is the baptized Christian and perform love to his county fellows , Meiling and I stood quite sometime at the clinic he use to treat BFD and image the suffering and pain .. Within 10 minutes drive , we visit another Tao Temple at 北門：南鯤鯓代天宮 , when arrived , we were totally shock by the scale of the temple , to more we look around , the more new findings , vendors and garden everywhere and we stopped at a guest house - it's a 4 star hotel to be honest , I enter and ask the price for the couple's suite : 1300 NT per nights and I follow ask should man and woman should separate stay at the temple guest house - this reply is this is not a restriction -- you see a Gigantic temple doing everything under the name of Tao's God .
The Way : The strong opposition cause me thinking a lot and the trip open my view to how religion change the believe to Taiwanese people .
Take Away :
1. Good thing and nice people should be known , the legacy should be carried on .
2. A strong sense of surviving mode from Taiwanese people make me believe hardship will overcome in the end .
3. Professional doing good and doing well . Unprofessional doing good but not well.
F & E : painful to see early Taiwanese suffer from less educational . Wondering about how Taoism influence people around us.
DUI#122: 嘉義情&西螺小鎭
The Things : continue our no free way home trip from 嘉義；to cure my local street food desire , woke up 6:00 and looking for a top chicken rice in 嘉義，small vendor open from 5:30 to 13:30 , we spend less than 100 NT enjoy the best local food , the trade off is get up early and wait for an ok line . We than move to the second destination - 西螺黃記九層粿；we Arrive by 10:00 am but it sold out already , instead we try another local noodle shop and found it taste so good . Drove our way back and enjoy local street food .
The Why : most of the family utilize summer or winter for a long vacation aboard , Meiling and I take time piece by piece and enjoy many unplanned small vacation in Taiwan , traveling in small town , enjoy local street food and check how the locals live their life always give me sense of happiness : happy to see not a big desire bring huge happiness - for the locals and for us . And to appreciate what we have - to get the picture of what we need and what we want is quite meaningful - on the 3 days 2 nights trip , I also spot Meiling's some worries , to know about someone living with you , you need more time - from quiet moment to the sharing moment .
Take Away :
1. 100 NT happiness is everywhere , as long as you wish , you can find it nearby .
2. See the ordinary people doing ordinary thing , you feel happy.
3. Don't wait , do what you need at the right time : now .
F & E : desire for good food but not luxury food ; seeing the simple beauty is the authentic smile on all walk of life .
DUI#122: day trip Yilan with friend from Australia
The Things : after CFF Taiwan retreat , my friend and facilitator Maryanne wish to come back and bring her husband to see what she experience here , the plan trip begin from Aug. 11 and I save Aug. 22 as the day to show them around Yi Lan.
The Why : without local guide , foreign visitor can't really explore to the beauty and essence of Taiwan , an Austrian friend commit to come back and show the good side of Taiwan , I felt the obligation to show them more : passing snow mountain tunnel , visit Lanyang museum , lunch at Formosa pearl at Yi Lan . Return to Taipei and visit 農禪寺水月道場。light diner at Ding Tai Feng , the day connection strength their believe in Taiwan is the heart of asia and not only the slogan .
Take Away :
1. As a local tour guide , manage to introduce what I love in English and prepare it in advance .
2. To stay longer time inside Lanyang museum than before , to appreciate the foreigner's viewpoint and get the points of what cause their interest .
3. To build the friends network and to connect right people in the right place .
4. Local Friends make my arrangement more profound .
F & E : exchanges viewpoint and exchange experience .
DUI#124: coach for life
The Things : a deep yet unexpected coaching session occurred , I am deeply resonate with what coachee shares and much appreciate the long term coach - friendship make the coach process a meaningful life experience to both of us .
The Why : when coachee open the mouth and told me " now it's time for life coaching " I open my heart and follow empathy listening skill to follow the pace . Nothing to do with business , it's all about family and personal and that's the root to every business decision - I listen and didn't interrupt , emotion and feeling occupy the whole session , I learn a great deal from the open and trust sharing and I promise to support the body and the soul.
Take Away :
1. It's you who decide where to openly share and it's you who define the scope of sharing .
2. Reflective and introspective muscles need to train . The more you develop your mindful awareness sense , the more you are in control .
3. Positive thinking is a psychological implication , you got to believe ...
4. You multiple life by intertwine each other's life .
F & E : heavy , vulnerable , willing to help .
DUI#125: early morning hiking
The Things : a break routine resume - to live close by small hill , the advantage is to get fresh air and do oxygen exercise in the morning , when doing coaching yesterday , my awareness is " doing is louder than talking " I talked much about health , but doing average less exercise than what I should . So this psychological alarm woke me up by 5:30 am , without second though , put on my sports gear and heading up " God's Foot Rock " by myself .
The Why : meditation is a passive exercise , it drive your mind but not body , I need to sweat out and inhale more oxygen to balance my body and soul : and the " Ted Walk " ( listen to TED Talk while climbing mountain ) feed my new ideas every now and then , it's a combination of brain and body training , I break the routine due to many excuse , to take the chance of flying out this afternoon for 3 forum sessions on the road , I need to prepare for a sharper sense . Mountaineering and fresh air serve my purpose this morning .
Take Away :
1. Ted walk talking to me again , happy to learn new things
2. Birds singing to me again , it's a greeting from old friend
3. Trees and the forest scent shower me as before - I am feeling lighten and more spiritual
4. Stretch exercise before temple and overlooking Taipei city : feeling alive .
F & E : I am fully charged and ready to give
DUI#127: power of DU
The Things : introduce DU system to the forum at retreat . The ripple is significant , try it at my personal coaching program and now offer for YPO peers to use them . I've simply coaching to 3 type : self - pair - peer coaching : your own reflections , you holding someone accountable and you take collective wisdom among people share their experiences . To teach the world to a better place - a beautiful dream .
The why : normally forum update people only remembers what happen a few days back , to structure an DU system , you not only can trace back matters significant in life , but the trajectory of emotion draw a small cloud information to have you do a better reflection at forum meeting . In addition , leaders require attribution of self-awareness . DU serve a function to train your reflective & introspective mind.
Take Away :
1. Call to action is an important character forum mate can support each other but rarely conduct .
2. Commitment come from routinely do things and you ultimately turn it to a new habit and mastering it.
3. Coaching is the competence leaders hope to equip but lack the chance to learn .
4. Making Friends with benefit ( 交益）is a new definition the forum inspires me.
F & E : leaning & practicing ; improving and mastering .
DUI#128 : personal learnings
The Things : attending my regional forum meeting at Bangkok , collectively to solve a membership issue and get 3 presentation done in FSFE presentation type .
The Why : FSFE focus on self curiosity and try to explore the 4th Johari window : Unknown . By record my personal learnings , the self reflective message to me is stronger than before .
Take Away : my personal learning today .
1. The meaning of life is to live what's not planned .
2. There's no safety place in the world , only mindfulness in your heart .
3. You can't give anyone what you don't have .
4. My fear is not able to Fear.
5. Do business with friends , we do it more detail than normal people .
6. 5 years of coaching is a happiness and luxury life to me . It's about time to take more challenges
7. Commit to the role , and the job and the function as well .
8. Good thing don't come easy ; easy things don't come good.
9. I always take risk with my good friend .
10. It's not about your weight , but how you carry your weight .
11. Music make me shining .
12. Not to run a business just for pay your salary .
F & E : charged and resonate
DUI#129: over eating at every forum meeting
The things : forum is holiday to many YPOer as they enjoy sharing ; idea exchange and other high values activity attache : gourmet eating consider a high value activity among forums . To appreciate food in varies cuisine become a routine as well.
The Why : as facilitator and a member to 3 different forums , the non stop holiday turn to a nightmare as I consume more than I need each time , and I am taking more forum meetings than average forum mate . How to control my eating and not to against people's food gesture , try to sample good food but not to suffer my health are always a struggle to me.
Take Away :
1. Knowing and doing is a huge gap , when people response with " l know " . clearly most of the time the person didn't do whatever he knows.
2. Take away my weight rely on high discipline and control will , it's a tag of war between 2 rivals ( need vs want )
3. How come there are so many good food and restaurant in the world ?
F & E : guilty , regret and hate myself .
DUI#130: Red Eyes Flight
The Things : in order to catch up a following forum retreat , I take the red eye from Bangkok to Seoul , the plane take off by 11:30 pm and arrive Seoul by 6:45 am . I seldom took red eye and don't know if I am sleep on this trip .
The Why : back to back forum to most of my forums is convenience but not necessary to me . Save the day don't mean to reserve the energy , maybe I was too exhausted for the previous 2 forums , so I slept straight ahead , skip 2 meals and woke up just before landing . 仁川機場 is long way to Seoul , spend 100.000 Korean Yung for taxi to hotel , buy myself another half day room for make up sleep .. It end up save no money but only present yourself onsite physically . And the forum decided to go sight seeing the first day ... Not a productive decision .
Take Away :
1. If you claim your red eye and punch on time too loud , it will sound like complain .
2. Lead time create space for any unpredictable things.
3. To a new city , forum mate begin to explore the city by his own interest and you observe and see a different forum mate.
4. Seoul is so international but every mall looks the same in major metro city - the SOP is everywhere now in the globe .
5. It wasn't a nice thing to buy your sober for extra cups of coffee .
F & E : floating ; wandering ; dizzy and sleepy .
DUI#131 : Seoul forum day
The Things : non stop the consecutive 3rd forum on the road , different people , different place and different language - in Seoul , we try the first time to do it in an open cafe - presumed that no one around us understand what we are talking about and no one in the forum will distract by the open environment . This setting also told everyone there won't be any room for vulnerability.
The Why : if day chair don't have a clue how to set a safe place , than the safe space won't come. As I am on the road and to experience 3 forums at the same pace , it's only me who can tell the difference . The Seoul forum meeting went smooth , maybe the place is too comfortable so the heart and brain come down slow , it's hard to balance meeting / learning and social and you need to reset the priority on site .
Take Away:
1. Someone should take a lead in any peer group is you won't things to move forward .
2. Concentration span of human being is shorter then you think .
3. In a flesh : a Buddha terms = 0.018 second .
4. You don't compete among forum and don't compare who's better and who's not .
F & E : easy and relax
DUI#132: Thanks to DU
The things : a very late night tele coaching yesterday and month window in person coaching this morning with 2 coachee , thanks to DU , I can swiftly cut in the right moment and deliver . By analyze emotion for a longer period and the category of my coachee invest time on , the intimacy built right away and it seems we connect always .
The Way : the China coachee is a nature born Entreprenuer , she don't even ask for " in person session " as to her , there is no point to see each other face to face as long as the tele-coaching can serve what she need and DU give her a good reflective learnings . The Taiwan coachee who been assign aboard for one month , with the DU , I immediately sense his lost the momentum of working and lack the passion to commit future development .
Take Away : derive from session with 2nd coachee :
1. We don't create work , create value
2. We align personal & peofessional value and take it as a transferable competency.
3. You identify 2 area to demostrate value : cross ( function / BU / factory / area ) for problem solve ; new ( area / biz / trends / service ) for future opportunity .
4. Combine solid and blur goals complete your vision .
5. Not in decision making group : you felt lonely and left over .
6. Caring is a basic leadership skill , no matter how high position you are - you give and receive caring .
F & E : multiple life changing experience enrich multiple life . Caring is action .
Roger
DUI JULY R
DUI#61 : Father's tumor examine result day
The Things : father develop neck tumor ( 腮線腫瘤）text result comes out by moon and remove of tumor surgery take place on coming Sat.
The Why : at age of 94 , surgery won't be a primary thought is the tumor is cancer , luckily doctor told my wife it seems to be 良性 ， but the final result will come after surgery on Sat. I didn't sleep well yesterday and talk a lot with Meiling on bed last night , concern grows until early morning .
Take Away :
1. Everyone have to face his journey alone , others only accompany and show their caring .
2. Senior and elder coming back for help from the junior , Meiling become the pillar in the family who really take action to care .
3. Mother don't spend too much time on father's tumor development and lay all the burden to my wife - it only generate more bias to mother & son relationship .
F & E : don't think too much on things you can't really change . Look at the bright side and learn how to be alone .
DUI#62 : mother and son
The Things : Sounds home late last night and begin his summer vacation .
The Why : when his mother inform grandpa situation , he told his mom that he will stay at the hospital with her and be the care takers , the immediate response warm both our heart . And I hadn't see Sound for 3 weeks , it good to have a grown up back home.
Take Away :
1. Parent is not asking for action but warming .
2. Generation gap is not only age , value , believe ; it's the feelings you hardly can measure.
3. Open sharing among family member can be a lesson everyone need to learn .
4. Home is a safe place only when caring float naturally .
F & E : gratitude ; model works better than words.
DUI#63
The day of inspiration
The Things : when receiving Steve's letter in regard to your " paradigm shift " video and taking up my morning swimming at Regent met up a few prior corporate forum trained executive at Regent and took the picture off the wall with the beautiful wordings -- it built a day of inspiration .
The Why :
1. Brotherhood and how it transform my life - so vivid for the past year .
2. The smile on Regent executives' face told me how happy we see each other .
3. Having been taking swimming routine for years . When resonate with " make the change happen " I decide to go after it.
4. The wording on the wall - louder than bible ..
Take Away :
1. If you take care of yourself , things will taken care themselves .
2. You observe with your eyes and wild open heart . Any pause can be a moment of truth .
3. The beautiful feed back is : I am with you & the authentic smile .
F & E : be inspired ! Think clear and live the moment .
DUI#64:Ku I
The Things : meet michael & Bruno for their goals - " make the work: chaos - users guidebook " due to a short virtual intro by a good friend.
The Why : they wish to make their work works for Taiwan but don't have a clue how to make it happen , as a good friend introduced. I am happy to assist as much as I can.
Take Away :
1. No expectation for return favor make the conversation go smooth
2. No commercial measurement Drive more creativity juice .
3. Think more on others benefit bring you to a healthy loop.
4. There can be no stranger in the world
F & E : no commercial attach brighter my thoughts.
DUI# 65
The Things : inside hospital ward and conversation with father
The why : after a anesthetist evaluation. the risk for my father's surgery is higher than we willing to take , I made the decision cancel the schedule surgery and check out hospital ward , father looks relief and family take it as a decent health check .
Take Away:
1. In the ward , father hold me hand and I hold my son's hands . Father said he feel sorry for having me be the person supporting entire family for 3 decades.
2. Meiling ask me listen carefully for the words father mentioned to me , it will be the last words and should be carried out .
3. No surgery decision leave the tumor it's mature form . It's a risk still to my father but we won't take it an urgent issue now .
4. Hospital evaluation process leave the final decision to family - no professional can over rule family .
F & E : relax and exhausted
DUI#66
The Things : attending 27th golden melody award ceremony event ( 金曲獎頒獎典禮）sit for the entire event for 5 hours .
The Why : as a veteran to music industry, it's an annual old friend gathering , new minister of culture affairs sit 2 seats from me - I know she want to see me at the ceremony .
Take Away :
1. Once you develop the love of any art form , there's no such thing as retire or exit . You either in the management side or at the cross road be a better appreciator.
2. See new talent perform at the ceremony and witness how artist strive to deliver their passion in a difficult time getting me emotional.
3. Minister of Culture share her young rock influence is : Tom Wait and Patti Smith , coincidentally I almost finish reading Patti Smith's semi biography : " Just Kids " - it's a great book took her 20 years to write .
F & E : nostalgia about good old days of music biz ; connected with old friend .
DUI # 67 : sustainable vs mile stones
The Things : talents fly sustainable lunch brainstorming
The Why : to answer donors' question , we had a lunch session and I bring a few brains for answering 2 questions: how the org. Can sustain and how the talents we identify can be further developing ?
Take Aways :
1. First we must equip a good brain before any storming .
2. We need go have meaning and purpose before. H sustainable - sustainable is a milestone yet the goals for bNPO
3. Have a 3rd party view bail your out of the " I am trapped here " bdelima .
4. How talents big a profit and sustain is exactly the way we should put ourself in.
5. Even a NPO revise his business model is essential
Feelings : saved from a muddy land , bringing music back to music .
DUI#68
The Things : when philosophy surface and turn to be the root for understanding everything .
The Why: met Michel - a French consultant/coach locate in Taiwan the second time with his associate JOYCE in regard to make Bruno - his longtime friend's " chose - users guide " a new wave of thinking for corporate and mankind.
Take Away :
1. American Academic scholar is much more popular thansfrom Europe . So the thinking trend in Taiwan ( from publication to media attention ) mainly adapt from America .
2. Manufacture mindset of Taiwan businessmen follow the manufacture principle. When there's no feasible market , their thinking is drop it yet to create a market yet to explore . European consultant can't understand why.
3. If you are flexible to new things , it's easier to make new friends . I was explore to meet 3 young man who take " Trust " a capital in sharing economy and built " Trust Cafe' " a few months ago as connector to new star ups.
F & E : open and let it in ; let go before let in .
DUI#69: peer / professor sharing lunch
The Things : a no agenda lunch at Angelo's - my EMBA professor Chuang and his spouse Professor Chu , speech guest who we engaged 2 weeks ago Ben Chu - Ben invited us to a soon to be closed great restaurant for lunch and sharing .
The Why : Ben interested in sharing his live & death experience overcome cancer and deliver his financial expertise with life transforming experience to mass audience , he want to know how NTU can accept and welcome his intention .
Take Away :
1. Learning gold - real gold not paper gold is the only thing can protect from any financial crisis or crack down of government - history told .
2. Leaning to run a top notch restaurant win your reputation yet sustainability.
3. Learning when your professor listens , you us F something they curious about .
4. Learning I am a native born coach and connector .
F & E : empty yourb self and you absorb more ; meaningful conversation is your spiritual food. B
DUI#70: father & son
The things : take the chance of trial at AMBA Sungsong hotel and wood roast BBQ restaurant Que , I bring along Sound with me.
The Why : Sound is on his summer vacation and I am invite to join the test group for Hubert's soon be open hotel and restaurant at 松山，I bring Sound for a test meal and overnight at the new hotel together.
Take Away :
1. Experience the pre open of new hotel and be able to provide feedback as a consultant / guest .
2. Spend decent time with Sound and we eat / talk , play cards in the room together . It grows intimacy .
3. Out of home in downtown , I spared time to read the book Mrs Cheng ( Hung foundation ) gave me yesterday , a better picture about the family legacy now .y
F & E : quality time with your love one beat everything .
DUI#71: Sony Day
The Things : lunch with Sony Taiwan Chairman Otsuki-san
The Why: via a Facebook connection , we reconnect after So-net days , he return to Taiwan and take up Chairmanship last year , we hadn't see each other for decade and make the lunch appointment today .
Take Away :
1. From the eyes of previous colleague , I know I am a happy person than before .
2. From a Japanese executive viewpoint , I realized coach is a meaningful role in people's life .
3. Reconnect and share the Sony days , I see the fall and rise of a Giant brand .
4. Doer and Thinker complete a team , perfect vs brave brings different mindset to people .
F & E : it takes 2 to know one ; 見苦知福。
DUI#72 the weather
The things : hot in the morning ; humid at noon and pouring shower rain in the early afternoon .
The Why : change of weather in a day invite you to think in different mode , you sometimes feel impatience , sometimes feel uncomfortable , something you just can't calm down , you end up doing less things than you plans - weather become an adjustment tool move you up and down in a day.
Take Away :
1. Reading philosophic book at changing weather is like drawing a mind map .
2. Sitting at floor or coach , you can't find a posture support you to be stable for an hour .
3. You finally stop doing thing on hand and listing to rain and watching it fall in the garden , and you know it's been a while you don't really listing to the rain.
4. Take the mood as a thing , you feel more than think .
5. How many days in our life we can doing nothing but showing by the nature ?
F & E : spiritual & emptiness .
DUI#73 : city tour with Sound
The Things : it's a father and son routine , each year , we will identify a city in Taiwan , a hotel in that particular city we interested and stayed over night then explore the city together .
The Why : Since primary school , sound living in dormitory , it's hard for me to connect with him , so when he entering high school , we will find time in summer to spend days together - just Sound and me and this year , his freshmen Year in university, we choose Kaohsiung and stays at a new bouquet hotel : STARHAUS . Taking the HSR down to 左營 、 we visit 駁二藝術特區；台鋁生活廣場 and play our Poker routine in the hotel .
Take away :
1. Witness the new aspect of KS , especially on his creatively development.
2. Walking and talking to sound , I realized that I miss the promise of " going to every James Bones movie together " and he really cares .
3. Offers my child a pressure free moment and see a growing body is a true happiness .
4. Taking Time and making time for a Meilijg to stay at home - another retreat moment for her .
F & E : too relax to remember discipline. Let go all the let go.
DUI#74 : Bob Weir : The Long Strange Trip
The Things : watching this rock documentary film on Netflix- understand the other important icon at hippie days .
The Why : sign up Netflix manning for their house productions , especially documentary , Bob is the youngest joint Grateful Dead and touring since 17 years old , his story reflect the age of Beat Generation & Hippie : Acid Test Days .
Take Away :
1. Bob is so honest before the camera , as he respect to his music.
2. Unsocial doesn't means anti social , as long as you do not hurt anyone else , you choose how you see and live the world .
3. Touring / living / working together is your foster family , any lost of good band member is a lost of family .
4. Experiments take courage and take chance at the same time .
F & E : good times and old memories, it's a nature or nurture selection ?
DUI#75: Sound make up his mind
The Things : returning Taipei after 2 nights Kaohsiung city tour , Sound decide to find him a summer part time job as a Chinese restaurant waiter .
The Why : freshmen year University summer vacation, sound's mother urge him to find a summer part time job , to support his tuition next year and learn the basic social living outside , from reluctant to proactive , sound will begin his part time from tomorrow .
Take Away :
1. 12 hours per day and take one day off per week for a 19 years old wasn't easy , his determination blow my mind .
2. I recall my freshman year , I also work part time in factory and living in the labor's dormitory for 2 months in Taichung. It connect me and sound .
3. His mother murmuring everyday and a boy like sound could take it and change his mindset - it's a mutual manner I can learn from .
F & E : proud of him and feel a little bit pity on his long working hours
DUI#76: about forming a family
The Things : a coachee talk about his goal in bhguilding his family and we had a dialogue
The Why : married and have a family can be separate issue , divorce and not living a happy marriage can be separate issue also .
Take away :
1. Healthier life and longevity toady give people new aspect on marriage : you live 3 times married cycles life than the married couple 40 years ago . Much to learn and to understand then any marriage book taught .
2. Just want a companion , having off springs or build a full functions family experience varies our goal in pursuing family life .
3. Happy divorce or to encounter with generation deep new marriage is another lesson to explore .
4. You compare and feel mission from the whole picture of so call " family : weekend with kid ; couple as soul mate ; pursuing goals for building a better family " , been alone is always a serious issue .
F & E : vow have nothing to be with social ; religious; mental or biological driver .. You Just honor it .
DUI#77 brief visit to father's old house at 石碇
The Things : before typhoon NEPARTAK hit the island , Meiling and I decided to check the old house no one live now .
The Why : father's no at home is a normal scene to me , when he retired at 50 , he live in suburbs and rarely stayed with us , 石碇 is his first hideaway which I recalled , as a gift , father give it to my sister 10 years ago and Meiling and I didn't visit the stone house since .
Take Away :
1. Hide inside the mountain of 石碇， father live a Herman's life , writing Chines Poems and become a farmer , I never connect his life .
2. Saw that stone house , the tree is much taller than human , a flesh idea : even my father no longer in this world , the tree he plant mark his spirit with us. And I felt the tree connect us deeply .
3. Nobody walking in 深坑老街 under typhoon weather, we talk to a banquet chef and learn the story of 深坑 and why Tofu become a signature dish there . All walk of life do have there wisdom and story to tell as long as you show your wiliness to learn.
F & E : nostalgia is a human DNA . and it infect from generation to generation .
DUI#78 bad news day
The things : typhoon keep me in the house and watching sad news one by one : Tai Rail explosion ; Dallas police kill the black and sniper ambush police at the peace demonstration .
The Why : weather is the vibrator to mood ; and news is the catalyst further impact my mind , I am thinking : what is the word / symptom that have the power over us that even it doens't happen yet ? When saw the sad news about train explosion and the FB live streaming on the cop kill the black and following CNN broadcasting the peace demonstration turn to a tragedy .
Take Away :
1. If technology aide is not so comprehensive and convenience , what's the outcome will be in term of these 2 events .
2. In the world of turbulence , reaching out is not a smart move , but how to stand as a human ?
3. Personal media can turn the world upside down , you are media , be more prudent in every move .
4. Looking the damage of typhoon from TV , feel blessed not be impact in great Taipei .
F & F : heavy and sad .. Long way to go for mankind .
DUI#79 movie day : Umrika
The Things : weekend movie routine with wife , today we pick an independent film " Umrika " (歡迎來美國）- Sun Dance Festival selection movie .
The Why : going to art film or non - English speaking movie is a routine I did with Meiling for many years , today , we went for an India story : Umrika ( America )
Take Away :
1. Good story and director make this little piece a touching and inspiring journey .
2. We hiding things for the sake of good intention and may end up with unexpected direction .
3. Everyone have his American Dream and we pursue until the dream come true .
4. Movie is like book flavor with visual & sound to me , it enrich my life and give me more thought about my life .
5. Going to movie with wife is a good intimacy lapse to me , in the dark box and connect via the screen .
F & E : another good day .
DUI#80 : a temple up on nowhere land call " 天佛禪寺"
The Things : after Meilijg and I pay a short visit to 坪林， on our way back to Taipei , we drove the wrong direction and find the direction sign to this temple which we never heard before , we follow the road sign and up to nowhere in the mountain of 坪林， a very decent and detail Zen monastery appear in front of us , no visitor and we were surprise to find a good hideaway no matter you are a Buddhism or not .
The Why : I found out this zen monastery was established 10 more years ago , according to temple volunteer , the master monk who can tell your 3 life's ( pre - now and post ) and we see many offering craft at the throne mark high price for follower to buy ( the term is 結緣）with a donation camouflage .
Take Away :
1. I believe our soul can inherent from previous iLife and pass on next life , but I don't believe those who can tell our pre / post life hold the rights to share it .
2. The detail stone and wooden sculptures are art piece to me , such a modern Buddha museum locate at a nowhere land is a hidden treasure.
3. Still blur in God and the agent ( human ) dilemma , and reflect to Jerusalem how the city become the holly place for Jewish ; Christian and Muslim and also the war target to the religious extremist .
F & E : peace of mind .
DUI#81: Hero's Journey workshop preparation day
The Things : YPO sea dragon cheaper event ask me to conduct stir fly forum on July 22 at Penang , I am rewriting a Mandarin base journey for the workshop .
The Why : I have been occupied in mind how to polish it to Asian or Mandarin Speaking YPOer , and lead the workshop to be more theatrical / inner search & explorative to our members , this is the 3rd time for conduct hero's journey .
Take Away :
1. When prepare and revise each slide , I will put myself in the role play - either do the exercise myself or act in the role and check where the flow stuck . The dimension of slide give me a picture to see the movement in my mind .
2. Within one forum or stir fly forum giving me thoughts about how I willing to see the openness in the workshop - it all related to the confidentially governance .
3. It's like writing a script , you create the role / the scene and you design the high and low in the process - you can't wait to see how these design come to reality .
F & E : passionate and concentration
DUI#82 connector and connection
The Things : I connect 4 groups at one cafe for explore possibility in between .
The Why : in order to get French author's book find it's home in Mandarin speaking territory and explore one potential speaker for Work Face , I gathering 3 group at " Trust Cafe " - a cafe branding himself a place for " trust economy " - I connect likeminded strangers for a lunch and the spark take place itself .
Take Away:
1. As connector , you ripple and you bridge , you initiative possibility yet deliver solution.
2. You clearly difference Expectation and Hope : expectation is you aim for something to happen and hope is you welcome anything happens . At certain point , you expect nothing and with hope.
3. Seeing Stranger connect and share likeminded thoughts is like the sliver lining to human nature .
4. Witness how " residual value " can be utilized in better way.
F & E : learning to be a better connector , connect good soul with good souls .
DUI#83 : lock-in day in K Study Cubicle ( K書中心）
The Things : preparing Sea Dragon Chapter " Hero's Journey Workshop " , lock myself in the student days K 書中心。
The Why : need a close environment to concentrate on developing workbook and exercises , I decided to check in 南陽街 K書中心， book a private cubicle and lock for 8 hours . It's a 大學重考 experience come back again .
Take Away :
1. Create an environment where you can focus really help me get rid of office / cafe disruption .
2. Time fly when concentrate on writing your script - developing layer by layer experience build my excitement .
3. Produce 80% of the content . It gives me more confidence before delivery .
4. Craftsmanship is a competing with yourself process , how to better off last experience always a challenge to me.
F & E : concentration produce high quality of work ; preparation is never enough
DUI#84: megastore experience
The Things : accompany wife to Carrefour - the megastore
The Why : having not visit Carrefour for years , asked to be the porter late afternoon and to experience the evolution of megastore development , particular in the Outlet hub and change of the food arcade - retiring low cost restaurant and replace with middle to high end local or international chains.
Take Away :
1. Some shop in shop operations is very limited , utilization of the space is so cost effective .
2. The variety of grocery category offers much to much for choice - competition is clear to see.
3. Market is mild to low : megastore suppose to be packed always . But the Shindian branch we visit is not in good traffic .
4. Accompanied wife to shop but not shopping is different : woman's strolling pace and focus differ from man.
F & E : changes and adaption .
DUI#85 choir - the lost nature sound
The Things : Friend from Singapore , ask me introduce classical music / performance promoter for 3 European Choirs he manages and his family foundation sponsors .
The Why : choir or 合唱團 is an almost forgotten musical nature in Taiwan , less and less people sing in the choirs , lack of high quality choirs touring to Taipei ask difficult to attract audience , but my friend spend personal and family resource try to bring the choir music Renaissance to Asia and put Taiwan on his touring map. I introduce 牛耳藝術 founder to him and we had a wonderful time together .
Take Away :
1. A child's passion turn to a mission and the mission concrete becoming a life achieving goal - I see the beauty of transformation .
2. Passion meet the commercial achievement in the cross road - it's a dynamic balance - it tell me how not to judge every activity in its dollar value .
3. Only the high bbbb networking lifting and brighten opportunity .
F & E : the prerequisite of doing good is doing well and free yourself from financial burden .
DUI#86 what the routine taught me
The Things : mountaineering with wife early in the morning
The Why : Meiling will perform 運動心電圖 next Wed. She afraid her physical condition won't support the 10 minutes treadmill , I ask her to join me morning hiking daily . And we kick off on Sat morning and follow with my other routine : local breakfast at one 豆漿店。
Take away :
1. Morning hiking you met with early people , people greet with smile and hello at the trails all the way , you receive positive energy no only from the exercise but the people you meet .
2. You spend quality time with your spouse and you can easily deal with all kind of subject - it's random and stress free - it increase intimacy between couples .
3. The soy-milk breakfast shop establish 40 years ago , it accompany me from high school days , the second generation is about my age , some qualify of food and same authentic smile as usual . I see him and receive good vibe .
4. Shower after sweat is a god giving joy - you have to conquer something then the fruit will taste sweeter .
F & E : small things in our mind can be teacher to me .
DUI#87 market your brand in an innovate way
The Things : intro a global hi end brand owner and his global head to meet a Taiwan base marketing company who I thought can ignite sparks.
The why : hi end product attract music lover and trap in hiring top artist for product endorsement and brand image , the huge investment is an bias investment , artist harvest more than any product or brand , how to bring a breakthrough and create win win , I think about my friend company who dive in big data decade ago and branding 金曲獎 to an international awareness today , so I bridge them to meet on Sunday without any agenda .
Take Away :
1. The German CEO is so impressed about the unexpected session and excited about a solution vivid to him .
2. My friend is proud to have a resourceful like who who can shining a Taiwanese marketing firm to a potential global collaboration.
3. My believe of " success with me " philosophy triumph any business purpose and serve me happiness always .
4. A good Sunday afternoon after shower .
F & E : inclusive is stronger than leverage .
DUI#88 Family Day
The Things : after 2 weeks of part time job , sound had his day off on y and ask for a short trip , I move my coaching session and we go to 擎天崗 together .
The Why : Sound choose his summer part time working in goose noodle shop , a very local restaurant where he was treated as an low end entrant and after crying the first night , he become strong and wish to fulfill a 30 days commitment , . Meiling and I wish to spend more time with him and we decide the picture scene of yang ming mountain .
Take Away :
1. Get my boy to talk about his learning at a swear restaurant and fit in with people from varies background . I learn how he learned.
2. A causal day with Sound and his mother , not answering phone and not check email - nothing really urgent .
3. 擎天崗 and 竹子湖 are the garden for Taipei citizen , when see the cows chewing the weed without put on cattle-shed , I felt free as well.
4. Lunch at 竹子湖 wasn't tasty , our sharing is we are here to enjoy scenery rather than good food , we can't always get what we want .
F & E : home is where your family are - we mobile for a day and we move our home with us.
DUI# 89 our session in the morning
The Things : monthly session with Royce
The Why : The 3rd month on the coaching journey , format and understanding become solid . Enjoy the participant coaching flow and to mutually gain unexpected result.
Take away :
1. Good session begin with good vibe in good space .
2. One on one offers more space to grow .
3. 270 degrees review better off 180 degree dialogue
4. Bringing back my professional expertise when work as hire gun .
5. Eye open exploring Xing and car future .
F & E : warm and learn .
DUI#90: doctor Appointment
The things : periodical appointment with my cardiology Doctor schedule today . A quarterly review aka prescription since 2007.
The Why : after place stent , you have to take the medication throughout entire life , Dr. Chen perform my surgery and now we are friends after all these years . Every time I book him for VIP clinic at my convenient schedule and he secure time with me always . Dr. Chen is a quite yet warm person and we share things beyond a doctor - patient relationship each time . Toady we spend time on the effect and consequences for FDA hand free supplement market in the States - it's pros and cons to Human health .
Take Away :
1. When a profession lower his expertise guard and equally treated each other , the flow of communication is much happier .
2. You lead profession to his personal area , he will take you as a person not a patient .
3. When Share the common interest : our Heath , the level of concern is similar and you are in peer group .
4. 9 years on prescription is a discipline to take , you take care of yourself before any doctor .
F & E : relax and relief .
DUI# 91: on the trip , in the lounge
The Things : transit lounge take up many times from my life , as I traveling alone for most of my journey , transit lounge is sore of a companion space to me - on this trip , I stayed at the rare visit Cathay Pacific lounge in Taipei and HK.
The Why : utilize my fragmented time is a MUST to me , since I often take the stage after landing or the following morning , I treasure the quite moment ( normally will be hours ) to rehearse / revise and constructed my " opening " for workshop . A lounge will fine facility and chill space give me more energy to produce the juice I need before any Stage Time.
Take Away :
1. Taoyuang Cathy lounge offers Taiwan & HK delicacy- renovate deco fit what HK character provide : neat . Simply . Elegant .
2. Home base lounge in HK is not at craze as emirate airline in Dubai , but the presentation of food and beverage amaze me.
3. I revise and revisit slides for tomorrow and knows the pace I am going to lead : Why - What - How and Ah-Ha ...
E & F : peace and curiosity.
DUI#92 Hero's Journey at Penang
The Things : forum stir fry and developing with " hero's journey " for YPO Sea Dragon chapter
The Why : to explore the 4th windows of Johari window - the myth of unknown window perfectly cope with Josephe Campbell's " heroes with southend faces " I integrate Forum's protocols into Hero's Journey exercise and facilitate 3 stir fry forum at the same time.
Take Away :
1. It's a structure of process trigger people to finding themselves , as long as you create a safe space , peers will reach to his high at their best .
2. Vulnerability and emotion floats and people connect in deep mode , the power of right brain is beyond our expectations.
3. It can't be done in one day . With the anticipation of participants today . Part 2 " The journey continues " will take place between Sep.- Nov.
4. To support peer establish mutual trust is my calling , I am bless to do what I love .
5. My self rating is 9 out of 10 , and I am thinking to roll out the program .
F & E : exhausted & exciting .
DUI#93 Penang Retreat Day
The thing : Done my hero's journey
Part 1 , I am taking the morning trip with Sea Dragon Chapter for a " George Town " treasure hunt .
The Why : only in YPO experience is always the highlight for every event chair , customization ; human touch and tailor make make every unique journey an exclusive experience , this time , day chair manager to find an old wall in the UNESCO heritage site and contract an fresco artist paint the wall for every participant in the hero's journey, according to the artist , if weather and house condition unchanged , the wall painting can last for 5 years , it's hard to believe an even will physically leave the ink for such a long time .
Take Away :
1. It always start with " this is impossible " and turn to a reality, determination make it happen .
2. Blending private something inside UNESCO site and hind it so well even making other tourist take it as a new scenery spot is so amazing .
3. To serve is a high form of relationship, can be friends , can be siblings and can be anything .
4. Hero's Journey is still a ripple talk on the way - I am happy .
F & E : you Need a new eye to see new thing .
DUI#94 Coaching on the go
The Things : take early flight back and have to check out hotel by 5:30 pm , peers in the same car and we take chance to go deeper one on one .
The Why : once you connect with someone through the forum training , bounding build and you will initiative a deeper hello wherever the chance arrival , inside the taxi for the 30 minutes ride to Airport , I happily offers my coaching experience for someone in the dark , as we exchange idea and mind , I can sense the support well received .
Take Away:
1. Become the person someone willing to talk to let me feeling good .
2. Offer my experience & expertise to friends in need double my good feeling . I see the sunrise in the dark people's face .
3. Sharing is the key process in solving , offer empathy listening , you done most of the part .
4. The 30 minutes engage strength friendship for years , just like the song " you are always on my mind "
F & E : powerful & meaningful .
DUI#95 Lier & Judge
The Things : an unexpected call from somebody who works in my coachee's firm , it tell me how blinds my coachee is and how it feels so sad about the boss it works for 10 plus years . I am listening without asking it to tell me more , but I told it : don't tell me anything , only share your own feeling , as I am a coach , I was asked to offer experience and to support coachee on making right decision but never the judge to tell my coachee what's wrong and who disclosed it to me - Information feed in the first place influence you no matter you are in the scene or not . If you honest share your feeling and your view in seeing the picture , the rest will be coachee call . Neither did you or I .
The Why : participant in things you are not there only complicate the situation ; be treated as an influencer to someone , always facing the leverage party trying to test you . Been too long to a coachee , you capture the behavior pattern and can only be the companion to your coachee , something you see the ship is falling , you stand still until coachee say : " I SEE THE HOLE "
Take Away:
1. Preventing efforts done before someone trying to influence me - no matter is true or false , it give you a clear thoughts .
2. Learning your role but not your responsibility is critical , mixing people and matter drive you crazy .
3. Don't expect an everlasting relationship - with anyone include your family and yourself .
F & E : test and trial
DUI#96 Michelin or MacDonald ?
The Things : appointment with my professor 李吉仁 for bento lunch at his study room and design curriculum for 光寶集團。
The Why: partner with Prof. Lee for 3 years now and I develop my forum / coaching skill to an exclusive " coaching base leadership " program for large classroom manager / executives , my way of workshop wins many positive feedback and prof . Lee ask me to develop more together with him for coming tier one Corp in Taiwan. Liteon is next project and I will design " values alignment & consensus workshop " & " coaching base leadership " to them, today - we go over the structure of the 11 days program at NTU . After the session , JR Lee ask : what's your future goal ? My instance response is " to build an one and only wellness center in Asia - retreat hideaway for your body and soul " and we share the same mindset : not go for the scale but the mastery of your passions and I told prof. Lee 「米其林三星」is my goal rather than 「 麥當勞連鎖」。
Take Away :
1. JR told me many of his EMBA student is coach themselves but he consider me at partner at the first place because I am in the YPO loop - a real CEO / Chairman club with solid coaching experience --
2. My scaling class up to 40 persons can delivery and gaining positive responses from non YPO executive - a prof of spin off opportunity .
3. Do good is taught than grow big - mastering and focusing will transform good to better .
4. We talk about Tony Robbins and why not build ourselves an Asian version ? And answers is clear : not pursuing fame and fortune .
F & E : coach is in need but not be well explore and position
DUI#97: Charity is not a Gala
The Things : attending the Taisin Bank Foundation " charity cloud kick out 7th ceremony "
The Why : Talents Fly donate my time to moderate "social welfare NGO summit " in May and invite to seat at kick out / off ceremony . All the gala party try to catch the eyes of media and the routine is never a creative event . To kill time at a should be " appreciation time " is kind of waste . As I am wandering at fm ceremony , may ideas flip up and down : how to do good and do right ? What's the break thorough in social change ? How philanthropy can be a fun initiative and activity ? Why people come for this event and killing precious time together ?
Take Away :
1. Inward gratitude and outward communication : pass it forward should be well examined .
2. Business & Charity are flip side : giving back can't be interpreted as taking too much.
3. Create meaning in every minutes : even you are idol and constrain by body - don't let your mind silent .
4. Guest speaker : should know his role and not to hijack the whole event .
5. Sneaking stranger : as a public event , you can't filter outside strangers - and you see interesting occurs surrendering you.
F & E : why I am here ?
DUI#98 : intentionally miss to take a coachee's call
The Things : I've involved in dealing with a difficult scenario in one of my client's responsibility . Today while traveling to Tokyo - I miss his call and decide not to call back .
The Why : as a third party , the end picture is clear to me, but my client reluctant to take an proactive action but procrastinate the process and turn important issue to emergency crisis , as the situation turn to taught , a coach is hard to represent him , he have to face and solve it at all cost . I understand why the call comes and I didn't pick up the phone , I am using the " absence window " as a coaching lesson . See how my client can handle it and treat it as a case to explore on our next session . " change can simply come from doing things you don't want to .. "
Take Away :
1. React - response - reply . It takes 2 to tango , now you are asking to perform solo , can't fool the audience .
2. Issue owner ultimately should be the issue solver - you either claim the credit or take the blame .
3. When time and timing be the judge and you have no way to escape - you will take action .
F & E : silent is gold , curiously kill the cat
DUI#99: Tokyo Coachee identity
The Things : at the meal , we both confirm the coaching relationship . A Japan YPO ( turn YPO Gold now ) engage me as his life coach .
The Why : the chemistry developed from GLC LA and extend to multi forum retreat to Taiwan one and half years ago , I am not sure his intuition can turn to a solid coaching relationship until we meet , both of us were so excited about the journey about to take on - as my first non Chinese coachee and a YPOer from Japan , it means a lot to me and I can't help but share my excitement to Meiling right away .
Take Away :
1. I see the basic human need - non relate to race or religion , it's finding someone trust to share and to have someone walk together .
2. It's an ultimate bless to perform what I love and extend to a blue ocean I never image before .
3. Humble & Appreciation , feeling I have higher purpose in the world and I am answering to the calling now.
4. How to develop an " international coaching curriculum " keep me awake in the night .
F & E : hype ; hope ; exciting ; blessed
DUI#100 : kurizawa Summer jazz festival
The Things : to attend the 5th Kurizawa jazz festival today and memories my passing good friend Itoh-San .
The Why : when seeing the late wife of Itoh 88 - Taeko early this year , I promise her I will come back to support her on the 5th jazz festival . Itoh organize and start it 5 years ago , he passed away one and half year . Taeko-San keep his spirit alive and continue organized this jazz event and invite jazz artists who either respect Itoh or discover / develop and produce by him . It's a trip I realized my promise and reconnect old friend in Sony Music Japan , met artists who I have co-work before .
Take Away :
1. I see the love and commitment a wife to her husband . By doing what Itoh love , Teako-San relive the life she spend with her husband .
2. A trip to bring good friends from Taiwan with me , an no agenda ; no expectation trip , everyone spend great time together - music / food / drink and friendship .
3. Reconnect with artist brings me expertise when in entertainment sector - I am so easy to love and be loved by talents - it's an genuine , no cover love of music and passion to music .
4. Jazz - the free form dialogue among musical instrument get me thinking how to in tune or fine tune relationship among peoples .
F & E :
Life is to live , to live is to enjoy every moment when you can breath still.
Roger
The Things : father develop neck tumor ( 腮線腫瘤）text result comes out by moon and remove of tumor surgery take place on coming Sat.
The Why : at age of 94 , surgery won't be a primary thought is the tumor is cancer , luckily doctor told my wife it seems to be 良性 ， but the final result will come after surgery on Sat. I didn't sleep well yesterday and talk a lot with Meiling on bed last night , concern grows until early morning .
Take Away :
1. Everyone have to face his journey alone , others only accompany and show their caring .
2. Senior and elder coming back for help from the junior , Meiling become the pillar in the family who really take action to care .
3. Mother don't spend too much time on father's tumor development and lay all the burden to my wife - it only generate more bias to mother & son relationship .
F & E : don't think too much on things you can't really change . Look at the bright side and learn how to be alone .
DUI#62 : mother and son
The Things : Sounds home late last night and begin his summer vacation .
The Why : when his mother inform grandpa situation , he told his mom that he will stay at the hospital with her and be the care takers , the immediate response warm both our heart . And I hadn't see Sound for 3 weeks , it good to have a grown up back home.
Take Away :
1. Parent is not asking for action but warming .
2. Generation gap is not only age , value , believe ; it's the feelings you hardly can measure.
3. Open sharing among family member can be a lesson everyone need to learn .
4. Home is a safe place only when caring float naturally .
F & E : gratitude ; model works better than words.
DUI#63
The day of inspiration
The Things : when receiving Steve's letter in regard to your " paradigm shift " video and taking up my morning swimming at Regent met up a few prior corporate forum trained executive at Regent and took the picture off the wall with the beautiful wordings -- it built a day of inspiration .
The Why :
1. Brotherhood and how it transform my life - so vivid for the past year .
2. The smile on Regent executives' face told me how happy we see each other .
3. Having been taking swimming routine for years . When resonate with " make the change happen " I decide to go after it.
4. The wording on the wall - louder than bible ..
Take Away :
1. If you take care of yourself , things will taken care themselves .
2. You observe with your eyes and wild open heart . Any pause can be a moment of truth .
3. The beautiful feed back is : I am with you & the authentic smile .
F & E : be inspired ! Think clear and live the moment .
DUI#64:Ku I
The Things : meet michael & Bruno for their goals - " make the work: chaos - users guidebook " due to a short virtual intro by a good friend.
The Why : they wish to make their work works for Taiwan but don't have a clue how to make it happen , as a good friend introduced. I am happy to assist as much as I can.
Take Away :
1. No expectation for return favor make the conversation go smooth
2. No commercial measurement Drive more creativity juice .
3. Think more on others benefit bring you to a healthy loop.
4. There can be no stranger in the world
F & E : no commercial attach brighter my thoughts.
DUI# 65
The Things : inside hospital ward and conversation with father
The why : after a anesthetist evaluation. the risk for my father's surgery is higher than we willing to take , I made the decision cancel the schedule surgery and check out hospital ward , father looks relief and family take it as a decent health check .
Take Away:
1. In the ward , father hold me hand and I hold my son's hands . Father said he feel sorry for having me be the person supporting entire family for 3 decades.
2. Meiling ask me listen carefully for the words father mentioned to me , it will be the last words and should be carried out .
3. No surgery decision leave the tumor it's mature form . It's a risk still to my father but we won't take it an urgent issue now .
4. Hospital evaluation process leave the final decision to family - no professional can over rule family .
F & E : relax and exhausted
DUI#66
The Things : attending 27th golden melody award ceremony event ( 金曲獎頒獎典禮）sit for the entire event for 5 hours .
The Why : as a veteran to music industry, it's an annual old friend gathering , new minister of culture affairs sit 2 seats from me - I know she want to see me at the ceremony .
Take Away :
1. Once you develop the love of any art form , there's no such thing as retire or exit . You either in the management side or at the cross road be a better appreciator.
2. See new talent perform at the ceremony and witness how artist strive to deliver their passion in a difficult time getting me emotional.
3. Minister of Culture share her young rock influence is : Tom Wait and Patti Smith , coincidentally I almost finish reading Patti Smith's semi biography : " Just Kids " - it's a great book took her 20 years to write .
F & E : nostalgia about good old days of music biz ; connected with old friend .
DUI # 67 : sustainable vs mile stones
The Things : talents fly sustainable lunch brainstorming
The Why : to answer donors' question , we had a lunch session and I bring a few brains for answering 2 questions: how the org. Can sustain and how the talents we identify can be further developing ?
Take Aways :
1. First we must equip a good brain before any storming .
2. We need go have meaning and purpose before. H sustainable - sustainable is a milestone yet the goals for bNPO
3. Have a 3rd party view bail your out of the " I am trapped here " bdelima .
4. How talents big a profit and sustain is exactly the way we should put ourself in.
5. Even a NPO revise his business model is essential
Feelings : saved from a muddy land , bringing music back to music .
DUI#68
The Things : when philosophy surface and turn to be the root for understanding everything .
The Why: met Michel - a French consultant/coach locate in Taiwan the second time with his associate JOYCE in regard to make Bruno - his longtime friend's " chose - users guide " a new wave of thinking for corporate and mankind.
Take Away :
1. American Academic scholar is much more popular thansfrom Europe . So the thinking trend in Taiwan ( from publication to media attention ) mainly adapt from America .
2. Manufacture mindset of Taiwan businessmen follow the manufacture principle. When there's no feasible market , their thinking is drop it yet to create a market yet to explore . European consultant can't understand why.
3. If you are flexible to new things , it's easier to make new friends . I was explore to meet 3 young man who take " Trust " a capital in sharing economy and built " Trust Cafe' " a few months ago as connector to new star ups.
F & E : open and let it in ; let go before let in .
DUI#69: peer / professor sharing lunch
The Things : a no agenda lunch at Angelo's - my EMBA professor Chuang and his spouse Professor Chu , speech guest who we engaged 2 weeks ago Ben Chu - Ben invited us to a soon to be closed great restaurant for lunch and sharing .
The Why : Ben interested in sharing his live & death experience overcome cancer and deliver his financial expertise with life transforming experience to mass audience , he want to know how NTU can accept and welcome his intention .
Take Away :
1. Learning gold - real gold not paper gold is the only thing can protect from any financial crisis or crack down of government - history told .
2. Leaning to run a top notch restaurant win your reputation yet sustainability.
3. Learning when your professor listens , you us F something they curious about .
4. Learning I am a native born coach and connector .
F & E : empty yourb self and you absorb more ; meaningful conversation is your spiritual food. B
DUI#70: father & son
The things : take the chance of trial at AMBA Sungsong hotel and wood roast BBQ restaurant Que , I bring along Sound with me.
The Why : Sound is on his summer vacation and I am invite to join the test group for Hubert's soon be open hotel and restaurant at 松山，I bring Sound for a test meal and overnight at the new hotel together.
Take Away :
1. Experience the pre open of new hotel and be able to provide feedback as a consultant / guest .
2. Spend decent time with Sound and we eat / talk , play cards in the room together . It grows intimacy .
3. Out of home in downtown , I spared time to read the book Mrs Cheng ( Hung foundation ) gave me yesterday , a better picture about the family legacy now .y
F & E : quality time with your love one beat everything .
DUI#71: Sony Day
The Things : lunch with Sony Taiwan Chairman Otsuki-san
The Why: via a Facebook connection , we reconnect after So-net days , he return to Taiwan and take up Chairmanship last year , we hadn't see each other for decade and make the lunch appointment today .
Take Away :
1. From the eyes of previous colleague , I know I am a happy person than before .
2. From a Japanese executive viewpoint , I realized coach is a meaningful role in people's life .
3. Reconnect and share the Sony days , I see the fall and rise of a Giant brand .
4. Doer and Thinker complete a team , perfect vs brave brings different mindset to people .
F & E : it takes 2 to know one ; 見苦知福。
DUI#72 the weather
The things : hot in the morning ; humid at noon and pouring shower rain in the early afternoon .
The Why : change of weather in a day invite you to think in different mode , you sometimes feel impatience , sometimes feel uncomfortable , something you just can't calm down , you end up doing less things than you plans - weather become an adjustment tool move you up and down in a day.
Take Away :
1. Reading philosophic book at changing weather is like drawing a mind map .
2. Sitting at floor or coach , you can't find a posture support you to be stable for an hour .
3. You finally stop doing thing on hand and listing to rain and watching it fall in the garden , and you know it's been a while you don't really listing to the rain.
4. Take the mood as a thing , you feel more than think .
5. How many days in our life we can doing nothing but showing by the nature ?
F & E : spiritual & emptiness .
DUI#73 : city tour with Sound
The Things : it's a father and son routine , each year , we will identify a city in Taiwan , a hotel in that particular city we interested and stayed over night then explore the city together .
The Why : Since primary school , sound living in dormitory , it's hard for me to connect with him , so when he entering high school , we will find time in summer to spend days together - just Sound and me and this year , his freshmen Year in university, we choose Kaohsiung and stays at a new bouquet hotel : STARHAUS . Taking the HSR down to 左營 、 we visit 駁二藝術特區；台鋁生活廣場 and play our Poker routine in the hotel .
Take away :
1. Witness the new aspect of KS , especially on his creatively development.
2. Walking and talking to sound , I realized that I miss the promise of " going to every James Bones movie together " and he really cares .
3. Offers my child a pressure free moment and see a growing body is a true happiness .
4. Taking Time and making time for a Meilijg to stay at home - another retreat moment for her .
F & E : too relax to remember discipline. Let go all the let go.
DUI#74 : Bob Weir : The Long Strange Trip
The Things : watching this rock documentary film on Netflix- understand the other important icon at hippie days .
The Why : sign up Netflix manning for their house productions , especially documentary , Bob is the youngest joint Grateful Dead and touring since 17 years old , his story reflect the age of Beat Generation & Hippie : Acid Test Days .
Take Away :
1. Bob is so honest before the camera , as he respect to his music.
2. Unsocial doesn't means anti social , as long as you do not hurt anyone else , you choose how you see and live the world .
3. Touring / living / working together is your foster family , any lost of good band member is a lost of family .
4. Experiments take courage and take chance at the same time .
F & E : good times and old memories, it's a nature or nurture selection ?
DUI#75: Sound make up his mind
The Things : returning Taipei after 2 nights Kaohsiung city tour , Sound decide to find him a summer part time job as a Chinese restaurant waiter .
The Why : freshmen year University summer vacation, sound's mother urge him to find a summer part time job , to support his tuition next year and learn the basic social living outside , from reluctant to proactive , sound will begin his part time from tomorrow .
Take Away :
1. 12 hours per day and take one day off per week for a 19 years old wasn't easy , his determination blow my mind .
2. I recall my freshman year , I also work part time in factory and living in the labor's dormitory for 2 months in Taichung. It connect me and sound .
3. His mother murmuring everyday and a boy like sound could take it and change his mindset - it's a mutual manner I can learn from .
F & E : proud of him and feel a little bit pity on his long working hours
DUI#76: about forming a family
The Things : a coachee talk about his goal in bhguilding his family and we had a dialogue
The Why : married and have a family can be separate issue , divorce and not living a happy marriage can be separate issue also .
Take away :
1. Healthier life and longevity toady give people new aspect on marriage : you live 3 times married cycles life than the married couple 40 years ago . Much to learn and to understand then any marriage book taught .
2. Just want a companion , having off springs or build a full functions family experience varies our goal in pursuing family life .
3. Happy divorce or to encounter with generation deep new marriage is another lesson to explore .
4. You compare and feel mission from the whole picture of so call " family : weekend with kid ; couple as soul mate ; pursuing goals for building a better family " , been alone is always a serious issue .
F & E : vow have nothing to be with social ; religious; mental or biological driver .. You Just honor it .
DUI#77 brief visit to father's old house at 石碇
The Things : before typhoon NEPARTAK hit the island , Meiling and I decided to check the old house no one live now .
The Why : father's no at home is a normal scene to me , when he retired at 50 , he live in suburbs and rarely stayed with us , 石碇 is his first hideaway which I recalled , as a gift , father give it to my sister 10 years ago and Meiling and I didn't visit the stone house since .
Take Away :
1. Hide inside the mountain of 石碇， father live a Herman's life , writing Chines Poems and become a farmer , I never connect his life .
2. Saw that stone house , the tree is much taller than human , a flesh idea : even my father no longer in this world , the tree he plant mark his spirit with us. And I felt the tree connect us deeply .
3. Nobody walking in 深坑老街 under typhoon weather, we talk to a banquet chef and learn the story of 深坑 and why Tofu become a signature dish there . All walk of life do have there wisdom and story to tell as long as you show your wiliness to learn.
F & E : nostalgia is a human DNA . and it infect from generation to generation .
DUI#78 bad news day
The things : typhoon keep me in the house and watching sad news one by one : Tai Rail explosion ; Dallas police kill the black and sniper ambush police at the peace demonstration .
The Why : weather is the vibrator to mood ; and news is the catalyst further impact my mind , I am thinking : what is the word / symptom that have the power over us that even it doens't happen yet ? When saw the sad news about train explosion and the FB live streaming on the cop kill the black and following CNN broadcasting the peace demonstration turn to a tragedy .
Take Away :
1. If technology aide is not so comprehensive and convenience , what's the outcome will be in term of these 2 events .
2. In the world of turbulence , reaching out is not a smart move , but how to stand as a human ?
3. Personal media can turn the world upside down , you are media , be more prudent in every move .
4. Looking the damage of typhoon from TV , feel blessed not be impact in great Taipei .
F & F : heavy and sad .. Long way to go for mankind .
DUI#79 movie day : Umrika
The Things : weekend movie routine with wife , today we pick an independent film " Umrika " (歡迎來美國）- Sun Dance Festival selection movie .
The Why : going to art film or non - English speaking movie is a routine I did with Meiling for many years , today , we went for an India story : Umrika ( America )
Take Away :
1. Good story and director make this little piece a touching and inspiring journey .
2. We hiding things for the sake of good intention and may end up with unexpected direction .
3. Everyone have his American Dream and we pursue until the dream come true .
4. Movie is like book flavor with visual & sound to me , it enrich my life and give me more thought about my life .
5. Going to movie with wife is a good intimacy lapse to me , in the dark box and connect via the screen .
F & E : another good day .
DUI#80 : a temple up on nowhere land call " 天佛禪寺"
The Things : after Meilijg and I pay a short visit to 坪林， on our way back to Taipei , we drove the wrong direction and find the direction sign to this temple which we never heard before , we follow the road sign and up to nowhere in the mountain of 坪林， a very decent and detail Zen monastery appear in front of us , no visitor and we were surprise to find a good hideaway no matter you are a Buddhism or not .
The Why : I found out this zen monastery was established 10 more years ago , according to temple volunteer , the master monk who can tell your 3 life's ( pre - now and post ) and we see many offering craft at the throne mark high price for follower to buy ( the term is 結緣）with a donation camouflage .
Take Away :
1. I believe our soul can inherent from previous iLife and pass on next life , but I don't believe those who can tell our pre / post life hold the rights to share it .
2. The detail stone and wooden sculptures are art piece to me , such a modern Buddha museum locate at a nowhere land is a hidden treasure.
3. Still blur in God and the agent ( human ) dilemma , and reflect to Jerusalem how the city become the holly place for Jewish ; Christian and Muslim and also the war target to the religious extremist .
F & E : peace of mind .
DUI#81: Hero's Journey workshop preparation day
The Things : YPO sea dragon cheaper event ask me to conduct stir fly forum on July 22 at Penang , I am rewriting a Mandarin base journey for the workshop .
The Why : I have been occupied in mind how to polish it to Asian or Mandarin Speaking YPOer , and lead the workshop to be more theatrical / inner search & explorative to our members , this is the 3rd time for conduct hero's journey .
Take Away :
1. When prepare and revise each slide , I will put myself in the role play - either do the exercise myself or act in the role and check where the flow stuck . The dimension of slide give me a picture to see the movement in my mind .
2. Within one forum or stir fly forum giving me thoughts about how I willing to see the openness in the workshop - it all related to the confidentially governance .
3. It's like writing a script , you create the role / the scene and you design the high and low in the process - you can't wait to see how these design come to reality .
F & E : passionate and concentration
DUI#82 connector and connection
The Things : I connect 4 groups at one cafe for explore possibility in between .
The Why : in order to get French author's book find it's home in Mandarin speaking territory and explore one potential speaker for Work Face , I gathering 3 group at " Trust Cafe " - a cafe branding himself a place for " trust economy " - I connect likeminded strangers for a lunch and the spark take place itself .
Take Away:
1. As connector , you ripple and you bridge , you initiative possibility yet deliver solution.
2. You clearly difference Expectation and Hope : expectation is you aim for something to happen and hope is you welcome anything happens . At certain point , you expect nothing and with hope.
3. Seeing Stranger connect and share likeminded thoughts is like the sliver lining to human nature .
4. Witness how " residual value " can be utilized in better way.
F & E : learning to be a better connector , connect good soul with good souls .
DUI#83 : lock-in day in K Study Cubicle ( K書中心）
The Things : preparing Sea Dragon Chapter " Hero's Journey Workshop " , lock myself in the student days K 書中心。
The Why : need a close environment to concentrate on developing workbook and exercises , I decided to check in 南陽街 K書中心， book a private cubicle and lock for 8 hours . It's a 大學重考 experience come back again .
Take Away :
1. Create an environment where you can focus really help me get rid of office / cafe disruption .
2. Time fly when concentrate on writing your script - developing layer by layer experience build my excitement .
3. Produce 80% of the content . It gives me more confidence before delivery .
4. Craftsmanship is a competing with yourself process , how to better off last experience always a challenge to me.
F & E : concentration produce high quality of work ; preparation is never enough
DUI#84: megastore experience
The Things : accompany wife to Carrefour - the megastore
The Why : having not visit Carrefour for years , asked to be the porter late afternoon and to experience the evolution of megastore development , particular in the Outlet hub and change of the food arcade - retiring low cost restaurant and replace with middle to high end local or international chains.
Take Away :
1. Some shop in shop operations is very limited , utilization of the space is so cost effective .
2. The variety of grocery category offers much to much for choice - competition is clear to see.
3. Market is mild to low : megastore suppose to be packed always . But the Shindian branch we visit is not in good traffic .
4. Accompanied wife to shop but not shopping is different : woman's strolling pace and focus differ from man.
F & E : changes and adaption .
DUI#85 choir - the lost nature sound
The Things : Friend from Singapore , ask me introduce classical music / performance promoter for 3 European Choirs he manages and his family foundation sponsors .
The Why : choir or 合唱團 is an almost forgotten musical nature in Taiwan , less and less people sing in the choirs , lack of high quality choirs touring to Taipei ask difficult to attract audience , but my friend spend personal and family resource try to bring the choir music Renaissance to Asia and put Taiwan on his touring map. I introduce 牛耳藝術 founder to him and we had a wonderful time together .
Take Away :
1. A child's passion turn to a mission and the mission concrete becoming a life achieving goal - I see the beauty of transformation .
2. Passion meet the commercial achievement in the cross road - it's a dynamic balance - it tell me how not to judge every activity in its dollar value .
3. Only the high bbbb networking lifting and brighten opportunity .
F & E : the prerequisite of doing good is doing well and free yourself from financial burden .
DUI#86 what the routine taught me
The Things : mountaineering with wife early in the morning
The Why : Meiling will perform 運動心電圖 next Wed. She afraid her physical condition won't support the 10 minutes treadmill , I ask her to join me morning hiking daily . And we kick off on Sat morning and follow with my other routine : local breakfast at one 豆漿店。
Take away :
1. Morning hiking you met with early people , people greet with smile and hello at the trails all the way , you receive positive energy no only from the exercise but the people you meet .
2. You spend quality time with your spouse and you can easily deal with all kind of subject - it's random and stress free - it increase intimacy between couples .
3. The soy-milk breakfast shop establish 40 years ago , it accompany me from high school days , the second generation is about my age , some qualify of food and same authentic smile as usual . I see him and receive good vibe .
4. Shower after sweat is a god giving joy - you have to conquer something then the fruit will taste sweeter .
F & E : small things in our mind can be teacher to me .
DUI#87 market your brand in an innovate way
The Things : intro a global hi end brand owner and his global head to meet a Taiwan base marketing company who I thought can ignite sparks.
The why : hi end product attract music lover and trap in hiring top artist for product endorsement and brand image , the huge investment is an bias investment , artist harvest more than any product or brand , how to bring a breakthrough and create win win , I think about my friend company who dive in big data decade ago and branding 金曲獎 to an international awareness today , so I bridge them to meet on Sunday without any agenda .
Take Away :
1. The German CEO is so impressed about the unexpected session and excited about a solution vivid to him .
2. My friend is proud to have a resourceful like who who can shining a Taiwanese marketing firm to a potential global collaboration.
3. My believe of " success with me " philosophy triumph any business purpose and serve me happiness always .
4. A good Sunday afternoon after shower .
F & E : inclusive is stronger than leverage .
DUI#88 Family Day
The Things : after 2 weeks of part time job , sound had his day off on y and ask for a short trip , I move my coaching session and we go to 擎天崗 together .
The Why : Sound choose his summer part time working in goose noodle shop , a very local restaurant where he was treated as an low end entrant and after crying the first night , he become strong and wish to fulfill a 30 days commitment , . Meiling and I wish to spend more time with him and we decide the picture scene of yang ming mountain .
Take Away :
1. Get my boy to talk about his learning at a swear restaurant and fit in with people from varies background . I learn how he learned.
2. A causal day with Sound and his mother , not answering phone and not check email - nothing really urgent .
3. 擎天崗 and 竹子湖 are the garden for Taipei citizen , when see the cows chewing the weed without put on cattle-shed , I felt free as well.
4. Lunch at 竹子湖 wasn't tasty , our sharing is we are here to enjoy scenery rather than good food , we can't always get what we want .
F & E : home is where your family are - we mobile for a day and we move our home with us.
DUI# 89 our session in the morning
The Things : monthly session with Royce
The Why : The 3rd month on the coaching journey , format and understanding become solid . Enjoy the participant coaching flow and to mutually gain unexpected result.
Take away :
1. Good session begin with good vibe in good space .
2. One on one offers more space to grow .
3. 270 degrees review better off 180 degree dialogue
4. Bringing back my professional expertise when work as hire gun .
5. Eye open exploring Xing and car future .
F & E : warm and learn .
DUI#90: doctor Appointment
The things : periodical appointment with my cardiology Doctor schedule today . A quarterly review aka prescription since 2007.
The Why : after place stent , you have to take the medication throughout entire life , Dr. Chen perform my surgery and now we are friends after all these years . Every time I book him for VIP clinic at my convenient schedule and he secure time with me always . Dr. Chen is a quite yet warm person and we share things beyond a doctor - patient relationship each time . Toady we spend time on the effect and consequences for FDA hand free supplement market in the States - it's pros and cons to Human health .
Take Away :
1. When a profession lower his expertise guard and equally treated each other , the flow of communication is much happier .
2. You lead profession to his personal area , he will take you as a person not a patient .
3. When Share the common interest : our Heath , the level of concern is similar and you are in peer group .
4. 9 years on prescription is a discipline to take , you take care of yourself before any doctor .
F & E : relax and relief .
DUI# 91: on the trip , in the lounge
The Things : transit lounge take up many times from my life , as I traveling alone for most of my journey , transit lounge is sore of a companion space to me - on this trip , I stayed at the rare visit Cathay Pacific lounge in Taipei and HK.
The Why : utilize my fragmented time is a MUST to me , since I often take the stage after landing or the following morning , I treasure the quite moment ( normally will be hours ) to rehearse / revise and constructed my " opening " for workshop . A lounge will fine facility and chill space give me more energy to produce the juice I need before any Stage Time.
Take Away :
1. Taoyuang Cathy lounge offers Taiwan & HK delicacy- renovate deco fit what HK character provide : neat . Simply . Elegant .
2. Home base lounge in HK is not at craze as emirate airline in Dubai , but the presentation of food and beverage amaze me.
3. I revise and revisit slides for tomorrow and knows the pace I am going to lead : Why - What - How and Ah-Ha ...
E & F : peace and curiosity.
DUI#92 Hero's Journey at Penang
The Things : forum stir fry and developing with " hero's journey " for YPO Sea Dragon chapter
The Why : to explore the 4th windows of Johari window - the myth of unknown window perfectly cope with Josephe Campbell's " heroes with southend faces " I integrate Forum's protocols into Hero's Journey exercise and facilitate 3 stir fry forum at the same time.
Take Away :
1. It's a structure of process trigger people to finding themselves , as long as you create a safe space , peers will reach to his high at their best .
2. Vulnerability and emotion floats and people connect in deep mode , the power of right brain is beyond our expectations.
3. It can't be done in one day . With the anticipation of participants today . Part 2 " The journey continues " will take place between Sep.- Nov.
4. To support peer establish mutual trust is my calling , I am bless to do what I love .
5. My self rating is 9 out of 10 , and I am thinking to roll out the program .
F & E : exhausted & exciting .
DUI#93 Penang Retreat Day
The thing : Done my hero's journey
Part 1 , I am taking the morning trip with Sea Dragon Chapter for a " George Town " treasure hunt .
The Why : only in YPO experience is always the highlight for every event chair , customization ; human touch and tailor make make every unique journey an exclusive experience , this time , day chair manager to find an old wall in the UNESCO heritage site and contract an fresco artist paint the wall for every participant in the hero's journey, according to the artist , if weather and house condition unchanged , the wall painting can last for 5 years , it's hard to believe an even will physically leave the ink for such a long time .
Take Away :
1. It always start with " this is impossible " and turn to a reality, determination make it happen .
2. Blending private something inside UNESCO site and hind it so well even making other tourist take it as a new scenery spot is so amazing .
3. To serve is a high form of relationship, can be friends , can be siblings and can be anything .
4. Hero's Journey is still a ripple talk on the way - I am happy .
F & E : you Need a new eye to see new thing .
DUI#94 Coaching on the go
The Things : take early flight back and have to check out hotel by 5:30 pm , peers in the same car and we take chance to go deeper one on one .
The Why : once you connect with someone through the forum training , bounding build and you will initiative a deeper hello wherever the chance arrival , inside the taxi for the 30 minutes ride to Airport , I happily offers my coaching experience for someone in the dark , as we exchange idea and mind , I can sense the support well received .
Take Away:
1. Become the person someone willing to talk to let me feeling good .
2. Offer my experience & expertise to friends in need double my good feeling . I see the sunrise in the dark people's face .
3. Sharing is the key process in solving , offer empathy listening , you done most of the part .
4. The 30 minutes engage strength friendship for years , just like the song " you are always on my mind "
F & E : powerful & meaningful .
DUI#95 Lier & Judge
The Things : an unexpected call from somebody who works in my coachee's firm , it tell me how blinds my coachee is and how it feels so sad about the boss it works for 10 plus years . I am listening without asking it to tell me more , but I told it : don't tell me anything , only share your own feeling , as I am a coach , I was asked to offer experience and to support coachee on making right decision but never the judge to tell my coachee what's wrong and who disclosed it to me - Information feed in the first place influence you no matter you are in the scene or not . If you honest share your feeling and your view in seeing the picture , the rest will be coachee call . Neither did you or I .
The Why : participant in things you are not there only complicate the situation ; be treated as an influencer to someone , always facing the leverage party trying to test you . Been too long to a coachee , you capture the behavior pattern and can only be the companion to your coachee , something you see the ship is falling , you stand still until coachee say : " I SEE THE HOLE "
Take Away:
1. Preventing efforts done before someone trying to influence me - no matter is true or false , it give you a clear thoughts .
2. Learning your role but not your responsibility is critical , mixing people and matter drive you crazy .
3. Don't expect an everlasting relationship - with anyone include your family and yourself .
F & E : test and trial
DUI#96 Michelin or MacDonald ?
The Things : appointment with my professor 李吉仁 for bento lunch at his study room and design curriculum for 光寶集團。
The Why: partner with Prof. Lee for 3 years now and I develop my forum / coaching skill to an exclusive " coaching base leadership " program for large classroom manager / executives , my way of workshop wins many positive feedback and prof . Lee ask me to develop more together with him for coming tier one Corp in Taiwan. Liteon is next project and I will design " values alignment & consensus workshop " & " coaching base leadership " to them, today - we go over the structure of the 11 days program at NTU . After the session , JR Lee ask : what's your future goal ? My instance response is " to build an one and only wellness center in Asia - retreat hideaway for your body and soul " and we share the same mindset : not go for the scale but the mastery of your passions and I told prof. Lee 「米其林三星」is my goal rather than 「 麥當勞連鎖」。
Take Away :
1. JR told me many of his EMBA student is coach themselves but he consider me at partner at the first place because I am in the YPO loop - a real CEO / Chairman club with solid coaching experience --
2. My scaling class up to 40 persons can delivery and gaining positive responses from non YPO executive - a prof of spin off opportunity .
3. Do good is taught than grow big - mastering and focusing will transform good to better .
4. We talk about Tony Robbins and why not build ourselves an Asian version ? And answers is clear : not pursuing fame and fortune .
F & E : coach is in need but not be well explore and position
DUI#97: Charity is not a Gala
The Things : attending the Taisin Bank Foundation " charity cloud kick out 7th ceremony "
The Why : Talents Fly donate my time to moderate "social welfare NGO summit " in May and invite to seat at kick out / off ceremony . All the gala party try to catch the eyes of media and the routine is never a creative event . To kill time at a should be " appreciation time " is kind of waste . As I am wandering at fm ceremony , may ideas flip up and down : how to do good and do right ? What's the break thorough in social change ? How philanthropy can be a fun initiative and activity ? Why people come for this event and killing precious time together ?
Take Away :
1. Inward gratitude and outward communication : pass it forward should be well examined .
2. Business & Charity are flip side : giving back can't be interpreted as taking too much.
3. Create meaning in every minutes : even you are idol and constrain by body - don't let your mind silent .
4. Guest speaker : should know his role and not to hijack the whole event .
5. Sneaking stranger : as a public event , you can't filter outside strangers - and you see interesting occurs surrendering you.
F & E : why I am here ?
DUI#98 : intentionally miss to take a coachee's call
The Things : I've involved in dealing with a difficult scenario in one of my client's responsibility . Today while traveling to Tokyo - I miss his call and decide not to call back .
The Why : as a third party , the end picture is clear to me, but my client reluctant to take an proactive action but procrastinate the process and turn important issue to emergency crisis , as the situation turn to taught , a coach is hard to represent him , he have to face and solve it at all cost . I understand why the call comes and I didn't pick up the phone , I am using the " absence window " as a coaching lesson . See how my client can handle it and treat it as a case to explore on our next session . " change can simply come from doing things you don't want to .. "
Take Away :
1. React - response - reply . It takes 2 to tango , now you are asking to perform solo , can't fool the audience .
2. Issue owner ultimately should be the issue solver - you either claim the credit or take the blame .
3. When time and timing be the judge and you have no way to escape - you will take action .
F & E : silent is gold , curiously kill the cat
DUI#99: Tokyo Coachee identity
The Things : at the meal , we both confirm the coaching relationship . A Japan YPO ( turn YPO Gold now ) engage me as his life coach .
The Why : the chemistry developed from GLC LA and extend to multi forum retreat to Taiwan one and half years ago , I am not sure his intuition can turn to a solid coaching relationship until we meet , both of us were so excited about the journey about to take on - as my first non Chinese coachee and a YPOer from Japan , it means a lot to me and I can't help but share my excitement to Meiling right away .
Take Away :
1. I see the basic human need - non relate to race or religion , it's finding someone trust to share and to have someone walk together .
2. It's an ultimate bless to perform what I love and extend to a blue ocean I never image before .
3. Humble & Appreciation , feeling I have higher purpose in the world and I am answering to the calling now.
4. How to develop an " international coaching curriculum " keep me awake in the night .
F & E : hype ; hope ; exciting ; blessed
DUI#100 : kurizawa Summer jazz festival
The Things : to attend the 5th Kurizawa jazz festival today and memories my passing good friend Itoh-San .
The Why : when seeing the late wife of Itoh 88 - Taeko early this year , I promise her I will come back to support her on the 5th jazz festival . Itoh organize and start it 5 years ago , he passed away one and half year . Taeko-San keep his spirit alive and continue organized this jazz event and invite jazz artists who either respect Itoh or discover / develop and produce by him . It's a trip I realized my promise and reconnect old friend in Sony Music Japan , met artists who I have co-work before .
Take Away :
1. I see the love and commitment a wife to her husband . By doing what Itoh love , Teako-San relive the life she spend with her husband .
2. A trip to bring good friends from Taiwan with me , an no agenda ; no expectation trip , everyone spend great time together - music / food / drink and friendship .
3. Reconnect with artist brings me expertise when in entertainment sector - I am so easy to love and be loved by talents - it's an genuine , no cover love of music and passion to music .
4. Jazz - the free form dialogue among musical instrument get me thinking how to in tune or fine tune relationship among peoples .
F & E :
Life is to live , to live is to enjoy every moment when you can breath still.
Roger
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