It's about sincere communication

Last night , after watch the Korean ghost story movie , I asked Meiling again ( I can't recall how many times before ) will she show only her voice to join my congrats to Steve's Birthday on June 6 - a video greeting message I am planning to do these days .
The reaction from Meiling is out of my imagination, she said " I said no no for so many times but you keep pushing me , if you push me again. I would rather call our marriage an end as the price for making this unpleasant video " - to end our marriage? This is a huge threat beyond my imagination, I ask her to sit on the living coach for a talk - a conversation indeed - my puzzle is Why using such an ultimate letter mindset to make your statement ?
It's not about doing a video or doing things you won't feel comfortable, or to be treated as a callestrial to someone else . No matter how important this person mean to you ? I mean 2 person live together, it's about acceptance and it's about Torrence and it's about sacrifice.. why the statement is so strong ?
I asked her to take her words back and told her to " aware " of the wrong messages deliver and willing to take it back by his / her own initiative is a correction for making it right , no one can promise anyone for not making any communication mistake , but the awareness and willing to correct it is the key to resume no gap relationship . She accept it and give me a deep kiss .
I then told her my feelings been hurt yeses ago by her when the " why not go kill yourselves " wording coming out of her mouth on my career down time and how i took it as a stimulus and chose my response by not react but to get myself out of comfort zone and to adapt the worsted environment. I never use is to trade of "why don't we divorce ? " and never step on the bottoms line to ask her to fight for our family together. I didn't bring all my frustration back home and this is the point I address to Meiling : if i can take it and willing to take it for keeping gratitude to our marriage. I sincerely hope the taboo word won't come out from any of us again .
It's a lesson for keep the good marriage , better relationship and open dialogue with people who's important to your life .
As you care , people will aware .


Roger